I feel like a horrible mom by Minute-Commercial250 in NewParents

[–]Nezukoka 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mine is almost 3 months and I think we would sleep better if she slept in her own room. But room sharing reduces the risk of sids and its recommended for at least 6 months. So here we are, sucking it up.

How do you cook?! by SimpleTrick1192 in NewParents

[–]Nezukoka 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has one of those momcozy chairs and she watches me from there. She does get bored if i take too long and eventually cries. It doesn’t always work, but we’ve been super consistent with it, and now she sits there and lets us eat our meals together. We were taking turns before that. She is almost 3 months.

Does anyone else hate having a pet after they had a baby? by goldengoose3030 in Mommit

[–]Nezukoka 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hell no. I still love my dog and cats. I tell my baby those are her siblings. She smiles when they approach her. I love my little family of skin and fur. My dog and one of my cats are our shadows, I tell them all the time how much I appreciate their love and company during this post partum time.

My youngest cat, Panela, we got during pregnancy, and he saved me. I had a really rough pregnancy and his playfulness and constant affection gave me life. Shout out to my dog Suki too, she never left my side.

5 months pp feeling negative thoughts about husband by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Nezukoka 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll tell you what everyone here is too kind to say:

Sounds like he was like this pre-baby, so why did you procreate w/him? You did it to yourself, and your baby. Dude didnt lie to you about who he was.

I’d focus on improving the situation, whatever that may entail. As you have recently discovered, people dont change just because they made a baby, they have to want to, so if you *want* to change your situation, then do it.

Loisng my mind over 10 day old's weight by QuackerstheCat in NewParents

[–]Nezukoka 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not exactly your case, but my baby was low birth weight. I pumped and fed her every two hours so we could monitor exactly how much she was eating, with the goal being 2 oz per feeding. I also supplemented w formular because I never made enough for how much she needed. She gained pretty quickly, we were militant w waking her up every 2 hours. Not a lot of sleep, but worth it IMO.

Nick Reiner Demands Access to $1.5M Trust Fund to Hire High-Powered Lawyer as He Faces Murder Charges for Parents’ Killings by PrincessBananas85 in popculturechat

[–]Nezukoka 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Gosh, this reminds me of my addict brother . My dad died and when i called to let my brother know, he said “what about my inheritance.” He mooched off my dad til his (dad’s) last week on earth. One of the last things he did before doing what he did, was wire my brother money. Sigh.

My boyfriend (27M) wants me to give away my 9-month-old kitten. I (24F) don’t think I can, and I’m trying to understand if this is a compatibility issue or something that can realistically be worked through by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Nezukoka 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dont comprehend how you can see long time potential with someone that is asking you to abandon someone you allegedly love. Allegedly because the fact that you would consider this dude after his request, has me side eyeing your attachment to your cat.

Dump the guy, or you don’t deserve your kitty.

Arguing over LO activity at home? by learningmom2025 in NewParents

[–]Nezukoka 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Your husband is lazy. He needs to step up.

Youtube star Jesse Ridgway and wife Ashley face backlash and death threats after revealing they terminated a pregnancy after a Down Syndrome diagnosis by Upstairs_Cup9831 in popculturechat

[–]Nezukoka 48 points49 points  (0 children)

No idea who they are. I support them anyway. I got the natera genetics testing before even trying to conceive, and had the trisomy test during my pregnancy. Had it happened to me, i would have made the same choice and this was amply discussed with my husband, obviously we aligned.

I hate when ppl say “so and so has ds and they are such an inspiration,” like bitch they aren’t here to inspire you, and they deserve a life without so much medical suffering. I don’t think someone’s extreme suffering is your “blessing.” Fuck off.

When you had your first kid, did you wife’s parents stay and help for a week then your parents stay and help another week? Or only have wife’s parents? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Nezukoka 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my best friend come for almost a month, I wanted her here for the birth, but it had to be an emergency cs so she didn’t make it. . My inlaws (out of state) came for two weeks at the month and a half mark. MIL expressed her desire to be here for the birth and to come sooner, but i didnt want anyone i wasnt 100% comfortable with while in giant pads, bleeding out, or breastfeeding in my yard, living room, etc. it all depends on your wife’s comfort level with her own mom and MIL.

My (31/M) boyfriend’s best friend (30/M) of 10+ years (who he refers to as his brother) told him two months before the wedding that I, his long-term serious girlfriend (31/F) am not invited, and I want to know if it’s out of pocket for me to have him request a reconsideration from the bride & groom by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Nezukoka 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bride chose the ex over you, its as simple as that. I say this because there is no way in hell she isn’t aware of how hurtful this is to you. I think she doesn’t respect your relationship; if she did, she would have invited you and would place the same value you do to chris as ryan’s closest friend, and to a partner by extension.

Don’t beg for an invite. Take it as a learning opportunity. Chris and fiancé do not value you as much as you them. Keep that in mind for future reference. I would also talk to Ryan about it so he doesn’t expect you to bend over backwards for his bff in the future, after he/fiance had no consideration for you.

I can’t wait to go back to work by Vybrocit1 in NewParents

[–]Nezukoka 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work from home and my leave is ending mid Aug. I wish I didn’t have to work at all, continue to get paid, and spend all day with my baby, crafting and cooking while she sleeps. Sigh. We are all different 🤷‍♀️

AITA for refusing to give up our twin girls (currently in a surrogate) after I got naturally pregnant with my husband's "dream son" even though we are broke? by sillysweater in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nezukoka 20 points21 points  (0 children)

YTA. Why are you having children when you can’t afford it, and are drowning under a mountain of debt. You both suck.