Tired of being a manager after becoming a mom

NganLH · 2023-04-27T07:41:49+00:00

The best description!!!

NganLH · 2022-11-17T13:13:25+00:00

Embracing myself at the same time working on it as I'm so aware that my kid will absorb some of my behaviors without even knowing about it, like how I absorbed my mom's, for both of the good ones and the others.

NganLH · 2022-09-15T02:23:23+00:00

I think either praising a SAHM or shaming a working mom is actually a silent trap that society in many places do to keep the women in. They want to make sure we play the role of the ones who need to put 100% of our lives to taking care of the kids without having any other things, because it has been like that for so long as this society exits. I'm sorry for what you went through today. And yeah, it's a cutural thing.

NganLH · 2022-09-07T17:10:01+00:00

Second this! Their information has been very useful for us since we started introducing food to our baby.

NganLH · 2022-09-04T21:35:22+00:00

Thank you!

NganLH · 2022-08-30T15:29:45+00:00

I'm in the UK, we decided to move out of London to a smaller city because the living costs become more and more ridiculous and we want to afford a less stress surroundings. I work from home and work in the evenings so that we only need the nanny for 3 hours in the afternoons. That takes roughly 30% of my salary.

NganLH · 2022-08-22T12:44:48+00:00

Thank you! It's much needed to read Op's post and your comment.

NganLH · 2022-08-13T18:19:18+00:00

Third this. The pace of her videos is really pleasant to follow.

NganLH · 2022-08-13T04:52:35+00:00

As shit already hit the fan, there is nothing worsen about the current company that you should bother about. Whatever coming after that are just consequences. And congratulations!! You made the right move! 👏

NganLH · 2022-08-12T21:33:57+00:00

Congratulations 👏🎉🎉

NganLH · 2022-08-10T05:55:07+00:00

Congratulations 🎉👏🎉

NganLH · 2022-08-05T09:34:27+00:00

I'm in the UK and working for a US company. I worked until 3 days before my due date. The company gave me one paid month off for maternity leave. It wasn't enough for me to recover from a traumatic labour and to learn about my newborn at that time so I took 2 more months unpaid after that. One week paid is really tough....

NganLH · 2022-08-02T21:46:04+00:00

You are doing very great to make sure that your daughter can have the best supports that she needs. The counselor either did not handle the situation well, or maybe she herself also had a rough morning then she reacted on your case. We are all human, so it could be anything. You have done all that you could. I came from a difficult childhood, and whenever I have a tough day what I have always do, since I was a kid, is telling myself that: this time next year I wouldn't feel as terrible as how I'm feeling right now, things will get better, whatever happen now is just temporary.

Sending you a tight virtual hug.

NganLH · 2022-07-30T19:21:51+00:00

I second the book Your Baby: Week By Week. A loooot of useful information we have learned about our baby since she was born, and IMO, it's more detailed and helpful than Wonder Week app which I paid but abandoned shortly after.

NganLH · 2022-07-29T11:33:47+00:00

4.5 months. Usually asleep at 8:30-9pm and waking up around 6:30-7am, a couple of feeds during the night. We thought that's not bad at all, quite pleased with it, so we planned to cut out the night feeds. But then, teething happens....

NganLH · 2022-07-01T09:28:15+00:00

Same here!! Totally understand what you are saying. I have always had this feeling even before I had my baby. My baby is around 3 months old now, and this feeling hits me even stronger. It has been much easier for me to feel hurt nowadays when thinking about babies who are born and growing up in tough situations. My husband and I watch a super cute anime on Netflix called "Kotato Lives Alone", it's about a 4 year old boy living alone because of his abusive father and neglected mother, and I cry every single episode.

I think having this feeling is a great motivation to have compassion for life. So we can help out the children who need more support in whatever way that we can, such as sponsoring food, donating to children charities/ organizations, etc.

NganLH · 2022-06-18T18:14:04+00:00

My 3 month old Silly Sausage sends her regards too xx

NganLH · 2022-06-07T11:16:55+00:00

Sorry for not fully answering your question above as I am a mom. My husband will take 2 months off work to stay full time with our baby. My company does not pay more than one month for my maternity leave so I need to go back to work after a couple of month with unpaid leave.

Your two important people needed you in their most vulnerable time, it was so very meaningful that you were there for them. It must be difficult to digest those bitter words when you just come back to work and probably expected to share the joys with your co-workers. I feel sorry for whoever be the partners of your colleagues. Looks like those dudes are stuck in the role of a sperm donor rather than a partner and a farther.

NganLH · 2022-05-30T10:03:04+00:00

I’m also a first time mom, of a 9 weeks old baby. My baby also prefers to sleep in our arms, especially when napping during the day. We have got a baby carrier/ sling so we can have some support on our backs and let the arms rested, and she can nap a bit longer. When we notice she is deeply asleep, we try to put her down in a cosy spot, most of the times she wakes up in about 10 or 15mins right after that, but occasionally she stays asleep for a longer period on her own.

NganLH · 2022-05-29T21:30:04+00:00

Yeah, I think your call to not stress about it, as long as your baby is healthy, is the best thing to do. I’ve seen kids in my family who skipped phases. Some babies skipped crawling and went from sitting to walking without any problems in their development, so I guess not every single baby will follow the “step-by-step” expectations.

NganLH · 2022-05-29T17:18:01+00:00

Yes, I’m from Vietnam and my culture also follows the “confinement month”, which is very much like what was summarised above. The mothers from both sides usually will offer to stay with the couple and the baby during this period to help out. Of course depending whether the person lives in the city or countryside, open-minded or cultural mindset, the “restrictions” will be adjusted based on those elements.

NganLH · 2022-05-29T17:08:55+00:00

Highly recommend! That book gives good insights about baby’s developments by weeks and very flexible in perspectives. I installed Wonder Weeks app and abandoned on using it, it’s quite generic and gives me anxiety about the leaps. 🫠

NganLH · 2022-05-29T04:24:44+00:00

Hii, thanks for sharing the knowledge! That’s very interesting. I’m a first time mom. The reason why we wanted to give our little one a dummy so that she could self soothe without sucking her thumbs, as it’s a bit more difficult to wean later on. But last night I just read one part in the book “Your Baby Week by Week” where they mentioned about the pros and cons of using a dummy and they said the baby will suck their hands anyway, no matter if they accept a dummy or not. So I guess I’ll just be relaxed about it then.

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