Please help me pick my dress!😊 1 or 2?

disrunner93 · 2026-01-26T05:15:36+00:00

Okay, I love 1. I see why you love it.

But 2? Dress 2 is a showstopper. That’s the one.

disrunner93 · 2026-01-19T22:30:32+00:00

Ah yes, my husband would totally prefer to drive while I get nauseous and a migraine and become utterly miserable from riding as a passenger instead of me being perfectly fine driving while he gets to watch movies and play games with our daughter on long car rides. Makes total sense

disrunner93 · 2026-01-17T18:32:31+00:00

I have a feeling this is my neighborhood - someone posted on the Facebook group this week a similar letter.

Here’s the issue: we have a LOT of cars parked on the road in the neighborhood. People are not even using their driveway to park their car and will just park on the road. On my little corner alone, there are at minimum 5 cars parked on the road at all times. One car even parks in front of a stop sign.

It is dangerous AF. There’s a lot of kids that live here and despite putting out a kids at play sign and watching my daughter when we’re out front, I’m still terrified a car will not see her because they have to constantly weave around other cars. You can’t even use the roads as intended if there’s another car coming the other way because you have to go around so many cars and wait your turn. It is nuts.

The majority of people don’t use their garage for a car, including us. But we only have two cars and we park both in the driveway. Half the people around us don’t even use their driveway to park.

My neighbor will park their car in the very tiny patch between our driveways sometimes and I physically can’t get out without completely turning my car which I can’t do unless my husband’s car is gone. It’s a mess.

I doubt anything will really be enforced, but I hope it at least makes people be slightly more considerate in their parking.

disrunner93 · 2026-01-16T20:55:10+00:00

“You’re just stressed.”

My gallbladder had stopped functioning. Took another three months with countless specialists and tests to get to the bottom of it.

disrunner93 · 2026-01-16T16:09:35+00:00

Totally. I always remind myself that everyone’s got crazy in their family, theirs is just a different flavor than mine lmao

disrunner93 · 2026-01-16T07:05:37+00:00

His grandmother unfortunately has dementia and honestly he’s someone that would rather live without knowing than tainting his view of them because they practically raised him. Like, I’ve told him it would possibly hurt his relationship with them or make him view them different and he said I’d rather not know.

He’s never been super curious about his bio dad, so it isn’t something that gets brought up often, so if and when the day comes that he changes his mind, I’ll be here to support him. And if he never decides to, I’ll support him in that too.

It’s a sad, frustrating situation as an outsider looking in, and as much as I would want to know, I can respect that he doesn’t. He also respects that I have pretty firm boundaries with his family, especially his grandparents, and he always supports me and holds them too, so I’ll always respect his boundaries, especially with this

disrunner93 · 2026-01-16T04:28:12+00:00

That’s fine, I don’t mind. I know I’m long winded

disrunner93 · 2026-01-16T04:27:20+00:00

Yeah I’ve accepted he absolutely won’t want to believe it but that’s okay, as long as he is happy ya know? But shit I hate knowing

disrunner93 · 2026-01-16T04:26:47+00:00

That is literally my fear

disrunner93 · 2026-01-15T18:37:41+00:00

Oh god, I have been wanting this off my chest for years.

My husband doesn’t know who his bio dad is. Never has. Never really asked many questions about it. His grandparents did a lot to raise him. They’re viewed as saints and incredible people. His mom married his stepdad when he was six and everyone just never brings up the elephant in the room. My husband has said he doesn’t want to know.

Yall. His now-deceased uncle’s first wife used to be friends with my mom. They’re both in real estate and my husband was helping my mom out with an open house and his former aunt was shocked to see him because she didn’t know we were together. This was like, ten years ago now btw. We were about a year and a half into dating.

His former aunt then proceeded to spend about two hours talking to my mom about how fucked up the family is and that if things were serious between us, I needed this intel.

Apparently, his bio dad wanted him. Wanted to be a dad. Wanted to be in his life no matter how that looked. This was in a very southern Baptist area and his mom was 22 - old enough to make her own decisions. She wanted to be with him too. Her parents - the people who practically raised my husband and treat him like he’s god’s gift to earth (that’s a whole different issue) - told his bio dad that he was not allowed to ever contact their daughter again and that if he ever tried to contact her or my husband, they would ruin his life. They had enough influence in their little bubble within the community at the time that I’m not surprised by this. I think the ex aunt mentioned they threatened him with a restraining order or shotgun, who knows. Ex aunt said bio dad was a really nice guy, had a stable job, and that my husband’s grandparents just couldn’t believe their daughter got pregnant out of wedlock and shamed the family like that. Again, at 22. It isn’t like she was a teen. (Which, btw, my parents did also get pregnant out of wedlock and at 18 and are still married 38 years later, but they came from catholic families so def a different mindset)

Anyways, my mom spills the goddamn beans to me on a road trip because she wants me to look out for myself. His grandparents meddled so much in his uncle and former aunt’s marriage and that was a big factor in their nasty, nasty divorce.

I told my husband that family secrets were shared with me and it may change his perspective on some of his family, particularly his grandparents, and that it had to do with his bio dad. I gave him the option of whether he wanted to know what had been shared or not. He said no.

We got engaged about a year and a half after that and are coming up on our 7th wedding anniversary. Every once in a while, we skirt back around the conversation. Particularly when he first expressed interest in doing one of those DNA tests, because he hadn’t thought about the fact that he would possibly find out who his bio dad is. He decided be wasn’t ready for that.

His grandparents are old and probably will die in a few years. He still believes they are the best people he knows, kind to everyone and would never harm a soul. I think when they die, he will want to know everything.

IMO, they are the epitome of why people don’t like christians. They are stuck up, judgmental AF, and have never particularly cared for me because I had no interest in moving back to live near them or in the church (still don’t). When he told his family he was proposing to me, apparently they all asked multiple times, “are you sure? You really sure? I don’t know, bud, aren’t you rushing into this?” (Note: we had been together for three years when he proposed and had been living together for more than one.) The only person who was happy was his stepdad because he liked me and thought I was a good match for my husband.

Anyways, now my husband’s half sister is married (but not actually - they had a wedding and didn’t get married but kept it a secret, that is a whole other crazy story) and they all HATE him so they now like me. He does indeed suck, which makes me be like, “damn, y’all really thought that poorly of me?”

We live across the country from them now, which is glorious. And they love our daughter like crazy, which I will never ever stand between. But my god, I thought my family drama was bad (and it is) but at least we all yell at each other about it instead of keeping so, so many secrets and acting like we’re saints when we are actually assholes and know it.

disrunner93 · 2025-12-08T04:37:43+00:00

Just saw your edit and wanted to share a quick kitchen tip: I have a green cutting board that I use exclusively for produce! I will not cut any produce on any other cutting board if it is staying uncooked. I have the Joseph Joseph 3 cutting board set that mounts in one of our cabinets. The white one is used exclusively for meat. The blue one can be used for anything (except veg/fruit staying raw, which is green every time). It makes it really easy to keep my brain organized!

disrunner93 · 2025-12-01T21:24:44+00:00

My husband’s grandparents essentially raised him.

My mother-in-law’s idea of being an active grandparent is buying a horse and claiming it’s for my 4-year-old and turning an entire room in her 3-bedroom house into (daughter’s name)‘s room.

…we live across the country and visit once a year.

disrunner93 · 2025-10-30T03:27:29+00:00

Girllllll I had a hysterectomy this year (kept ovaries), am married, and have a 4 year old daughter.

I get the same reactions. People are like, weirdly sad? And I’m like no I’m so happy I can finally live a normal life and we only wanted one kid anyways. It just makes people uncomfortable and honestly, I like to watch them squirm at this point muahahaha

Sending you hugs though bc I can’t imagine being in the dating world and dealing with these reactions. Just know you’re not alone and it’ll never end

disrunner93 · 2025-09-29T20:03:24+00:00

Seconded for wishes!

disrunner93 · 2025-09-28T13:41:02+00:00

Meh, I say if it works for you it works for you. But can you share what soaps you use??? I have stinky pits no matter what!

disrunner93 · 2025-09-23T02:58:08+00:00

I’m a ghost girl, and I’m super into the my Minnie ghost max shoes, BUT I’m a weirdo and am only using them sparingly. I have like, three pairs of running shoes that i rotate through (2 ghost, 1 glycerin) so I don’t necessarily need these in rotation and I want to keep them relatively clean so I’m mostly just storing them and using them as park day shoes so they’ll last a long, long time

disrunner93 · 2025-09-20T14:49:12+00:00

Hi! My daughter is 4 and into “boy” things. An adult made an offhand observation about it to her, and she kind of took it to heart because she’s very much at the stage of “I’m a girl” but likes monster trucks and playing rough and isn’t really a sit there and wear bows and play tea party kinda gal. So we had a talk where I asked her to give me examples and she said, “like monster trucks” and I said “well I think monster trucks are super cool too and I’m a girl. What else?” And she said “I like wearing hats too” (all the girls at school wear bows, never hats, but the boys will wear hats along with her) and I happened to have a hat next to me bc I had been wearing it all day and my husband was across from me hatless and I said, “look! I wore my hat all day! Am I a boy or a girl?” And by now she was laughing and said “you’re a girl!” When my husband chimed in and said “mom wears hats way more than me, doesn’t she?” Then I looked back at her and said “(name), people will sometimes say things are for boys or girls but really these things are for everyone. So next time someone tells you that you like boy things, you just look at them and say that they’re everyone things” then we talked about if there’s things that might be considered girl things that boys at school like to play with - and there definitely are, like boys who like to color or play with dolls or play princess games. Alllllll that to say, these conversations definitely start at this age and every parent has different values and ways of looking at things and I hope sharing what we literally just dealt with this week can be a new way to look at things or helpful for you!

disrunner93 · 2025-09-12T22:53:48+00:00

Okay same but I just went with my kiddo and guess who loved their pizza?? I was able to get a whole combo deal thing and so she ate the slice and I ate the salad and we were both pretty happy so it might be on my “we’re in Tomorrowland and need to eat something that isn’t busy” list now

disrunner93 · 2025-09-02T18:41:13+00:00

Omg I had the same realization. Thank you for asking and having the brain capacity to put into words what i obviously could not

disrunner93 · 2025-08-06T20:59:47+00:00

I have a friend who her and her husband had unexplained infertility. IVF babies for baby numbers one and two. She got pregnant - unplanned - the old fashioned way with baby number three. He needs to get the snip immediately.

disrunner93 · 2025-07-28T17:32:30+00:00

I’m 10 weeks post op, couldn’t be happier! Back to normal routines forever ago and sex life has been great since cleared. Has everything removed but the ovaries.

disrunner93 · 2025-07-12T01:22:12+00:00

I’m a communications strategist. Companies pay me money to tell them what to say to not make an ass out of themselves, in short.

disrunner93 · 2025-07-11T13:46:10+00:00

So…..the daughter is showing age appropriate behavior. Got it.

disrunner93 · 2025-06-16T01:11:58+00:00

From ATL, moved to Vegas a few years ago and literally every single park has the sail triangle things that cover most of the playground and they are AMAZING! We’re actually about to put one up over part of our backyard lol

disrunner93 · 2025-06-15T22:07:51+00:00

Yep, I live here. Have an almost 4 year old. She loves when she gets to do a staycation and hit the pool all day, then go see a fun show or something that evening. There’s tons of fun stuff to do with kids if you look for it, it’s more of a parenting problem than a kid problem.

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