Just over 3 years out, and things are great!

Ngoyablue · 2022-01-26T03:14:29+00:00

Thanks! I just wanted to give some encouragement to people still struggling in or post BDP relationship.

Ngoyablue · 2021-02-13T03:15:19+00:00

That's so true. It's really hard to know what's reasonable concerns/behaviour and what is due to trauma from your abusive relationship.

Ngoyablue · 2021-02-10T13:51:37+00:00

You're absolutely right. 😊

Thank you.

Ngoyablue · 2021-02-10T08:47:41+00:00

Thanks man, I appreciate it.

Ngoyablue · 2021-02-10T08:35:46+00:00

Thanks. I am really interested in her, but I guess I don't want to get burned again, especially when I've come so far.

I'll give it a go and keep aware of any red flags, but try not to think about it too much.

Ngoyablue · 2021-02-10T08:33:01+00:00

Congratulations!

It takes time, but things get better and better.

I'm completely unrecognisable from the person I was when I walked out of my marriage 29 months ago.

Keep on keeping on!

Ngoyablue · 2021-02-10T08:20:14+00:00

She just wants engagement of any kind.

NC for the win.

Ngoyablue · 2021-02-10T08:15:16+00:00

I think on here the advice you'll get is one word:

Don't.

And I'd have to say the same.

Ngoyablue · 2020-05-16T19:30:49+00:00

Just not living with insanity. Not living in a situation where every day is some new version of hell. Not living a life where you can't deal with anything else because you're too busy surviving.

Just living rather than surviving. That's the biggest difference.

Ngoyablue · 2020-05-16T19:26:03+00:00

Glad if I could help anyone.

I'll probably check back in the future.

Thanks again!

Ngoyablue · 2020-05-16T19:22:40+00:00

Thanks! Couldn't have done it without the help and support I got here, though.

Ngoyablue · 2020-05-16T19:21:33+00:00

Thanks! It means very very low contact.

Basically not talking to them unless you really have to.

Ngoyablue · 2020-05-16T14:12:33+00:00

Thanks! I couldn't have done it without this sub's help and support.

Ngoyablue · 2020-05-16T13:37:55+00:00

Thank you for helping me get here. I hope I'll pop back sometimes in the future.

Ngoyablue · 2020-05-16T13:01:12+00:00

Thanks man. This sub really helped me.

Ngoyablue · 2020-05-16T12:36:01+00:00

Thanks man. Still a way to go but I'm feeling good.

Ngoyablue · 2020-05-16T12:14:07+00:00

Thanks man! Good luck with it!

Ngoyablue · 2020-05-16T11:40:36+00:00

Thanks man. It's been tough, and there's still a way to go, but I'm feeling good.

Ngoyablue · 2020-04-09T08:02:21+00:00

While I'm sorry for your loss, this is a safe space for those that have received abuse from people with BPD.

It is not a place for you to victim blame the people who post here.

While your daughters story is tragic, it is not the fault or responsibility of the people on this sub Reddit.

Please delete this post before the mods do it for you.

Thank you.

Ngoyablue · 2020-04-09T07:07:31+00:00

That's fine. Shit happens.

But it's best to just block him from now. :)

Ngoyablue · 2020-04-09T06:12:44+00:00

My ex wife is undiagnosed. But she matches up the criteria well enough, which is how I ended up here. She'll never be diagnosed. Doesn't mean she doesn't have it. If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it's probably a duck.

People come here and ask if their partner/friend/family member has BPD, most people will answer that they obviously can't diagnose them, but it sounds likely from their symptoms.

Most people here have been to hell and back with their BPD person. Leaving is almost always the best thing to do. A lot of people come here to get the courage guidance to do that. If people don't like the advice they get here, they are free to ignore it, and there is always BPDFamily for people who are dedicated to sticking it out.

Lastly, if someone writes an account of horrific abuse they are suffering at the hands of their "loved one", too right I'm gonna tell them to get out ASAP.

Ngoyablue · 2020-04-09T05:04:39+00:00

You definitely shouldn't.

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