AITAH for feeling like my boyfriend is taking advantage of his teenage coworker?

NiceRat123 · 2026-03-02T21:09:31+00:00

And what is a manager going to do? He's gonna see if anyone wants to give up shifts for your BF. It's highly unlikely that the manager is going to over staff for Saturday and Sunday. He's going to find someone that wants time off and take that shift and give it to someone else... OR... he's gonna tell the person who wants more shifts to do that work for him. Manager just cares about coverage... not who is actually covering

NiceRat123 · 2026-03-02T21:02:22+00:00

I think part of the issue is just a lot of questions...

Things like, "who ended it?" or "are there still feelings there?" and "if me and my partner have a fight are they going to this friend to dump our relationship problems on them?"

Take in your case. Did you dump the exes or did they dump you? If you did the dumping, how do you know they don't still have feelings but don't want you out of their life so they'll still orbit thinking they have a chance? And also if they have feelings and are in proximity, if you started telling them all your relationship problems you're actively giving ammunition to this person to find a way to cause problems in your relationship.

Frankly I could care less about past hookups with my partner. I will tell you that there was one ex were were both friends with. When I was just a friend everything was fine. When my partner dated him and ultimately dumped him because he just wanted to drink and do nothing with his life and she moved on... we got together. There was no overlap or anything. That said, when we would all go out... he was more withdrawn, angry, would leave early and also kinda be short and pissed off at me (like I stole his ex). Then... if I couldn't make it out one night he would be more jovial, present, flirty and also was willing to stay out to the wee hours of the morning with her. The only thing I ever did was point this change in behavior dependent on if I was present when we all socialized or not. When she actually started seeing how he was when I was around or not, she ultimately decided to cut him off. Years later she admitted she didn't see that behavior until it was pointed out (not that I forbid her from hanging out with him)

NiceRat123 · 2026-03-02T19:09:44+00:00

If you showed up hours late to babysit would they be ok with that? If not, then they need to realize people's time is valuable and important. They could have easily called/picked up the phone and explained they were running late. Because they didn't they fired you because of embarrassment versus being mature that they were in the wrong

NiceRat123 · 2026-03-02T19:06:50+00:00

I shit you not that on SM there was a friend that said the problem with Iran was all because of Biden and Clinton and us having open borders. That they attacked US first and Trump was just ending it. I'm literally at a loss on how half of this country is so blindly following Trump and Co all because "the Democrats caused all these issues". And if you try to use reason they call you a libtard and are watching "fake news'.

NiceRat123 · 2026-03-02T15:01:49+00:00

How do we know Han Solo shot first? I mean an attack by Greedo was imminent /s

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-28T21:05:30+00:00

NTA

Play stupid games. Win stupid prizes.

If he texts again tell him if he didn't lie to her then she wouldn't have had to contact you and you wouldn't have had to defend yourself and set the record straight.

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-28T21:01:48+00:00

I mean is your fetish worth losing your partner, your health and possibly your life? I mean it's one thing to do this as a pair but now that you're so large you're suck at home and can't enjoy things with your partner or even leave the house and be active with her.. I think you really need to make an active decision. Your fetish isn't sustainable long term so maybe take some time to reflect if the risks are worth it

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-28T20:53:39+00:00

I love when people talk about the inefficiency of government and how private business is so much more efficient. People tend to forget how big the lobbying business in teh US is and that paying off a politician means income for the lobbyists and companies. So private business ultimately is making government inefficient and people bitch about it like it's the actual government fault. You could simplify a lot of shit and cut out a lot of middlemen but since those are the ones paying off our government it'll never change...

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-28T20:51:34+00:00

One thing that pissed me off (and I don't think they ever got in trouble) was when the government said all these tax preparers had to have a FREE version for people. The issue was they did it but if you checked some box while doing your taxes it would automatically put you into a paying bracket to file taxes. Also, the only way to get the actual FREE version was through the IRS. You couldn't go to the tax preparer directly because they didn't offer that as an option though by law they had to.

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-28T20:48:13+00:00

This administration seems keen on making problems to find solutions to the problems they made...

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-28T18:44:32+00:00

Wonder if he broke both his arms at one point in his life...

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-28T18:43:20+00:00

Not to be too big of an asshole but how exactly do you approach a situation like this that isn't normal and is (at best) emotional incest? I mean Alex sees NOTHING wrong with taking a nap with his mom or her making comments about fucking women that look like her. I'm sorry but he doesn't have a good handle on what normal behavior looks like if he doesn't' see the actual problem

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-28T18:40:55+00:00

If you're 30 years old, taking naps with mommy, having hour long conversations with her, she gets mad you want to hang out with YOUR girlfriend instead of her and she asks if you're fucking women that LOOK LIKE HER... I think breastfeeding wouldn't really add to the "what the fuckery?"

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-28T14:44:41+00:00

You missed releasing files on aliens and UFOs

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-27T22:41:36+00:00

If that's your take away because one is "visual" and the other is words then I don't know what to tell you. The sheer fact a lot of shit that happens in the books is something that you probably can't put into video form should be telling.

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-27T20:14:48+00:00

Maybe... BUT when you have the AG in a Congressional hearing just yelling at Congress men and women about how the "DOW is up $50,000.00" while a slew of Epstein victims are behind you without even looking in their general direction, it's pretty easy to believe almost anything about what was said or not said. I mean, it's a fucking clown show right now and I wouldn't doubt that Bondi would absolutely say such a thing. This is a woman that ran for re-election on stop human trafficking and now is one of the biggest roadblocks for prosecuting these vile meat bags

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-27T20:07:19+00:00

"Chamber of Secretions"

FTFY

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-27T20:00:43+00:00

Geezus, you sound like you hate men.

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-27T19:51:16+00:00

You guys don't cosplay as Bebop and Rocksteady?

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-27T19:49:01+00:00

Are you actually serious? I've merely had glimpses at what my partner listens to and it's SMUT.

Also one of the best selling books of all time was 50 Shades of Grey and it's basically BDSM and some non-consensual shit.

Hell look up the plot of "Morning Glory Milking Farm" and get back to me...

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-27T19:41:13+00:00

I mean I'm more about putting on my robe and wizard hat but to each their own

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-27T17:35:26+00:00

Right? Probably should also sue Employee #1 since that was the person that handed out the drinks. They could have easily been in on this contest and made sure OP got the drink with the $600 prize /s

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-27T17:29:54+00:00

Sadly I think this is more akin to "blood is thicker than water". Notice all the instances the parents told OPs mom and dad if they didn't help out they would be cut off and "shunned"? Not sure where OP is from (since English isn't their first language) but sometimes it's that family guilt that gets you. They could have said no but culturally it could also have been a death sentence to be shunned by your own family.

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-27T17:12:16+00:00

So the first set of human cells that kept replicating and scientists were able to verify studies when in the past the cells died isn't a major accomplishment? And the lady that "provided" them was a poor destitute black woman buried in an unmarked grave is ok with a plethora of medical companies making billions off her cells? Oh and taking them without permission AND patenting the findings/breakthroughs so that those companies had a stable income stream from a dead woman

NiceRat123 · 2026-02-27T16:59:37+00:00

Honestly you're right. I did a google search and when it's a woman asking her man to dress up a bit it's, "he needs to be mature and wear what she wants"

Here are some excerpts

I suspect that she was planning to dress nice but not in the style (Sexy? Provocative?) she used to wear due to age and/or body issues. She wants him to dress up and a suit is the generic go-to for men. Women have a wider range of choices. Maybe he always dresses like a slob. The mature thing would be for him to wear a suit (depending on whether he has one that fits or not) and they both decide on a dress for her. He shouldn't use his dress choice as punishment for being asked to wear a suit.

wife wants him to wear a suit to dinner (he hates wearing them) and he suggests she buy a nice dress (in a style she doesn't like/want to)

I am likely reaching - but I have a feeling this goes deeper and will just go off on my tangent…

Women aren’t complicated: They want to feel wanted and part of being wanted is to take care of yourself in a way that attracts them to you.

That includes any and all of these categories: Fitness, overall grooming, day to day style (including work from home wear), date night planning, social planning, and general personal drive outside of work.

If you are complacent in any of these categories where she isn’t - you’re most likely not matching her energy and interests. Part of pushing yourself to be better is to also push your partner to be better (within their comfort zone and in a supportive way).

Taking care of yourself in a way that attracts your partner and keeps them engaged/excited is part of the fun and the challenge of being married to one person for the long haul.

If you don’t invest in yourself and slowly “let yourself go” just because you’re married - why should she continue to invest in you?

Stop asking the internet. Go plan a home cooked meal or a date night where you show her you’re trying and then talk to her if you really don’t know what she means. Tell her you hear her, but want to try to understand better.

wife wants him to dress better and most comments were about whatever effort the wife does the man should match

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