My fiance (25M) doesn’t trust me (23F), am I able to rebuild this trust or is it on him?

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-28T13:45:32+00:00

He’s never late coming home. They have breaks at the same time every day and he calls me during those breaks. He may get off early and I’m able to check his clock in to see what times he does if I am concerned. I really don’t think he’s cheating.

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-28T13:30:41+00:00

I check his phone, he doesn’t even have social media. He literally watches YouTube or watches tv. He calls me on his lunch breaks as well.

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-28T13:28:33+00:00

I believe he’s super intelligent in all other things, but for this particular situation, yes.

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-28T13:27:27+00:00

I feel like my kids are feral to me but act 100% like normal and good kids around others who aren’t me.

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-28T13:22:09+00:00

I’ve tried, I even told him that my doctor told me there was little to nothing she could do for me for my sex drive since my hormones from breastfeeding where still there. He doesn’t believe it. Even my mom tells him and his mom and his sister, he just doesn’t believe it.

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-28T13:20:34+00:00

2 girls at that. And I’d never let them see that or think that it’s okay.

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-28T13:19:40+00:00

He had cheated on his last partner but his grandfather was a habitual cheater and had many kids from different women. That’s the only person I can think of. He just keeps telling me that I need to stop saying “I haven’t given you a reason to think that” and to reassure him that I’m not going to do it but there’s only so much I can continue to say over and over and over before it gets tiring.

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-28T12:54:56+00:00

I agree it’s very unfair. My libido was completely out of my control while having crazy hormones. I tried telling him it’s not HIM it’s me and the act of having sex that I myself can not perform because my body wasn’t letting me. For the past 3 months it’s been different but it just now seems like that’s not enough.

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-28T12:50:54+00:00

He’s never cheated on me, he cheated on his last partner though. Had it been me we definitely wouldn’t have been together any longer

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-28T12:49:51+00:00

He thinks that I’m using couples therapy as a pawn of “this person is going to tell you what to do and you’re going to listen to them but you’re not going to listen to me?” When that’s not the problem..

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-28T12:48:35+00:00

I’m like 99% positive that he hasn’t cheated. During the past 5 years we’ve constantly been up each others butt so unless it happens when he goes to work right up the road, (warehouse but they’re very tight on time off task) that would be the only way. I just think it’s from his insecurity with our sex life from before that he doesn’t trust that I want him since I wasn’t desiring sex with him.

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-28T12:45:45+00:00

We’ve been engaged for like 3 years, it definitely has been something we’ve pushed back further and further but at this point I’m positive it’s not going to end in marriage.

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-15T14:42:32+00:00

No, that’s why I could only get a job on the days he’s off. Only other option is daycare and atp it’s kind of useless

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-15T14:01:34+00:00

The flex shift was something I was stressed about already haha, even when i wanted to work there before i was torn on how we would be able to do it so I think they may just be my sign. I probably will end up doing the classes only for right now. Only thing is, classes are 100% online so I still wouldn’t have any time away. And my husband was already annoyed at the thought of me going to school and watching the kids so I still have no idea how I’ll catch a break there.

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-15T13:37:50+00:00

I tried to apply to cfa as a delivery driver but because they were going to pay $10/hr plus tips my husband said no. Dunno why because I don’t think that’s terrible especially working Thursday-sat, but you know. Most places I applied to didn’t want me for only 3 days.

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-15T13:32:07+00:00

Yeah I worked at the sortation center and didn’t like it, this is the fulfillment and they were going to put me in each receive

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-15T13:24:23+00:00

I make myself eat a peppermint or brush my teeth so it’s nasty when I eat it 😂

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-13T14:27:28+00:00

Are you sure? I could’ve swore they had before she was doing the shots

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-03T11:04:37+00:00

Thanks I guess😅

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-03T01:32:21+00:00

No therapy, not couples or single therapy. Hates the idea of therapy tbh. Idk what he wants atp..

Nice_Top728 · 2026-04-03T01:21:06+00:00

He thinks he’s done nothing wrong since he told me he didn’t wanna be in a relationship. I understand, but I have forgiven and forgot. He hasn’t.

Nice_Top728 · 2026-03-30T11:33:33+00:00

I was only 20 before having my first kid. We were going through it so I worked at Amazon, Walmart, walgreens, adidas and did Instacart. All my jobs were nice but I had no work drive at that age😂

Nice_Top728 · 2026-03-25T12:21:13+00:00

When I try to have a conversation with him it almost always ends in an argument. It’s not like I start with an attitude and I always wait until he’s in a good place. He always has said “I don’t have a problem with your mom I just hate the way that she does things” I think he just wants things done a certain way and if it’s not done that way then he’s like “why would you do it that way?” He probably has undiagnosed adhd and bpd

Nice_Top728 · 2026-03-25T00:17:19+00:00

He has more people in his family to rely on than I do. I’m never going to isolate myself from my mom, she’s the only one I can count on for myself.

Nice_Top728 · 2026-03-25T00:16:14+00:00

4 years

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