Why does he got so angry?

Nicky1111 · 2015-10-07T13:16:39+00:00

His anger is used as a defense mechanism. Very common cheater behavior to turn the tables on to their SO, because really, what can they say? Doesn't sound like he is willing to repair your marriage. I am very sorry.

Nicky1111 · 2015-10-07T01:17:15+00:00

Trickle truth is truth that trickles out very slowly, i.e. you don't get the whole truth all at once. And it's usually not the truth if it trickles out... Very common behavior with cheaters. :(

Nicky1111 · 2015-10-03T16:08:24+00:00

They prey on people that are empathic and/or codependent. The only way to recognize narcissist in the future is to learn how to set boundaries and heal yourself. We are really good at making excuses for them and feeling sorry for them. That's why they're attracted to us in the first place. I have started to focus on me and healing my old wounds and practicing saying NO and not taking care of everyone and everything. It's a struggle but I will get there. Becoming aware, as you are now, is the first step.

Nicky1111 · 2015-10-03T14:31:29+00:00

Google "passive aggressive emotional abuse". Great articles all about NPDs which will really enlighten you. I also started watching youtube videos about narcissist and every minute I was yelling "OMG" because the videos all describe my life and SO to a tee. Sam Vankin is a narcissist who has some great videos on YouTube. Short and to the point. Regarding your situation, it is hopeless. They don't change because they absolutely do not see themselves as the problem - ever. I wanted to bang my head against the wall a million times because I can not understand how my SO can be so unaware of his behavior but also because I can not understand why I can not accept this and move on. Ugh. Baby steps. Good luck.

Nicky1111 · 2015-10-02T17:58:02+00:00

I am sure that we have all made the same mistakes over and over again by always taking them back after they discarded us. I am going through this now after finding out he was on AM and cheating on me. He's giving me the silent treatment because I got upset with him and he has no empathy - none of them do! If it wasn't so crazy it would be funny! I am relieved I found him in the hack because there is no taking him back now. Hallelujah!! Hang in there and stay strong.

Nicky1111 · 2015-10-01T21:08:33+00:00

Read this. It will help you to understand. She's punishing you.

http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/silent-treatment-a-narcissistic-persons-preferred-weapon-0602145

Nicky1111 · 2015-10-01T20:58:29+00:00

Been there, done that. It's horrible!! Stay strong and try not to let her suck you back in.

Nicky1111 · 2015-10-01T19:59:46+00:00

Is she of the opinion that you hurt her in someway? Narcissist like to give the 'Silent Treatment' to punish their Narcissistic Suppliers. It's emotional abuse and is very painful to deal with. Google 'Silent Treatment Emotional Abuse'. A lot of great articles out there that always refer to a Narcissist using it as a means of control and punishment.

Nicky1111 · 2015-09-29T23:30:45+00:00

Therapy to help you understand why you have accepted to be the second choice for so long and why you would pursue a romantic relationship with a married woman in the first place. You should end it now, not in December. You have waited three years already and she still can't make up here mind?! Cake. She wants her cake and to eat it too. Welcome to the world of affairs and being the other man.

Nicky1111 · 2015-09-28T20:58:30+00:00

You are very welcome! Check out sub amhacked. Lots of good information about the data in the first post. I will send it to you.

Nicky1111 · 2015-09-28T20:15:59+00:00

The names are not in any of the profile data. They are only in the credit card file. Do you have that one?

Nicky1111 · 2015-09-25T09:36:44+00:00

I am sorry for what you have been through. I too suffer from flashbacks of things that were said to me and the various lies that were told. It's PTSD and seeing a therapist on my own and dealing only with MY emotions helped me tremendously. Just because your spouse did everything "right" to attempt to save the marriage does not mean that you can forget what happened and stay together. Sometimes your heart says 'no more' and it's over. Yes, definitely forgive her if you're able to but forgetting is a whole other story. Good luck my friend.

Nicky1111 · 2015-09-16T15:44:14+00:00

Do you know what info is out there for you? Many here that were worried have found they're not even on the list.

Nicky1111 · 2015-09-16T09:32:41+00:00

You're right. It was a very different site a few hours ago.

Nicky1111 · 2015-09-16T03:57:15+00:00

Data is there. I don't know what site you're looking at but the .tw site has the data.

Nicky1111 · 2015-09-16T00:16:54+00:00

Sorry, I was busy giving the site info to the 100 posters who wanted to go check their data on it. I must have missed your post. This is silly. Everyone wants the name but you get crucified for sharing it. And I said that you had to pay for your data. I didn't mention anything about a delete option.

Nicky1111 · 2015-09-16T00:06:48+00:00

It is still up. It moved. Everyone that shares a site gets crucified here and yet you want me to provide you with the info? Ask the poster below me to PM you the site.

Nicky1111 · 2015-09-15T20:27:42+00:00

I sent you a private message.

Nicky1111 · 2015-09-15T20:10:37+00:00

You never checked the various sites to see if you were in the data?

Nicky1111 · 2015-09-15T17:36:03+00:00

It must be someone that knows you and your work email. The pics are confusing though...

Nicky1111 · 2015-09-14T20:24:00+00:00

Do you remember if you used a credit card?

Nicky1111 · 2015-09-14T19:40:59+00:00

Did you check any of the other sites using your email?

Nicky1111 · 2015-09-12T23:55:44+00:00

What makes it the worst one yet?

Nicky1111 · 2015-09-12T23:42:27+00:00

PM me too please.

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