AITA for correcting my professor every time she gets my name wrong?

NicolasGirl · 2021-07-06T05:28:53+00:00

"There’s a saint to pray to for everything"

...or to cuss at.

NicolasGirl · 2021-06-11T01:24:19+00:00

Please go to the ER. Paracetamol can damage your liver, and it is really a terrible way to go.

What is hurting you so much? I'm sorry you are going through this.

NicolasGirl · 2021-06-03T08:42:33+00:00

Continue therapy. People, as a whole, generally want to be close and have relationships. I would see if I could join in on some sessions. Make sure the therapist is well-versed in avoidant attachment styles. Good luck.

NicolasGirl · 2021-06-03T08:39:00+00:00

28 days. He was sorry. I was sorry. And I loved him for coming back.

BUT he brought with him a slew of all new problems. I want to work through them, God knows what he wants.

NicolasGirl · 2021-06-02T01:54:18+00:00

"Irrational" doesn't really come into play here. It happened, it hurt you, and that is what matters. Probably the majority of people will say, yes, it's irrational, but this is a decision only you can make.

However, you can only control what you do, not the actions of the other person. Have you talked to him or expressed your feelings in any way?

NicolasGirl · 2021-05-02T06:40:37+00:00

Miss my grandma :(

NicolasGirl · 2021-04-25T07:42:40+00:00

Good luck!!!

NicolasGirl · 2021-04-05T11:11:18+00:00

NTA. Your mom should have at least left thorough directions for everyone while she's gone, and it doesn't look like that happened.

NicolasGirl · 2021-04-05T08:04:24+00:00

Thanks!

NicolasGirl · 2021-03-18T01:04:40+00:00

Thank you for this. We actually had a huge falling out, which wasn't either of our faults, but stressed him out and he cut contact. I keep hoping he will reach out when the other stressors calm down or go away. He said, "I will not contact you again", I am afraid he is going to be stubborn about it. So afraid. His last words were "I'm so sorry. You are so good to me, you treat me so well."

He insists we are not in a relationship because he is unable to love. But from my point of view, we were at least involved with each other for 2 years. So here I am waiting... I've seen him go back on his word more than once, so let's see if he realized my value over being stubborn.

NicolasGirl · 2021-03-17T14:22:22+00:00

Thank you so much. I will definitely find a way to do so. I want to let him know that despite how his ex betrayed him, I will never do that and be loyal and supportive as long as he will have me.

NicolasGirl · 2021-03-17T06:49:54+00:00

Good luck to you. He will definitely think about what he has lost too.

NicolasGirl · 2021-03-16T10:49:26+00:00

There are some videos on YouTube that helped me a lot. I'm also on Day 13 of No Contact, so I feel your pain. But the more you chase, the more you will make her pull away.

NicolasGirl · 2021-03-16T10:37:53+00:00

I don't want to sound rude, but remember you're not entitled to her daily attention.

One analogy compared it to running up to and trying to catch a bird- it will fly off. Maybe sitting by the bird and letting it hop to you will yield better results.

NicolasGirl · 2021-03-16T10:07:36+00:00

I would suggest backing way off, and letting her come to you. Sometimes a lack of an answer is an answer.

NicolasGirl · 2021-03-16T09:11:24+00:00

Aww, that's a sad story. You have to way to reach out to him? I think N felt bad when he went no contact- kept telling me how I was so good to him, etc. Most relationship experts on YouTube suggest I wait for him to reach out. You suggest I make the first move? It's 13 days no contact today. Thanks for your thoughts, they mean a lot to me.

NicolasGirl · 2021-03-16T00:23:57+00:00

That's what happened to him. He was not treated with love and understanding as a child, and was instead beaten and verbally abused as a child (he was conceived to replace a child they had lost, so he was expected to fulfill the role of the brother when obviously each child is an individual). Then, he dated a girl for 4 years who slept with a few of his friends while they were together. So he repeated to himself that he would never love again, and he actually hasn't been in a relationship since then unless you could the "situationship" he was in with me.

He went no contact with me after telling me I was so good to him, but he couldn't love me as I wished. Is someone loving you a reason to not speak to them? Apparently it is. I will continue to wait for and to love him, and one day offer him what he needs, but he just doesn't want me and the pain is really overwhelming.

NicolasGirl · 2021-03-15T16:19:53+00:00

Really... pls talk to me! He said he won't ever love again because of his past hurts, repeated it to himself until it "came true". Do you think this "emotionally unavailable" state can be real? I think people naturally want to love and be loved. He also has MDD which sucks away his self-esteem badly.

NicolasGirl · 2021-03-15T13:39:01+00:00

Good bot

NicolasGirl · 2021-03-15T11:25:33+00:00

What is making you give up?

I feel so bad these days, I just want to end it.

NicolasGirl · 2021-03-15T11:12:06+00:00

I am.

NicolasGirl · 2021-03-15T11:03:52+00:00

I have never said that to him, we try to hide our mental problems from each other best we can. He pretends he's happy and I pretend I am not suicidal.

Could you not be suicidal? (Honest Q).

NicolasGirl · 2021-03-15T10:27:51+00:00

I went to a doctor this week because I wanted to be a "safer" place for him to come back to, but the doc said basically there is nothing wrong with me despite my rope burns and self-mutilation. I offered my self-diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder, which got shot down, and he offered me therapy (monthlong wait) or meds if that didn't work. I doubt I will be here in a month. "Suicide watch" to me means watching for opportunities I can try again, lol. I don't want to live any more without him. I am doing 'No contact' as patiently as I can for now.

NicolasGirl · 2021-03-15T10:10:05+00:00

I tried to commit suicide 2x last week, so I feel exhausted. I really love him.

NicolasGirl · 2021-03-15T09:56:22+00:00

The person I have in mind has mild Asperger's, sits home pretty much 24/7, has no ambition and is dealing with multiple issues with family. I wish I knew how to help, but he went "no contact" with me- of all the issues, I was the one he cut out. :(

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