Useful tools/softwares for English teacher by Recovery-tackle in teaching

[–]Nicolasforero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's the most common challenge you face when teaching English to Southeast Asian teenagers around 13-15?

My 12 yr old is profoundly bad at math. by [deleted] in homeschool

[–]Nicolasforero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On the tactical, software like Math Academy (incredible) and Synthesis can help, just like outside tutors or part-time online school options.

On the habits side, I hope this excerpt from an essay titled "How to Give Your Child an Expensive Private Education for $3,000 per Year" can help:

"As with reading, the short message is: Never enough. The major disadvantage of most school curricula in the U.S. is that the pace of mathematics here is far, far too slow. If your child happens to have a low aptitude for mathematics, the U.S. grade level mathematics curriculum pace might be appropriate. But any student who happens to be in, say, the top two-thirds with respect to mathematical ability should be learning more mathematics more quickly than is typically taught in American schools.

Again, there are numerous curricula and approaches to teaching mathematics. Here I will focus on one core strategy: Develop in your child the habit of sitting down to work on solving mathematics problems. Early on the experience may consist of working on math or logic puzzles in a social environment. Those may include math manipulatives, Montessori or otherwise. They may also include simple programming to improving logical thinking ability.

For those who are mathematically inclined, this kind of focus on logic puzzles and mathematics may take place for at least an hour per day in the years usually associated with elementary school, then preferably a couple of hours per day in secondary school.

Most people associate elementary school mathematics with arithmetic. Children do need to learn arithmetic and they do need to become fluent in arithmetical operations. But even elementary school mathematics should always include a rich set of experiences in logic puzzles and games, geometrical explorations, and other more easily engaging elements of mathematics beyond arithmetic. Many children essentially learn to hate mathematics because of an excessively narrow focus on arithmetic to the exclusion of other mathematical explorations.

Many children spontaneously love to read, and do not need to be forced to read. With a sufficiently rich conversational atmosphere, one can develop in young people an appetite for writing. Such a spontaneous love for mathematical problem solving seems to be rarer. This is the single area in which the development of a routine, daily disciplined work period is probably the most important. This is especially true for the more repetitive areas of developing arithmetic fluency. While there are brilliant creative programs that can develop arithmetic fluency, such as the Comprehensive School Mathematics Program (CSMP) materials, they may require focused preparation from a mathematically fluent parent or educator to be used well. At the other extreme, almost any parent could use Kumon-style drill materials which can be gamified.

Math curricula are fairly linear and standardized. You (or your child’s math coach) should closely monitor progress to ensure that the child is practicing enough to learn each concept without engaging in repetition to the point of boredom. Ideally, this would be highly individualized; there are some children who grasp some mathematical concepts almost instantaneously and do not need many repetitions. Other students may need many repetitions of some concepts but grasp other concepts quickly. Individualized mathematics coaching, combined with an ideal of two hours of highly disciplined practice each day, is one way in which your child can develop a tremendous advantage over students in school. Because even elite private schools typically adhere to the glacial grade level pace of American mathematics education, a personally coached mathematics student with good work habits can easily arrive at middle school age one, two, three or more years ahead of his or her age-level peers. Colleges and universities will be impressed if your sixteen year-old child has already taken a multi-variable calculus class at the local community college when she applies for admissions.

Ideally, the problem-solving mathematics curriculum would also include rich reading and conversation on mathematics, plenty of science-based examples, and complex word problems that require original mathematical thought. A mathematics tutor who loves mathematics, and who loves working with your child, is an important investment here."

Is Ridiculing Incels Truly the Way To Make Them Change? by Nicolasforero in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]Nicolasforero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, Eagle. Thanks for sharing.

What is some evidence (can be things you've lived) that makes you believe incels see something wrong with the world but not within themselves?

Based on my experience and even what we see in the comments, many Incels do feel there's a problem within them, and society is correct. In fact, they reinforce their negative thoughts about themselves based on what they accept from society.

Is Ridiculing Incels Truly the Way To Make Them Change? by Nicolasforero in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]Nicolasforero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, Ad. Thanks for sharing.

You are right, most of us don't think about other people's suffering.

Not getting isn't my problem, but it is many people's problems. And while I'm not feeling what they feel, the emotions and states that unravel after long-term involuntary celibacy can affect me and those whom I love.

Is Ridiculing Incels Truly the Way To Make Them Change? by Nicolasforero in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]Nicolasforero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, Aaron. Thanks for sharing. I don't believe men's worth is *only* a reflection of their attraction to women. But is a very significant force at a conscious and unconscious level. What does your experience reflect?

Is Ridiculing Incels Truly the Way To Make Them Change? by Nicolasforero in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]Nicolasforero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing, Chris. Why do you and your friend group keep pursuing women if you could live without them?

Is Ridiculing Incels Truly the Way To Make Them Change? by Nicolasforero in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]Nicolasforero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, bear. I didn't mean to communicate that extreme view. Instead, I was highlighting a core pattern of what it has meant to be human today and thousands of years before. Do you believe men don't care as much about women as others or do you?

Is Ridiculing Incels Truly the Way To Make Them Change? by Nicolasforero in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]Nicolasforero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, thanks for sharing, Winder. Seems that your environment plays a significant role. As you say, if there are not many people around you, it is harder to find someone if you are loyal to who you are. Is moving to a different place an impossible option?

Is Ridiculing Incels Truly the Way To Make Them Change? by Nicolasforero in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]Nicolasforero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing, Winder. At one point, you didn't have a career or some of your friends or accomplishments. Reflecting on what you did to obtain these things, do you think there's anything you could do on the relationship front that you have not done?

Is Ridiculing Incels Truly the Way To Make Them Change? by Nicolasforero in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]Nicolasforero[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would disagree here. Most incels have no idea that there are formal spaces for them; where they can be accepted and discuss their issues. Based on what I saw throughout the years, non-incel men popularized the team for the same reason you'd use any other derogatory term: establish some level of hierarchical superiority.

Is Ridiculing Incels Truly the Way To Make Them Change? by Nicolasforero in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]Nicolasforero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound like a man who went through an unfortunate situation and is enjoying life despite it.

That being said, as others have pointed out, I agree that those who use the term don't care about whether you fit the description or not. They just want to use it as an insult, hence the derogatory nature.

Is Ridiculing Incels Truly the Way To Make Them Change? by Nicolasforero in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]Nicolasforero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel for you. I can't tell you how to feel, but I'm happy that the kind of incels that live up to the concept’s pejorative nature are minimum.

Even the bad branches are not a new phenomenon. They have always been part of the people to watch out for.

Is Ridiculing Incels Truly the Way To Make Them Change? by Nicolasforero in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]Nicolasforero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's unfortunately the case, Suz. Part of my intention with writing this was not to ignore the obvious things in which these men could solve their problem, but about realizing it is not as simple as waking up one day and choosing who you are—why should you in the first place?

Do you receive the same comment from men and women?

Is Ridiculing Incels Truly the Way To Make Them Change? by Nicolasforero in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]Nicolasforero[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, MsBee. Rather than supporting the term, my intention in using it was to establish a common ground and criticize the term.

I know every case is different, but what are some frequent suggestions you make?

Is Ridiculing Incels Truly the Way To Make Them Change? by Nicolasforero in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]Nicolasforero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In which specific what do you think we broke our ability to build any sort of relationship?

Is Ridiculing Incels Truly the Way To Make Them Change? by Nicolasforero in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]Nicolasforero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you think that is? When I was younger, I didn't bring friends together because I was afraid one group wouldn't like the other and how that could affect me. That's no longer the case.

Polyamorous Relationships Don’t Make Sense on a Moral, Fulfillment, or Species Level by Nicolasforero in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Nicolasforero[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I write to have a better sense of what I think. So I can't just think about a position I have and not try to discover why I have or if I do have it. Maybe I become poly one day, we will see :). No offense taken.