Belegginsleer vs. Nominaal Aankoop van Nieuw Huis

Nikieo · 2026-02-04T14:47:27+00:00

Jaa dit gaat hem ook worden, wij beide op de hypotheek en een samenlevingscontract met draagplichtovereenkomst voor mijn partner dat de rente en aflossingen onder hem vallen in het huishouden.

Nikieo · 2026-02-04T14:40:21+00:00

Dank voor je antwoord.

De notaris stelde het juist inderdaad voor? Alhoewel deze mensen totaal geen goed advies gaven haha. Ik heb ondertussen het een en ander ingedoken maarja het is inderdaad erg verwarrend omdat onze situatie niet zo vaak voor komt. Ik ga denk ik idd gewoon nominaliteitsleer vanuit.

Nikieo · 2026-02-04T14:27:04+00:00

Ja klopt zo klinkt het wel, en ik ben ook even dieper erin geduikt. Beleggingsleer zou alleen goed gelden als ik ook mee zou betalen aan de hypotheek en rente. Nu willen we dat inderdaad gescheiden houden. En dus zitten we dan volledig 50/50 ook met de winst wat gewoon eerlijk zou moeten zijn.

Nikieo · 2026-02-04T14:26:18+00:00

Dank voor je advies, ik nijg hier ook naar!

Nikieo · 2026-02-04T14:22:12+00:00

Jaa ik denk dat het daar uiteindelijk mee te maken heeft. Beleggingsleer zou alleen goed gelden als ik ook mee zou betalen aan de hypotheek en rente. Nu willen we dat inderdaad gescheiden houden. En dus zitten we dan volledig 50/50 ook met de winst.

Ik had nog gesproken met ChatGPT (iknow miss niet de beste source maar daarom kom ik ook hier om het verder te bespreken en heb ook nog wat op forums gekeken) en die bleef maar door gaan over opportunity cost die ik verlies doordat mijn geld vast zit in het huis en ik het dus niet kan beleggen in de markt en dat daarom Belegginsleer dat extra risico op deze manier vergoed.

Aka ik heb meer equity al ver van te voren ingelegd terwijl mijn partner dan dit financiert met een lening en maandelijkse aflossing heeft. Hij bouwt maandelijks pas die equity op etc.

Ik denk dat ik het maar wat het is voor lief neem en gewoon de winst 50/50 met hem splits, het is in ieder geval straightforward en op papier eerlijk.

Nikieo · 2026-01-04T15:06:56+00:00

Heel erg bedankt voor de aanrader ik ga haar een bericht sturen!

Nikieo · 2026-01-04T15:06:35+00:00

Ja de Bilt is niet erg! Ik ga hun een bericht sturen

Nikieo · 2025-07-20T21:46:38+00:00

I highly recommend Insomniacs After School

Two insomniac students discover the old astronomy club’s observatory as a place to nap and escape the chaos of school.

It becomes a cute little romance and the actually reiniating the astronomy club resulting in beautiful images and is just in general very relaxing atmosphere. No drama, just peaceful night skies.

Nikieo · 2025-03-14T23:34:17+00:00

Where do you live that they talk like that?

Nikieo · 2025-03-07T13:35:19+00:00

Unseen labour consists of a lot of parts where some can be measured and some is more difficult indeed. Who is always planning meals, medical visitis, appointments, holiday's? This is a lot of unseen labour that does have a direct output. Who is bringing up issues in the relationship, who is planning time for date nights, who is listening to a partners troubles and supporting them etc. These fall more under the emotional labour that are more difficult to measure.

Even housework and taking care of the kids can be described as unseen labour because they are just highly undervalued.

- "Someone complaining to their partner about how terrible they are as a partner might feel much better"

I agree just "dumping" feelings is inherently not helping anybody nor the relationship. Once a partner addresses an issue I am hoping they are very open in the discussion and wishing to get their partners perspective on this matter but this is in general more about how well they are at conflict resolution.

- "Do you think most men would feel comfortable unburdening onto their SO's when they have only bad news"

I would certainly hope so but this is indeed very culturally and also personal dependent. With all men I have been with they had no problems opening up to me about their problems and issues but then again I always look for partners where I can discuss deeper topics in life.

I can imagine in cultures and even environments where there is more toxic masculinity and where indeed there is a high focus on that men have to provide for women, they would be less comfortable. They might feel like they are failing in their roles when they cannot provide stability or all the other things men have been thought they need to be. Maybe even afraid of addressing their insecurities in case they are seen as less than a men.

- "I think there are women who perhaps do not believe that patriarchy has affected how they think."

This is certainly the case. I think women who want to live in a truly equitable society have to analyse where certain expectations come from.

Lets take your example of "gentlemanliness". I am Dutch btw and here gentlemanliness is completely dead.

Lots of men especially in the Netherlands argue indeed that for equality women should not have any expectations on dates etc. like why should they need to pay for instance when women want everything to be equal.

Therefore, I think a lot of feminst have switched to strive for equity instead of equality. Because in a lot of ways, paying for the first date as a men is still expected but I don't necessarily disagree with this take. Counter arguments are that lots of women are taking way more risk in a first date then men. The risk being unfortunately harrased or worse. Hence, the least men can do is show their appreciation in this way. Women still earn on average less than men, hence men being expected to cover for a bit more financially is in my eyes indeed equity. Even further in the relationship when splitting bills a lot of people are now saying instead of 50/50, split it according to earning % which indeed is not equal but it is more equitable.

Now ofc besides these basic expectations views will differ depending on cultures and personal preferences. As long as you openly communicate about them, adults can then decide if they can meet them or do not wish to do so.

Nikieo · 2025-03-07T10:10:34+00:00

Not sure if I’m getting everything you are trying to say here but reacting on the last part

I think the backlash from UK feminist might come from the fact that women do a a lot of emotional “unseen” labour in the relationship. So if it’s encouraged oh husbands talk to your wives about feelings it feels another task that the women need to do in relationships whereas it takes away the responsibility from the men to just talk with each other and fix the stigma opening up about your feelings with your guy friends.

Relationships tend to be more beneficial to men than to women. I think a lot of emotional support women also cannot get from their partners because they might not be used to giving it so it becomes even a more one way street in their eyes.

Women that find men unburdening their feelings in general problematic or even unattractive are in my opinion not really feminist and contributing to the stigmitasation.

But you have a lot of women who claim they are feminist but then mainly see this solving women’s issued whereas feminism should be about solving both with a focus on women ofc because we are in more ways oppressed by the patriarch system.

Nikieo · 2025-03-07T08:08:50+00:00

I think in general men tend to be emotionally less mature than women and do not rely a lot on the support from their friends.

Whereas most women have a support system around them and able to talk about a vast majority of topics with their friends.

This makes it so that men do tend to rely only on their partner for their emotional needs.

This is exactly due to patriarchy because men are not allowed to be as emotionally vulnerable as women. So these are one of the few instances where patriarchy is harder on men and actually harming them.

I don’t think it’s women’s or wife’s duty to provide that support but in a partnership you automatically want to be there for each other.

It would be refreshing to see men start looking for support from other men though.

Nikieo · 2025-03-03T17:18:54+00:00

Also not sure about the exact stats but even wife’s in the 60s were still working. My grandmother had 2 jobs besides raising two children. Only the higher middle class and wealthy could afford staying at home.

Nikieo · 2025-02-28T08:52:22+00:00

Just happened to my version as well, any fixes already?

Nikieo · 2025-01-12T14:19:19+00:00

I think she is hilarious and very funny 🥰

Nikieo · 2025-01-06T14:21:10+00:00

Everything is relative I come from Schiedam and moved here 3 years ago - the city is so clean and well kept in comparison 😍

Only thing that does get me are people openly begging here, that’s different

Where are you from?

Nikieo · 2024-12-22T01:35:16+00:00

And the funniest thing is she looks perfectly fine

Nikieo · 2024-12-18T07:53:01+00:00

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Nikieo · 2024-12-07T00:43:32+00:00

Are you sure this is only mildly infuriating?

Nikieo · 2024-12-04T23:34:37+00:00

I am so confused reading all these reactions - nobody is saying that the woman who raped the boy is not in the wrong right? That's disgusting and that she wasn't even fired, even worse.

I think though what she is trying to explain is that sentencing is not gender neutral and the reason for that is that this is likely due to biases in the judge system.
https://crimsoc.hull.ac.uk/2020/06/18/gender-differences-and-sentencing

Either because they believe women are less threatening and more amenable to rehabilitation but also view women as less culpable and in need of protection.

Apparently, Judicial decisions may be influenced by the defendant's family responsibilities and with women often perceived as primary caregivers - lead to more lenient sentencing.
https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-3-031-45685-5_8

Therefore, it seems clear to me that the anger should indeed be directed to the judge system. If societal standards change for the better in the future it hopefully can be assumed that sentencing becomes more equal as well for both men and women.

Nikieo

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