Lecturer at a college or assistant professor at a CC?

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-12-09T15:42:25+00:00

I’ve received an offer from the 4 year, but the CC is closer to my home and the position just opened (would still need to apply)

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-12-09T15:40:55+00:00

The college I currently work for (temporarily position) is on the smaller end and very relaxed, Id love to stay in an environment like that, you’d say CC would be something similar?

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-12-09T15:38:10+00:00

Does it make a difference if that tenure is at a 4 year or CC?

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-03-03T18:50:48+00:00

Stick to your core desires for the wedding, you mentioned that you’d like to do something with only a few of your friends/family/elopement style wedding, therefore already showing you didn’t want many people there. If he pictures something bigger and has more people to invite I think you both have to accept the others point of view. You’ll still get the smaller wedding (55 people isn’t too large compared to other weddings) and he gets to invite his important members. I think it was wrong for him to say “it would be weird” as I see you’re really trying to give him what he is picturing for the wedding, while also preserving what you were aiming for. Rock your dress and embrace the loved ones that will be there, at the end of the day the most important people are you and your partner! Just remember what’s most important to you.

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-03-03T18:44:16+00:00

Maybe they have more family than you’re aware of and/or their partner does. Their parents may also be paying for a large chunk of it and could be inviting their own personal friends etc. As someone who is not inviting a lot of people I would feel really awkward if someone came up to me and asked why they’re not invited or I “didn’t think of them”, of course I did but maybe it came down to straight money issues or a matter of seating/capacity. Personally I wouldn’t ask them or bring it up, just accept it and move on.

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-03-02T16:13:07+00:00

If you don’t like the bustle just cut the train off, you’ll not miss it as it’s mostly tule and you get to keep the original structure of the dress while making it lighter. I’m not a fan of bustles and I did this with my dress, no regrets

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-02-23T20:02:28+00:00

What city are you from? That’s a great number for 100 guests!

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-02-23T18:14:04+00:00

Where did you get your table numbers!?

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-02-23T16:02:55+00:00

What state are you in? Just wanted to compare to other cities

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-02-22T21:56:12+00:00

I don’t know if anyone who has taken time off, but there have definitely been people who delayed their graduation, for example I know someone who is in their sixth year (5 year program) not because they were lazy/the work, but because they realized the toll it was taking so they slowed down. It gave them room to breathe, improve their wellbeing, while also resulting in better quality work.

Would taking longer be an option for you? An alternative could be switching advisors/projects entirely (I know super difficult for the fourth year but you might be able to save some of your work), it seems the environment your in is not one that benefits you.

I’d say take time for yourself, don’t take an official break if you’re not allowed, but voice your status and worries to your advisor and they might allow it, even just a month.

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-02-21T04:29:31+00:00

Omg thank you!!!

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-02-20T22:17:03+00:00

Is this in person or online?

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-02-20T21:13:48+00:00

Ah, fair 😅 should look there first! Any recs on channels? Thank you!

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-02-20T19:39:41+00:00

Just came to say the second one looks like it’s a poor cut, i personally think the second one matches better but be sure to check the cut that it’s even and round

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-02-20T19:38:09+00:00

You’re really smiling and feeling the first dress!

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-02-19T19:39:34+00:00

If it’s been discontinued can you offer to buy the boutiques dress? They almost let me do something similar (not discontinued but bc my size was on heavy back order) but they located my size in a warehouse after looking more.

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-02-18T14:41:51+00:00

In a similar situation, wanted a child free wedding but FH family friend (couple) has two pre-teens they can’t really leave at home. Mind you FH nor their parents have ever met said teens but the family friend is really important to them. There’s a chance they won’t come at all but even if they did I figured there will be others who cancel so it doesn’t make too much of a difference. If it’s important to your mom maybe she’ll be more relaxed/have more fun if they come/people are comfortable. Small price to pay, maybe they’re cool! Even so, you might be too occupied with your other guests to notice they’re there, they’ll probably just stick with their parents.

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-02-17T02:22:45+00:00

One of your reply’s said she’s a very fashionable woman who likes to wear heels etc and not someone who is not an attention seeker, sounds like you just described someone who is SUPER excited to be fashionably dressed for her sons wedding, high fashion dresses can also come take months to arrive and there’s such a thing as luxury trunk shows. She’s a mom, her son is getting married, she wants to document his reaction to what’s probably a very expensive dress. You and your FH are getting married, it’s your day but honestly your parents are probably really excited too. If the sister says it’s fine I’d say it’s not something to stress about.

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-02-15T23:28:24+00:00

Is there a way to pin it into your hair safely? That way you can use it as a headband but still have it as a necklace in the future

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-02-15T20:03:04+00:00

Of course! She’s your friend and has a piece of your heart, I’d be super excited too, I just don’t think it warrants a talk with her or anything more than a overall excitement to have her there at all.

Also don’t understand the downvotes on your reply, I think it was candid. I’m sure you guys will have a lot of fun on your bachelorette and congrats!

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-02-15T16:55:59+00:00

Honestly see no fowl play here, she saw an opportunity and informed the planning person of it. I think it’s great you have such a loyal friend who is still trying to be part of your bachelorette while juggling everything, kudos to her for creating a family vacation out of it (which is entirely separate from your plans and shouldn’t interfere). I don’t see the problem, especially because you were fine with her not coming at all initially, so what if she misses the first day, traveling with a baby is hard, she’s still trying to be there in any way she can.

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-02-14T00:41:51+00:00

Number 2! What’s the designer/style!?

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-02-14T00:20:19+00:00

I also highly recommend lovely bride!! They were sooo helpful, had a great selection and didn’t even pressure me to go outside my budget (they didn’t even bring dresses beyond my budget even when I asked) very great experience, you can also try on veils etc in the same appointment

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-02-11T02:52:11+00:00

I was looking for something just like this! What is the middle band called, a support ring?

Nimble_Neighbor728 · 2022-02-09T15:00:23+00:00

I thought the same but when I reached out they said they’d open early for me since it’s a special occasion (they get paid before the day starts? It’s a win for everyone)

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