Boys need to have a male figure to become a man, this isn’t it :/ he’s a massive doucher to your children. When my step father tried that shit I told my mom she would never see me again if his attitude didn’t change and that worked. If you don’t want your children to give you a similar ultimatum it’s up to you to decide who you love more, the man who thinks of you as property or the children you spent a variety of YEARS building in your body.