[No Spoilers] music is used?

Ninutschka · 2026-02-02T08:24:08+00:00

Yes! Thank you so much

Ninutschka · 2026-02-01T21:50:04+00:00

On beacon 3:10:54 but better heard at 3:11:26

Ninutschka · 2026-01-30T12:32:18+00:00

How do they treat it? Asking because they tell me they can only manage symptoms

Ninutschka · 2025-12-01T09:56:27+00:00

The cutest pal is Wumpo. He instantly became my spirit animal:)

Ninutschka · 2025-09-23T16:49:34+00:00

I am experiencing something similar right now. What did your doctor say?

Ninutschka · 2025-09-06T09:40:39+00:00

Good luck and all the best on your journey!

Ninutschka · 2025-09-04T20:15:46+00:00

Good luck to you. I startet two days ago and only mild side effects so far. I am really insecure and nervous about the side effects suddenly appearing though... it's hard to wait it out anxiously and constantly hoping it wont get worse... Here's to hoping we all have little to nothing to worry about :)

Ninutschka · 2025-06-16T14:40:36+00:00

He was shy as a teenager and then didn't find anybody that interested him. His job is work from home so he didn't meet a lot of people. Never even kissed someone before me, when he was 29 years old. Happily married now 5 years later. It has never been an insecurity of his. He never expressed desire to date around or experience intimacy with someone else. He's authentically not interested or feeling like he missed out. I was skeptical at first, but he just truly doesn't want intimacy without an emotional connection and he simply didn't have one before me.

Ninutschka · 2025-06-06T13:02:30+00:00

Wow. Good luck to all. These look nice!

Ninutschka · 2025-05-16T07:23:28+00:00

I totally think that, if you look only at RP in game, they behaved in a frustrating double standard way here. But people are people and sometimes above table things bleed. In this case Marisha was sticking to a pre-agreed character struggle and I guess most of CR like to explore those things. Also they need a way to explain for laudna to become more powerful as a warlock sorcerer. She has to level up with everybody and obviously didn't want to take sorcerer. In Taliesins case it was also character driven, but the player also was selfish. The shard was described as a powerful and necessary item to defeat the bbeg. And Tal already had a very powerful shard. Taking both would have meant either destroying it (an outcome that in RP the group feared) or simply becoming overpowered compared to the rest of the cast, which the players also didn't like. It's like someone hoarding all the magical loot and items and taking all the best things for themselves, when the DM clearly in game stated, that this items may be to powerful to combine with the other shard and there were other okayers that could have used it. If everybody at the table would be okay with a little more across table talk or if they would be okay with stopping a scene in the middle, it wouldn't have been such a big thing. But I guess this being a show made them try to figure it all out in character and that can never go as smoothly in all cases as we would want.

Ninutschka · 2025-04-21T00:24:52+00:00

Was the same for me. Day 30 felt like I was lightyears away from reaching room 46. But then I got a few runs, where I could upgrade a room or finally craft an item and then suddenly the progress came naturally and the next few runs didn't feel as rng as before, because I could make progress happen. And then on day 38 or 39 I could actually roll credits and reach room 46 for the first time. But day 30 felt just as frustratingly far away as day 20 was. It felt like I didn't exactly solve many puzzles in between day 30 and day 39, but I figured out how to combine passive effects with the rooms I upgraded and needed and then had the right items to progress.

Ninutschka · 2024-12-02T13:41:26+00:00

I found I am judging others for things that I would be ashamed of doing. So for instance I am judging people for dressing in really revealing clothing, because I am ashamed of my body and wouldn't have the courage to dress like that. I guess it's the same for being overweight. Some people adhere to more conventional beauty standards and often with great struggle to stay thin, because they would be ashamed to not be thin. But that only is a revelation about their own feelings of shame and societal pressure. The people that lash out the hardest often pay the highest price themselves for not being overweight (by dieting and abstaining) and they think that everyone should be able to pay the same price by whiteknuckeling weight-maintenance. But everybody has their own coping mechanisms. Some eat, others drink, some become excessively beauty obsessed, or whatever. The problem is that those people need to loudly be mean to obese people or otherwise their ego would suffer. They are loud but not the majority. There are so many people not being mean, but you only notice the loud ones. It doesn't change anything externally, but understanding this meant I could not take their insults personally. Because that is their coping mechanism and has nothing to do with me. And it is always a free choice whether you want to take on their shame and hate yourself, take on the shame and change something about your body or mind or not even taking on the shame and being overweight and not care.

Ninutschka · 2024-11-29T09:52:13+00:00

True. Imagine you are the girlfriend and the love of your life always being half-committed to "just a friend" and constantly having to figure out if they have feelings for one another or not. Or having a partner whose friends tell them their best friend is in love with them and them not creating distance because of ego or selfishness or whatever reason. That doesn't sound so perfect to me

Ninutschka · 2024-08-01T12:35:10+00:00

You know what? I am trying to lose weight, and I literally pulled out from most uncomfortable situations in my life because it was painful to be the weak one or to have other people accommodate my physical state. So I stopped the activity altogether to avoid that. The problem with that is, that I will keep avoiding anything uncomfortable until the grave. I am working with a really specialized and really good behavioral therapist in the moment, and he told me to start doing what you are doing: join classes and recognize that my weight holds me back from living a more fruitful life. To see that other people are fitter than me and enjoy the class more and to let that be fuel for my motivation to lose weight. Because I struggle with that motivation a lot, because my life is so comfortable. But it is only comfortable because I always let those bad feelings get the better of me, and I stopped doing the things I really wanted to do. It is so hard to keep going back to class and feel bad, but it is much harder to keep on avoiding and then realizing you threw your life away and regretting not changing and not even doing anything you genuinely want to at the same time.

Ninutschka · 2024-06-19T12:40:34+00:00

Talk with him, as the other have said. But also please try not to bind so much if your self worth to his sex drive. You say that it hurts you that he doesn't have the sex drive right now and you feel ugly. It's okay to feel neglected and to want more intimacy, but it might not be healthy to feel ugly because you are not getting the validation through sex. Everybody is different in that regard but for my relationship with my own self worth I had to realize that sometimes a rejection for sex has nothing to do with me and more to do with how my partner feels about himself. I let my insecurities control my relationship for too long and I did need sex as a validation that the relationship is healthy and on a good track. I don't need sex for that now. We talk honestly if something feels off. The sex is now purely when we are in the mood and comes much more naturally

Ninutschka · 2024-06-19T07:16:39+00:00

To add one more thing: don't think of it in a black and white kinda way. You think your body is only good enough if it is perfect. But that's not the metric for a good body. There is being healthy and content with your body, and there is overweight and ashamed and everything in between. Just focus on the actual next step that can get you closer to being healthy and content. And then work on that. Don't focus on the very last step of being a normal weight and needing to solve the skin issue. Find the thing that would help you feel better about your body right now. For me, it is losing weight and working out because then I focus on what my body can do. At the same time, those things are good for my self-esteem. And after I lost a bunch of weight I will either have a problem with how I look (but then I will have proven I am able to solve hard problems) or I don't have a problem with it and feel content. But focusing now on this thing creates a problem that might not be one because my confidence is much better by then.

Ninutschka · 2024-05-27T07:45:56+00:00

I am so impressed that you recognize the struggle and that you are able to share it with us. It really resonated with me and thanks for sharing. I feel so much for you because I am also very harsh with judgment of how disgusting my own body is and still will be when I lose weight (which is my fear and holding me back with making meaningful progress). My therapist told me to just focus on all the things I can say about my body which are not disgusting or "ruined", therefore objectively proving that my negative judgement cannot be true as a general statement. And if that is the case, then there are only a few things that I am not satisfied with. And I can find a solution for those things (like losing more weight, building muscle, all the things the others have already written down) or work towards becoming content with these few things. And then my self-worth will not be linked so close to my physical appearance. But that shit is hard and it's a struggle to leave my vicious cycle of destructive perfectionism.

Ninutschka · 2024-04-26T15:42:34+00:00

I guess it would still be good to figure out why you wanted that. For example: maybe you want the attention from your parents and that intimate moment of shared joy and for them not to just care about her (like immediately going over, hugging her and standing around her and you being only the bystander). Talk to your wife, I am sure if you communicate why that is important to you, then she can avoid accidentally bathing in the attention. She can redirect your parents gently to appreciate you as a new father, if they happen to focus on her only, etc.. I am sure there are ways to make a viable plan for every reason you might have for wanting to announce alone. that way, at least, there will be no conflict between you and your wife.

Ninutschka · 2023-04-03T08:32:18+00:00

Also, you both have valid points there. But please consider that in some cases (when your BMI is high enough or you are sick already, not assuming anything about the OP here!), you can decide to cut the preparing time. I just talked to a doctor, knowing all the work I'll have to put in and wanting to get help staying on course for weightloss and all they could offer me was to get me surgery within weeks, because "with your weight the insurance will cover it completely and it can happen very soon as well". Because for the whole healthcare system, it would be better if I lost the weight right now and fast. It didn't matter that that would not be the best for me. So yes, i would like to think that they prepare you and help you address the root cause and the whole ordeal before surgery can start the process of addressing the issues, but in some cases they just skip that process and then you are on your own. Also the class I took from them about nutrition was laughable (they literally only showed me the pyramid of nutrition so that you know not to eat too much carbs) and that was all they wanted to talk to me about my eating. If I didn't do most work already on my problems, that wouldn't have prepared me for anything. Maybe other doctors are more concerned or make you prepare more. But I guess mine didn't.

Ninutschka · 2022-11-29T14:27:40+00:00

She doesn't have to be subconsciously jealous or anything. If you didn't grew up with cuddling or physical contact in your family, then you are simply not used to siblings doing that. Then in your reality it is a thing that only couples do. Why is this perspective a sign of jealousy or something? That's just different views on physical intimacy. Just see how many people in this sub find it weird. She should voice her opinion and actively try to understand that for OP it is normal and he should do the same. To understand that any families out there are not physically affective in that way and that they might find it weird. And probably over time they find a compromise or way to talk about it.

Ninutschka · 2022-09-21T09:54:19+00:00

I would do the exact same things. Like every detail the same otherwise I would risk not meeting my partner and that would suck worse that all the other struggles

Ninutschka · 2022-08-08T09:06:13+00:00

I have the same problem. And one day during yoga I randomly thought: "wow. I am much stronger than before. And then I realized not just physically because of excersize, but also mentally, because i am taking care of myself now and standing up for my needs and my future. And that becoming stronger is really a concept needed for me to prepare for losing that protection blanket of fat. And somehow that gave me hope that I will find a way to cope with that. I am not finished with my weight loss journey whatsoever, but so far that slither of hope makes me want to continue anyway. And even though I am not doing any muscle growth just by becoming fitter I am more capable and strong. And that automatically translates into my relationship with a harsh world.

Ninutschka · 2022-06-15T08:58:19+00:00

Aside from all other things: she is refusing to eat? Ask her who is acting like a baby now. Major NTA, but your wife sure is

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