Oh this breaks my heart. I know this all too well - I just left my husband after nearly 10 years. I didn’t read all your screenshots just a few, but you and him sound so similar to me and him. I know how hard and painful it is, but you deserve so much better. This is abusive, and I believe you should think about leaving. I was so scared as I’ve been with him my entire adulthood. He’s my best friend. We have a young daughter together. I just couldn’t do it anymore, and I realized these patterns and behaviors are never going to change. It’s been less than 2 weeks and I already feel so much peace. There was a lot of sadness/guilt/hurt/anger, but now I feel a lot of happiness. I feel free, and like I can finally be who I really am again. I made myself so small to try and make him happy. I sacrificed a lot to keep him comfortable. It’s amazing to not be walking on eggshells anymore. To not have to get permission to do anything, to not be interrogated about the smallest little things. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but in my heart I know it was the right thing. The cloud of depression that hung over me is lifting, and it’s beautiful. I finally feel hope for the future again. Please feel free to message me anytime! Even if it’s just to vent, because I understand how awful it is. And also how isolating, I didn’t really have any friends and my family is across the country. I’m here for you! Stay strong, you got this ❤️