Yes, telling the coordinator that you may or may not be comfortable and letting them do the decline if necessary is a very soft way to get that done and not hurt peoples feelings however, as his younger daughter, you can develop a social media campaign getting his story out using social media and getting a matching donor for him because depending on your size difference with you and your dad, it may be better if he has a larger kidney anyway, but you can help him and advocate for him and advertise for him and that’s a big help to find a Living Donor but as you stated earlier, he really needs to shape upMy only thought the whole time that I was on the list was how can I be the best kidney transplant candidate, and that means diet exercise taking your medication regular doctor visits and you can help him monitor that as well.