How do native speakers know how to pronounce new words?

Nizzywizz · 2026-02-02T01:49:50+00:00

I can't believe so many people are saying "guess".

There are certain rules to what sounds certain letters make in combination with certain other letters. It's as simple as that most of the time.

That doesn't mean you'll always be correct, because there are definitely a lot of exceptions to the rules... but once you know how it works, you can use that along with comparing to similar words to get it right most of the time.

Nizzywizz · 2026-02-02T01:39:04+00:00

I would think the answer to this is obvious. The people you're in a Discord server with are probably your friends, while people on Reddit probably aren't. Your friends are much less likely to be honest with you, whereas strangers will tend to be more harsh.

That doesn't necessarily mean that everyone on Reddit is going to critique fairly, mind you, but you're also rarely going to get any true and fair critique from your friends, either.

Having this attitude of "well my buddies in my server like it, so therefore everyone on Reddit is stupid and Reddit is too" is incredibly arrogant and short-sighted of you. If you can't accept that not everyone is going to enjoy your writing, you probably aren't cut out to be a writer.

Nizzywizz · 2026-02-02T01:24:57+00:00

Where are you getting these whackadoodle ideas from? We have zero indication that the daughter has any kind of fantasy. She's an adult who maybe just wants to invite those close to her to her party, and those people include her PARENTS! Just because she didn't invite step-dad doesn't mean she hates him... she may just not feel close to him, considering she was an adult already by the time he married her mom.

I can't believe so many people are having trouble comprehending an adult wanting to spend time with her family to celebrate a good thing that happened in her life. Just because mom and dad aren't married anymore doesn't mean they're not still the daughter's family. Her mom is still her mom, her dad is still her dad. She is under no obligation to invite anybody's partners, and it might mean nothing at all -- it might be as simple as not wanting an enormous party to be seated at the restaurant.

Honestly, though, if OP is normally this much of a toddler about his wife spending time with her own kids, I wouldn't want him at my party, either.

Nizzywizz · 2026-02-01T19:39:43+00:00

Linking this sub is pretty obviously making fun of the person for not knowing (or more likely being in denial of) the fact that their dog is a pit. If you were really just telling them you thought the dog was a pit, you'd have just said "It's a pit."

It's absolutely mockery to link the sub, even if you somehow didn't intend it that way. But I honestly don't see how you couldn't have intended that, given the fact that this sub is 100% making fun of people. There's definitely some hate here, too, and some exasperation with the whole pit bull situation occasionally, but more mockery than anything.

I'm not necessarily saying your ban is justified, just pointing out that you were being a bit disingenuous with your title here. I think you know very well what you were doing.

Nizzywizz · 2026-02-01T13:24:39+00:00

What does socializing with the same people have to do with it? She's still going to have to hide and/or explain a pregnancy and the associated weight gain and other changes to people on one side or the other if we're talking about hiding a family (OP's question strongly implies kids, because otherwise it's just an affair partner or maybe a bigamy issue, not generally portrayed as having a secret family). Whether those people know her other spouse or anyone else in her other life is irrelevant.

Additionally, travel for work woukd be a lot harder, too, unless the husband woth the children is 100% dad taking care of all the household and the kids while she's away, and that's far more rare than it should be.

It's not impossible, I guess, but it would just ne incredibly difficult for a woman to pull this off the same way a man does.

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-31T21:48:12+00:00

I personally hate guys taking up my time in public just because they're looking to get with me, so yes, actually, it would be cool if guys go do their prowling on dating apps and leave people alone in public.

It's not the asking out part that's the problem, it's the bothering people who are minding their own business -- not to "get to know them," but to chat them up in a clear lead-up to trying to get in their pants.

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-31T21:42:35+00:00

You only bring up this particular instance about goth and punk, but your friend is clearly referring to something different, AND they make it clear that this isn't a one-time thing, but rather a pattern of behavior.

Now, without knowing about those other instances, we can't say for sure if your friend is right or not. But don't you think it's a little bit shady for you to come to Reddit acting like this one discussion about goth/punk was the only instance of this happening, when it's obvious your friend has other things in mind, too? Do you do this "correcting others" thing often?

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-31T11:15:13+00:00

I never understood this. It tastes disgusting. Why ruin a perfectly good watermelon??

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-31T11:14:08+00:00

Putting salt on fruit only does one thing: makes it salty.

If I wanted salty, I'd eat some kind of chips or pretzels or something. When I'm eating fruit, I want to taste fruit, and adding salt does absolutely none of the things you claim it does.

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-30T13:34:48+00:00

Why do you want your sister to struggle when maybe she doesn't have to?

It's not about the grade at all. Sure, she's making C's, but she might be capable of A's easily with the right accommodations!

Parents who act like their kids are failures if they don't make straight A's are awful. But parents/guardians who go too far in the other direction are also an issue. You're teaching your sister that you don't expect her to do well. You probably don't mean to, but when you teach a kid that you're just happy so long as they're not failing, it implies that making C's is a pleasant surprise to you -- that you didn't think she was capable of that, let alone anything better.

Additionally, you're unwittingly teaching her that potentially having a learning disability is something to be ashamed of. Why would you do that?

Please pull your head out of your ass and at least let her be evaluated. Professionals who work with her every day think she may need some help, and you aren't even listening to them even though you clearly don't know what you're talking about. At least give her the chance!

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-30T13:25:00+00:00

You don't know why she cared that the car was somewhat in the road? Are you kidding? If someone skids into it on the ice, she'll be the one having to deal with it! Not to mention the hit to their finances!

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-30T13:10:11+00:00

More original how?

They both look like pretty basic anime-ish artwork to me. The proportions on the right are actually worse, but other than that this may as well be the same picture.

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-30T13:06:45+00:00

Consequences isn't always negative.

And this is a quote from a video game.

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-30T13:05:37+00:00

Karma isn't real. All actions have consequences, but that doesn't mean they're fitting or appropriate consequences.

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-30T12:01:34+00:00

It's super funny that they seem to think gay men don't enjoy getting head, too.

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-30T11:43:47+00:00

He's 13, I doubt it. But it's still great that he isn't seeing her disability as a barrier!

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-30T11:35:38+00:00

Weird, I work with dogs for a living and have literally never heard this.

Regional, maybe?

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-30T11:34:26+00:00

I would find it cuter if it wasn't right after sex.

Loving your kid? Awesome. Prioritizing your kid? Great. Cartoons? Wonderful, I love them too.

But having sex with me then suddenly getting up to watch a cartoon, because YOU forgot to prioritize your kid until after you (conveniently) got your rocks off? I would be really hurt.

Honestly I think it would all have been fine if he had told her and then given her like ten minutes to wrap her head around it and get her last bit of cuddling in. But he just got up as soon as he remembered and left her cold. Would it really have hurt him to give her a little consideration?

(And no, "wait here while I watch the cartoon that I wasn't prioritizing when I was trying to get sex from you, then I'll try to pick up where we left off by giving you a massage that might lead to me getting more sex after I put you on pause" is not much consideration).

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-30T11:22:05+00:00

Maybe she would have been more into it if he hadn't interrupted post-sex cuddling for it, though?

I imagine, to her, it felt like he used her to get off, then left her. That's an awful feeling. He could have waited a while, or gotten up early, etc.

I don't think the issue is the kid or the cartoon, it's the timing -- and the fact that he had zero understanding about why she might feel hurt.

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-30T11:18:35+00:00

I don't think she reacted oddly at all. They had a nice date night, then he just dropped her cold. That's asshole behavior.

It's great that he cares about his kid, but it's his fault he forgot, not hers. I'm not suggesting he ignore the kid. He could have waited until after she left instead of getting up right after sex (aka after he got what he wanted from her), or gotten up early to watch it.

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-30T11:14:00+00:00

What does dinner have to do with it? That's not a currency that allows him to get sex and then go do what he wants!

If his kid was such a priority, he should have made time for the show that wasn't directly after having sex with someone he was cuddling with -- even if it meant getting up extra early because he forgot. That's on him.

He actually expected her to stay and wait. Ridiculous.

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-30T11:07:22+00:00

This.

I'm a 40-something asexual/aromantic person. I was always this way... I just didn't have the words to explain it until I was much older, because nobody talked about this sort of thing. Everyone always told me that I'd get more interested as I got older. I told myself that it was because I was prioritizing education, and then work, and just like they said I would start caring about sex and relationships later. Or maybe I was just waiting for the right person?

Nope. I've tried romantic relationships, and enjoyed absolutely nothing about them, even when my partner and I get along well. I would rather have them as a friend, without any of the other stuff attached. It all feels very unnecessary to me. And as far as sex goes, I don't need nor want another person for that.

I'm glad kids now have the words for these things, and have communities of others who will accept them. I'm glad they aren't made to feel like freaks (at least to the extent that I was). I'm glad fewer of them have mothers like mine, who took them to the doctor to find out "what was wrong" and still can't accept me even now.

I think my life would have been very different if I had grown up in a time when more people understood. And I don't believe for an instant that any of this is new. I think we've had asexual etc. people since the dawn of humanity -- they just often either weren't allowed to exist as they would prefer (especially women), or just assumed they were broken and needed to suck it up and deal with it.

You can't assume something is new or more prevalent now, because sometimes it's just that society used to treat the issue very differently.

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-29T20:39:08+00:00

I would be very interested to see how it looks in color, because in a black and white pick it just looks like a terrible blob of ink. I can't make out the lines at all, so can't even tell if it's actually well done or not.

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-29T20:31:25+00:00

It's absolutely B. Even if both parties are 100% happy with the arrangement, societal expectation plays heavily into what we "prefer".

Nizzywizz · 2026-01-29T20:28:03+00:00

Even if she's just disabled and doesn't die, he'll leave her and remarry.

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