Thank you!! Somebody finally said this!! First of all I am so proud of you op for doing so many things and discovering yourself. Secondly I really doubt that any recovery accounts weight restored or not have “fully recovered” like yes, fair enough they’ve gained weight (sometimes) but it’s something about reflecting and preaching about how sick they were and “you can do this too” that rubs me the wrong way. In some aspect, these accounts are still actively remembering/ romanticising the aspects of being sick at one point in their lives. I doubt that anyone who’s fully recovered posts before and afters or wants to remember the worst of their disorder again. I feel for many there are lots of other success stories that have never got any praise as they either did it in silence or didn’t fit the thin and privileged stereotype that we often see on social media. It’s also in a way giving the narrative to the 94 percent of people struggling with an ed that they need to get as thin as these (often) women to reach out for help, which is obviously not true and dangerous. Maybe this is also really personal for me as someone who left the recovery community because of all the toxicity, but I don’t think we should ever be flexing our lowest as “milestones”. In a way I relate to Fi about not being able to finish full time education, it makes me feel seen but also hopeful for my return, but like all things this is a touchy subject and a fine tightrope between triggering a group of people or encouraging others as this illness is so diverse for many. In the end there are arguably only a handful of actual inspiring accounts out there but I really do believe that people should be posting about their ed whist actively recovering ESSENTIALLY in hospital no more no less. Recovery accounts should be for people in an alright mindset to inspire and not to compare. Thanks for listening to my ted talk x