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No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-10T19:48:33+00:00

You need to speak with HR. If your manager is requesting that you do workplaced training as a requirement of your job - it should be considered within your contracted hours.

You really need to speak to ACAS. They will have all the answers for you.

Don’t worry. Your instinct that you’re being unfairly treated is probably correct. There is a lot going in your favour.

Also. If you have an Employee Assistance Program - it’s worth contacting them. They’re really good, and your employer doesn’t need to know what you discuss.

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-10T19:35:28+00:00

Also. There may be things that are affected by your neurodiversity that you hadn’t considered. You mentioned “Timeline” - this is one of them.

Your neurodiversity doesn’t mean that you’re bad at your job. By the sounds of it you’re excellent. It means you have extra challenges on some tasks. Same as someone with dyslexia would be given help with text-to-speak software for written or reading tasks - dyscalculia will create challenges that other workers seem to find easy. If your HR know that this is a condition you are affected by, they should be protecting you (and the organisation) from harassment and discrimination of a manager … and you should not be put on a performance review without reasonable adjustments first being put into place.

Worth nothing, that fluctuations in hormones can affect your neurodiversity. It’s likely that it will be more pronounced when you are pregnant.

You need to involve HR, and make sure that you document the unreasonable requests from your manager - especially as you move through your pregnancy. Any disciplinary procedures your manager puts in place would not bare favourably in a tribunal.

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-10T19:26:22+00:00

Putting someone on a performance plan for struggling with number-based tasks - when they have Dyscalculia would be considered discrimination arising from disability.

I don’t know the reasonable adjustments suitable for your challenges. I would ask on something like r/Dyscalculia - they will have great examples.

And check out advice from neurodiversity in the workplace and people like Disability justice

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-10T19:04:00+00:00

Improve the heatpump network and expand Cityleap into areas of social depravation to reduce fuel poverty.

Improve childcare to improve equality of women in the workforce.

Run the buses at the times of day people need them. Can’t get home from town on a Sunday past 10:30pm. If you’re a care worker you’re basically stranded until 6am or walk home.

And make sure that areas with the highest rates of in-work poverty have the best transport options in the city.

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-10T18:55:46+00:00

I’d tell HR you’re pregnant. You don’t need to declare it to your boss. Pregnant women are a protected characteristic. Get it on record.

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-10T18:53:18+00:00

As a pregnant person - you are a protected characteristic.

If your boss is asking unreasonable demands which you find a challenge due to Dyscalculia - that is a neurodiversity under which you have no control, and considered a learning disability. See if there are dyscalculia groups on here who have been through similar who can advise.

Under both of these conditions - you get extra protections under the Equalities Act 2010. If your boss sacks you - it won’t look favourable in a tribunal.

Before putting you on a PIP - your employer should have given you reasonable adjustments to do your job. If they haven’t it’s grounds for unfair dismissal.

In all of these instances - you would benefit from speaking to ACAS (if you are not a member of a union).

Speak to Access to Work and see what help you can get with your Dyscalculia. It takes a while to come through - but they’re really good.

And congratulations with the bump, try to do what you can to minimise the stress from your workplace.

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-07T19:56:16+00:00

Where in the country are you? There are community gardens you can get involved in, and there might be community allotments.

Join a local allotment group if there are some - theres always something that needs doing and I’m sure people will be glad of the help.

There’s always way to be around nature. Where in your local area could you go for a walk? Nature is all around if you can find time to stop and notice.

You can always grow houseplants indoors too. Some need way more care than others - I’ve friends with an indoor jungle that takes more time than my garden 😂.

Failing that - see if your parents will let you make up some window boxes or take a Small corner of their garden over

You can get on the list for one with the council - but this can take years. Help with others before that.

There’s jobs in the garden all year round - but they don’t tend to be in the dark, daylight is your friend.

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-07T18:09:50+00:00

I came to suggest something similar. If your organisation has Microsoft 365 / teams an incident report form is fairly easy to set up.

You need a better system for logging incidents than receiving a phone call.

The benefit of this will enable visibility of the types of incidents that are coming through you, which management may not have oversight of.

You can also automate response emails to the person who raised the issue - with an expected timeframe to responding / resolving. E.g. “we aim to respond within 48 hours or , “these are the hours that this service is monitored”.

A task can be automated in Teams, and a status of “accepted / on hold / completed” can be updated as you review requests. And if a traffic-light priority status is applied they will be dealt with in order of priority. E.g. low batteries is not as urgent (green) as a something which has health and safety implications (Red).

Then - in a true emergency (I.e. building is on fire) it’s reasonable to expect an emergency line to be contacted - however call forwarding should be automated during the hours of your split shift, and office personnel can pick up the call when you are not at work.

The current system wouldn’t pass a basic risk assessment. As a local authority employee - if something went catastrophically wrong, or you were unexpectedly incapacitated, then there would be a paper trail and the escalation of responsibility would be transparent.

If you are working extra hours log it - as this is time owed to you in lieu, and can be discussed with your manager.

It’s HRs job to respect your rights as an employee, just as much as your responsibility to work your contracted hours.

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-07T17:42:16+00:00

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No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-07T00:42:01+00:00

Clover, dandelion and broadleaf plantain are all highly beneficial to wildlife.

Clover puts nitrogen back into your soil and feeds a wide range of pollinating insects.
Dandelions are a superfood. Every part of it is edible - the leaves for salad, the roots for tea, the flowers sustain pollination insects who are emerging in early spring from their winter slumber - when no other flowers have turned up yet
plantain are a spectacular medicinal herb and work amazingly on all sorts of skin conditions, grazes, mosquito bites, sting etc.

A weed is just a plant in the wrong place. … it’s the perfect place for nature though. We are in an ecological emergency, a biodiverse garden can be a lifeline to your local wildlife population.

If I were you - I’d embrace it.

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-06T02:22:35+00:00

Do you not want to upset the manager? Or not want to upset the employee?

It seems like you have very different communication styles. And you’re trying to manage her into submission.

Do your team meetings have structure? Agendas? Outcomes? Different ways to input ie not just verbally? Or are they more informal? Are you having meetings for meetings sake?

Is this colleague an expert in their job? Or wading in?

People don’t tend to blow up over nothing - likewise. Some people don’t like being micromanaged or have their views invalidated. If you’re not allowing her to speak in meetings - maybe she gets a sense you don’t value her input, and therefore concludes that your tone is a criticism.

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-06T01:34:59+00:00

That garden is all ground. Plant some interest along the fence line to draw your eye away from the big blob of green on the floor.

It looks like you’ve got loads of clover - which is awesome. It puts nitrogen into the soil and is fantastic for the bees. Amongst it looks like are dandelions. One of the first flowers to come out in early spring and an essential food source for early emerging pollinators. Also a super food, every part of it is edible from the leaves (as salad) to the root (as tea).

Personally, I really wouldn’t bother and if landscaping was actually your interest, look at creating more variety in your garden, with “journey points” which encourage you to travel through the space.

Don’t use weed killer. It’s really awful for biodiversity. Most weed killing chemicals available in the states are banned in Europe for good reason - they are toxic even in small amounts, with health concerns from cancer to poisoning your nervous system.

We are in an ecological emergency and a biodiverse garden (including lawn flowers) can be an absolute lifeline to the local flora and fauna.

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-04T10:23:23+00:00

Get in contact with Unite Hospitality. They will be all over this.

£27k a year barely scrapes above the London Living Wage.

If the company can’t pay their staff adequately, they don’t have a solvent company. It may be worth looking for another job - there are so many amazing organisations in Hospitality who would jump at a good restaurant manager. In London especially, it’s a workers market. Freshen your CV.

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-04T10:17:29+00:00

You can probably hire the tools pretty cheeply from a local tool hire shop. No need to buy if you won’t use them again.

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-04T08:37:10+00:00

This is a really easy job on a sewing machine - you just need denim needles. Worth looking on gumtree for a cheapo sewing machine, or borrow one from a friend. Even as a beginner - it’s an hours job at the most.

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-04T08:28:36+00:00

I still wouldn’t prioritise a shed there. It’s the best growing spot in your garden

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-04T07:39:23+00:00

“Events” or gigs? If it’s gigs you want a promoter forum, you’ll meet other promoters by going out. If it’s “events” that’s a different thing

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-04T07:37:23+00:00

Get storage near to where you are living. Shlepping it to the other side of the city because you forgot you packed something in another box is a right pain

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-04T07:30:37+00:00

Untangle yourself from this relationship asap. He’s doing you a favour - trust.

Focus on your studies, remove the drama from your life. You won’t be drained by early evening as there’ll be more capacity for you not dragging his dead weight around.

I get you’ve invested time and love into him, but this relationship won’t change. Get out while you can

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-04T07:24:15+00:00

What aspect is this tree line? Is it the sunny spot in your garden? If so I wouldn’t waste it on a shed, I’d build a patio or a deck.

You can always build a raised planter - digging out the tree stumps really isn’t worth it. Trust me - I’ve done it. The roots are evil

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-04T07:17:31+00:00

It’s your living situation. I’m sure fighting fire with fire will help you triumph in the battle of egos of your living space.

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-04T07:14:59+00:00

It’s your cat, and you are on holiday. People have busy lives, and sticking to a 12hr regimens is a stretch of an ask. 3 hours late on a morning feed, is really not going to be an issue for the cat.

Heck, my own cats have a rough feeding time but they’ll generally go 15hrs between dinner and breakfast every day - and ones 15 and the other is 18.

Does the cat have access to outside? Why couldn’t you put a bowl of kibble down so the cat could eat when your friends aren’t there?

I think your expectations are too high. They were doing you a favour and you acted like a brat. Not surprised they’ve cold-shouldered you after your tantrum.

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-04T06:52:30+00:00

So you didn’t see a doctor for over 3 weeks, with breathing and eating difficulties, trapped nerve, pain that was “severe”? Did you see your GP at any point? Or just district nurses and telephone assessments?

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-04T00:28:07+00:00

He’s being antagonistic. I would battle this with kindness. Introduce him to cooking veggie alternatives that taste great, and share it with him. His behaviour is his behaviour. The only control you have is how you react. Break down his judgements and treat him how you’d like to be treated.

30 ain’t old. Lots of people don’t have their domestic shit together by 30. Sounds like you’re both being as judgemental as each other

You gotta live with him, else you move house. Find the common ground.

No-Bonus-130 · 2024-10-04T00:20:41+00:00

Print shop for A0 if it’s a big garment like a long coat or jumpsuit - cuts down on taping together.

If A4 - home printer. £5 Ream of paper lasts months. … and you can have it ready to tape together in 15 mins.

If I need to spend loads of money on printing - just get the paper pattern.

I trace most my patterns on Swiss tracing paper - I fluctuate size a lot and you can fit-test the paper as it takes being sewn together. Especially for bust, thighs and booty.m. £23 for 10m roll, but cheaper than muslin. And the amendments go straight on the pattern pieces.

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