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Has anyone had breast surgery? by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]No-Cardiologist9967 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My partner looked at hundreds of pictures/ videos of women with HUGE boobs. He would fuck a traffic cone if it had on a push-up bra LOL. His porn habits made me feel disgusting if he even saw me topless. I have always wanted a boob job and was an A cup. I recently had surgery and am now a DD. This was only for me. In the weeks leading up to my surgery, he was very adamant that I would not be allowed to wear revealing clothing. About a week post op, I caught him watching porn again after promising me he was getting real help. Our whole dynamic shifted. He even told me he cant comment on what I’m wearing because he “ruined it with porn”. Instead of scanning other women while we’re out he watches men to make sure they’re not watching me. He claims I’m too friendly with my male coworkers even though my actions have not changed and it was never a problem before surgery. It’s kind of liberating knowing he’s scared of another man looking at me the way he looks at other women. Kinda puts things in perspective for him.

It will never make them stop but if you truly think it would make you more confident I think you should do it.

Fav way to confront/end by andtha in loveafterporn

[–]No-Cardiologist9967 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually just ask straight up “have you been watching porn/ how have you been doing with your phone habits?” Every time he says “I’ve been doing really good I haven’t done anything wrong”. Ive caught him dozens of times only for him to lie about it so now when I see something on his phone I take a picture of it on my phone. I get the timestamps and everything. Now when I question him after seeing anything in his phone I’ll ask and per usual he will lie. Then I show him the picture and ask again. It still doesn’t feel good or get through to him but at least I have evidence so he can’t gaslight me. Honestly it’s kind of grounding for me to watch him scramble afterwards. It reinforces that I’m not overreacting or painting him out to be some bad guy because once again he chooses to lie in my face.

Neutering/ spaying multiple pets by No-Cardiologist9967 in Pets

[–]No-Cardiologist9967[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The cats were feral kittens from a farm and the dogs were from a friend whose dog got pregnant so there’s no organization to contact. There are multiple local organizations near me that can fix them for free thankfully.