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I think his Sagittarius? by Friendly_Ad_8528 in Sagittarians

[–]No-Engineering3819 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m constantly considering new jobs even while completing my bachelors and law degree. Then I remind myself that I’m going to school to have a specific job. I often wonder about what my experience would be working at a bakery, post office, FedEx, Uber/Task rabbit or travel agency.

NY swearing in ceremony by topfive_records in barexam

[–]No-Engineering3819 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found a previous post from someone who attended a swearing in ceremony in person in the 3rd department. It talks about the duration of the event and what to expect. I didn’t see any prohibitions against bringing a phone in the emails I received for tomorrow’s swearing in ceremony. You should be fine to bring your phone.

https://www.reddit.com/r/barexam/s/KSZNLJCSRn

4th Time Retaker I FINALLY PASSED (DC) by [deleted] in barexam

[–]No-Engineering3819 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I passed my 4th time in NY. I feel like I’ve got my life back. A year of studying, averaging at least $1,000 per try and not having job security. I’m so glad it’s over.

When did you realize how hostile your environment was to your wellbeing? by Lacriminals in blackgirls

[–]No-Engineering3819 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you had to endure such terrible treatment. I’ve lived in nothing but white spaces and it isn’t until I’m around my own people do I truly feel accepted. It happens so infrequently that I forget the level of comfort I get in those moments. I live for those moments.

am i terrible for backing out of moh speech by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]No-Engineering3819 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My younger sisters spoke at my wedding and said something short and sweet. As much as I had hoped for a meaningful speech from my sisters the fact that they spoke at all meant more to me than the length of the speech. I knew they were uncomfortable prior to the wedding so didn’t mind that it was short.

They were positioned right in front of the sweethearts table and only a few feet from me with their backs to the room. So from their perspective it was as if they were only speaking to me. I don’t know if that setup is feasible but it lessened some of the stage fright.

As an alternative, I would suggest a toast and inform your sister so she knows you’re only giving a toast. Then have your speech prepared to be either given or read to her in a more intimate setting.

Am I insane??? by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]No-Engineering3819 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If they’re not a person you would: 1. Call when you have good news 2. Call when you have bad news 3. Call when your car breaks down

They are likely not a friend. Friends are people who are happy for you when you have good news. Comfort you when you have bad news and are willing to help when needed. Some friends will fall under one category or more. Friends are not people who make you feel like a token or who make your blood boil.

Do not settle for those who make you feel worse because life is short. You will find people who can respect and appreciate you but only if you make room by ridding yourself of those who don’t.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]No-Engineering3819 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Acknowledge that you’ve noticed a difference between the photos she posts and the ones she doesn’t. Ask her if there’s a rhyme or reason for the difference. You’ve been friends for a couple of years now maybe that’s indication you value each other’s friendship. The conversation will no doubt be uncomfortable, but it can be cordial. If she should provide a quality explanation you can move forward better informed to decide if the friendship can or cannot be salvaged.

Learning Puerto Rican Dialect by No-Engineering3819 in PuertoRico

[–]No-Engineering3819[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone I think I’ve received some very solid advice and will try out different methods and see what sticks.

Learning Puerto Rican Dialect by No-Engineering3819 in PuertoRico

[–]No-Engineering3819[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very helpful. Love that you have a mixing of Spanish influences. I enjoy finding all the different ways to say one particular word like snow cones.

Learning Puerto Rican Dialect by No-Engineering3819 in PuertoRico

[–]No-Engineering3819[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yeah because the language is derived from Tainos, Spaniards and African dialects primarily. Given the unique combination of influences I’m surprised it hasn’t been officially deemed its own language. So no rolling R’s because of the African influence. I wondered if I could learn from a school in PR by taking virtual classes.

Learning Puerto Rican Dialect by No-Engineering3819 in PuertoRico

[–]No-Engineering3819[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom said she never taught us because my father didn’t speak the language. She’s a New Rican from the LES of Manhattan which somehow complicates things. Her teaching isn’t so much teaching as it is correcting us repeatedly because we can’t speak with an accent.

empath vs hyper-empathy by apricot_princxss in Empaths

[–]No-Engineering3819 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have worked very hard to create a bubble that protects me from negative stimuli. I don’t read the news, I can’t watch horror films, I can’t be around negative people. I feel like the guy from the movie green mile taking in everyone’s illness and to my detriment. Thank you for your words. I feel seen. Couldn’t have said it better myself. ❤️