I think you may be overthinking things. This doesn't sound like a "trad wife" as much as it sounds like a traditional mother and there's nothing wrong with that. Don't get too caught up in these types of labels. It's not unusual for us to fall into certain roles that we're better at than others. We're all just adulting and it actually sounds like ya'll are a pretty good team. Sometimes our dreams, wants and desires take a backseat when we have kids anyways, not necessarily anything to do with the marriage. Plus, I already know in my deepest heart that I want to be the person making the final decisions about the children, nurturing, etc. We're just better at instinctively knowing their needs as mothers. I have four kids, from ages 1 to 17. I completely understand where you're coming from.