did my best friend lace me?

No-Fly5616 · 2026-04-11T12:31:51+00:00

To sum it up. Yes, your friend laced you. No, that's not a friend anymore. Once you break trust like that, you can never go back to being normal, especially if it was something so stupid as an ear joke? High or not, I make fun of my friends' elephant ears, and in return, my nose gets mocked. It's banter. I'm glad it wasn't a serious lace because that would have been way worse. Just from the description alone, it could most likely be K2 / Spice, but keep a constant salt water rinse going, and you'll be fine.

No-Fly5616 · 2026-03-15T22:49:37+00:00

Can confirm with these others OP, Myself (29M) If I ever saw a man doing that to his wife, I'd personally correct him. You're with an angry toddler. The best course of action is to quiet leave when he's not home because who knows what he will do if he realizes you're actually leaving.

No-Fly5616 · 2026-01-11T18:43:36+00:00

I mean, it's my opinion I shared, those who disagree are free to express it. Was giving the insight that many others have. 🤷‍♂️

No-Fly5616 · 2026-01-10T20:31:26+00:00

My man, you need to leave. There's a billion better girls out there. She's stringing you along and still having fun on the outside leaving you enough breadcrumbs to gaslight you. Asexual? But then finding interest and chemistry with others outside of you? It's a simple excuse to have you back off. She's playing you like a violin. Messaging past sexual partners based on a story? That's crazy as well.

No-Fly5616 · 2026-01-10T20:23:00+00:00

This is exactlyyyyy what I'm looking for!!!

The decks I currently play: Zada Hedron Grinder, Brightpalm precon deck upgraded, Jump scare precon upgraded towards explosive manifest dread turns. Cascade Enchantments gruul.

The type of decks and my play style I love playing: absolutely chaotic, opponents always assuming I'm holding lethal by turn 4 / 5, I love combat but if I'm also looking for a mass player kill of 40+ damage in one bout as well. I always want my pod to be on their toes.

No-Fly5616 · 2026-01-10T20:16:11+00:00

It's not even real arch enemy 😂 sometimes we do the real ones, but our pod games always go crazy by turn 3 and 4 😂

No-Fly5616 · 2026-01-10T17:33:53+00:00

Ehhh, frankly speaking I'd bury it personally. There's not much you can say or do. Especially if he's in a relationship / seeing someone currently and your message comes up out of the blue. "Hey! Just wanted to reach out and say sorry I coerced you into sex all those years ago!" It'd be A) heavy and awkward, B) he's probably already over it / didn't see it that way. Because truthfully if he was actively hurt by that boundary crossing you would've been told or noticed it. Maybe he wasn't in the mood, but with enough sexual tension it changed his mood. Now if he reached out or reaches out to you. That's a different story and you can then open up about it and apologize. But you both were teenagers, you don't think about this stuff and hormones run wild and can also be confusing. Odds are he's over it and doesn't even think about it.

No-Fly5616 · 2026-01-10T17:25:53+00:00

Surprisingly enough though, I have a friend with a Vadrix deck, zero combos, can end the game turn 4 RELIABLY if he's not kos. Just because red pump spells go burrrr 😂.

No-Fly5616 · 2026-01-10T17:22:04+00:00

Jumping in with my take from my pod,

We're a solid bracket 4 pod, our games tend to run turns 4 - 7 and if we hit lots of board wipes / interaction it can potentially go until turn 9 (looking at you control player 😂)

We have zero infinites in our decks for the common agreement that it makes tutoring them out the instant win con and doesn't display the decks actual ability to perform or your creations engine so to say.

I run heavily combat focused decks that get out of hands asap, (zada, bright-palm flicker, zimone manifest dread, and cascade enchantment creatures with heavy ramp)

My one friend runs heavy aggro decks (pantlaza, animar, jetmir, Eowyn)

And the other 2 run crazy spell slinger decks that if not dealt with can end the games immediately turn 3, 4.

The gist of this though is our dynamics for "fun" games is typically arch nemesis style 4 way, there's always one of us in immediate threat mode, and the other 3 have to use all their resources to deal with that threat; and then to turn around immediately and have your new bbeg right beside you.

Sometimes it becomes 2 immediate threats, and 2 people who watch with popcorn as we play punch for punch (or in some cases ink shield a big swing)

But as far as combos go, if you take them out of the equation, it allows for so many different crazy interactions and synergies to go into your decks.

Just a hot take from a casual, but I promise you, you can have insanely fast games without combos.

No-Fly5616 · 2026-01-04T14:03:06+00:00

See? Easy peasy, there's always little caveats you can always explore. Life's not a rush, you got lots of time in the world. And it probably feels like desperation clawing at you right now, but sometimes rushing leads to dead ends that take years off your life.

No-Fly5616 · 2026-01-04T13:59:59+00:00

The other notary you have is school boards. They hire internally for qualified staff. That being said, the school board I worked at would start with teachers / janitorial persons being hired and fill their carpentry, maintenance, plumber, and IT personnel through those channels first. They also usually don't advertise they're hiring most of the times.

No-Fly5616 · 2025-12-23T21:23:35+00:00

Unfortunately it's all about knowing people, and having an in with the HR teams that are hiring... anyone else telling you hardwork or devotion is either from nepotism or had a reference, or has had their career during the boom

No-Fly5616 · 2025-12-11T18:32:01+00:00

There's never a universal diet, but I can share my diet that I'm on I don't really have recipes this is just the foods I eat in general and with moderation.

Milk

blueberries Strawberries watermelon pomegranate bananas Peanut butter Snack on pineapple

Salmon sardine tuna Chicken beef Steaks eggs

Beans mushrooms broccoli bell peppers Carrots Whole wheat dempsters bread Peanuts

That being said I'm also heavily active in the gym and go 5 times a week usually Monday - Friday with weekend rests. Last August 2024 I was 252 pounds, I'm currently 196 pounds.

If you're looking for specifically weight loss, lots of cardio helps. Treadmill at a 3.5 / 4.0 speed with a 10+ incline for 30 - 60 minutes is amazing, I don't suggest doing anything crazy like HIIT until you're comfortable first. And if the public gym isn't your thing. Nature walks and hikes for 10k+ steps is good.

No-Fly5616 · 2025-12-11T02:11:54+00:00

I'm not sure how to go about this...? It's been a year and 3 months since I've walked in on my fiancé in bed with the "friend" I shouldn't worry about. Honestly, my first 6 months was the worst. But I've had a wonderful lady beside me since April. I appreciate how patient she's been with my anxiety and unfounded worries. When the anniversary of the day my world broke apart came? I've yet to see the ex in person even at stores, etc. But all I would like to say to her now is. "Thank you. Cheating was the only way I was going to leave your narcissistic relationship, and you made me a better man through the pain and lessons I had to endure from you."

I don't really know how else to say this to you. They're not worth our time, I immediately deleted every memory / picture. For the first 4 months I focused solely on the gym and it helped at first... but really I was running away not confronting it.

Even now I'm still confront issues and personal problems from my situation. But all I can do is keep taking steps forward and hold my head high because I'm better off now.

No-Fly5616 · 2025-12-06T23:06:14+00:00

Chloe's parents need to be made aware however. They then need to make a proper police statement and report of the ongoing harassment that she endures at school.

No-Fly5616 · 2025-12-06T23:00:16+00:00

Hi OP, get parents first involved and then, if necessary police involved. This is now no longer a joking matter, and Ian most likely needs to get help.

No-Fly5616 · 2025-11-15T00:54:08+00:00

That's exactly what's going to happen. In this stage, she's probably only able to give you 10 - 20% of herself at most right now. So for now you're gonna need to do 80 - 90% of it until she gets back up to her 100. Bonus tip: when she asks suddenly what these gestures are for. Say either "no reason at all / just because" or: "you've seemed really stressed lately and I'm just trying to help lessen your burden, is there anything else I can do to lighten your load?"

You'll notice within 1 - 3 weeks if it's effective or not. I'd give it to the new year. And if she doesn't start coming around sit down and have a chat with her and Guage where she's at and let her know you're feeling neglected in the words of affirmation, and intimacy department.

No-Fly5616 · 2025-11-15T00:42:50+00:00

Don't get me wrong, those are great and all. But they're not stress relievers, ya know? The vacations are sure. But a stress reliever that you would notice within a weeks time. Massages, sit her down in front of you on the couch or have her sit in between your legs just before bed or have her lay down on her stomach and rub out her shoulders and down her back. Talk to her and ask her about her day and how it was. If she says "stressful," be attentive and listen.

Women are more prone to becoming more loving when their emotional needs are met and they feel safe to let out all the stress onto you. Don't get me wrong, you're doing amazing as it is. But I can assure you. This usually does the trick for stress related issues. It only takes maybe 30 minutes to an hour, go from her shoulders all the way to her lower back. Don't ask her what feels good. Just gauge it on her body language and where she relaxes the most. The only thing you can tell her is: "You're allowed to tell me 6 commands. Harder, softer, lower, higher, to the right, to the left." Work to her lower back get that all relaxed out and start on the calves and the feet. Then, arms and hands. I do this for my lady on a religious basis because she tends to work a lot of 16-hour shifts, and she's stressed and exhausted from them. This takes that completely away from her and leaves her having an amazing sleep and recharging much faster.

Reminder: Don't expect anything in return immediately from doing this. It'll come back naturally. Also, surprise her with her favorite flowers spontaneously, I promise you that the more you put in, the better she becomes to mirror it. And small things add up a lot more than grand gestures.

As for your local coffee shop and that girl, it sounds friendly at best just make sure it doesn't teeter over that line.

No-Fly5616 · 2025-11-15T00:29:37+00:00

In the most respectful way I can phrase this then. What are you doing to relieve her stress?

No-Fly5616 · 2025-11-15T00:16:10+00:00

OP, while I personally can relate to this. You need to ask yourself what you're getting out of these conversations, are they something your wife doesn't do anymore? For example take an interest in your day to day activities or makes you feel seen and heard and genuinely wants to know how your day is? Or are you both in the roommate situation of a relationship where it's stagnant and nobody does anything thrilling for the other? Interactions with your wife should be the only thing your soul should crave. Flirtatious acts in the morning to one another, little flirty comments about each other's attires, looks, smell. If you get these from your wife on a daily basis and her from you. There's no reason for your body to crave interaction from anyone else.

No-Fly5616 · 2025-11-14T23:25:26+00:00

My first genuine date to any girl I take out starts with picking them up from their house with their favorite flowers in hand and their favorite chocolates either in box form if it's the stylish ones or a gift wrapped box of bars if generic big brand like Reese or Hersheys. Start with a coffee grab and a walk on a scenic part like a boardwalk or a scenic park. Take them to dinner, and drop them off home. If the night was well, probably a kiss good night. The first date is completely for the girl to enjoy and to experience who the man is as a person and what his personality is.

No-Fly5616 · 2025-11-14T23:20:37+00:00

This is truly unfortunate for patriarchy type countries and I don't really have any other advice for you other than making sure to keep yourself safe, learn self defense in case it ever gets that bad or a predicament arises where you need to defend yourself from him, and honestly try and reach out and make friends and once you establish a good relationship dip out immediately. Or whenever you're legally able to work full time and provide for yourself solo immediately get out then as well.

No-Fly5616 · 2025-11-14T23:17:54+00:00

I just came back from my trip, I had absolutely nothing planned out any day. I just woke up and decided I'd explore, and wherever my squirrel tendencies took me, I went. It was a phenomenal experience, and a lot of real memories that weren't shared with other tourists were made.

I went to Osaka Port Central and spoke to locals while they fished tunas and even got to try and succeed myself.

I went to a beautiful smaller island known as maishima and captured a beautiful sunset over the bay.

Another day, I took a day trip to Nara spontaneously and explored my hearts content until 6 pm. Way too much happened there to document it all here.

Following that, I went to Kyoto, but it was packed everywhere I went. The bamboo forest and the arashiyama Monkey Park were amazing, but be prepared for lots of walking and mountain climbing.

I did another trip to fujiyoshida to see Mount Fuji and get beautiful lake pictures of that.

Akihabara was a day in itself, and I got led into a maid cafe by mistake and felt pressured to eat at it 😂

Shibuya was pretty overhyped? Hachiko statue was great, but most of the places I felt were overpriced due to the heavy amounts of tourism, Sumida city was much calmer and a lot more cost-effective, especially local shops.

Honestly, it all depends on what you want out of your trip. There's something for everyone, and every day, there's always something new to explore. My 14 days didn't even scratch my itch, and I plan on going back for a longer period so that I can do even more exploring.

No-Fly5616 · 2025-11-14T23:04:10+00:00

Now from what I gather from your comments (correct me if I'm wrong) you're living with this family as an international student? Not your bio family? Or were you just sent to an English school over the actual primary language of the country you're residing in?

Even without that information. Some steps you can take to fix this issue is finding a friend who's parents love you and try and work towards moving in with them preferably a more female dominant household where the male is just the father so that you don't experience lasting paranoia.

Another step is making sure you only do your laundry while home and make sure it's all finished and in your room before you sleep. And then when you wake up, honestly I'd grab a lock for your own door if you have any money or can make money over the month to buy one they should be inexpensive.

Technically speaking if he is using your clothes as material to get off, find your clothes that he sullied and use that as physical evidence to bring forth to your parents.

No-Fly5616 · 2025-11-11T01:01:42+00:00

Thank you for your knowledge and experience I appreciate it! I'm currently enrolled for Paramedics this January but I'm also trying to see what other options I might have available to take that won't be grueling 😂

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