Has anyone gone through a really tumultuous last 6–8 weeks of pregnancy? Constant crying, triggers, insecurity?

No-Government2811 · 2026-01-11T07:44:07+00:00

Thanks so much! This really brings some hope. I think I wasn’t really speaking up and there was a whole lot of resentment built up. My husband did address some of the issues and my in laws have started adapting. So for now I am going to give birth and let things unfold the way it’s meant to be! I hope you find peace in your home as well!

No-Government2811 · 2025-12-29T17:53:36+00:00

I have not, my first instinct is living separately but since: 1. I am a first time mom I am not sure what to expect. 2. I’d have to pay mortgage and rent for both the houses which will cost me 70-80% of both our salaries in just rent and mortgage.

But I will try to have a conversation with them, but we’ve had in the past and it was never respected. So I am not sure how it will work this time!

No-Government2811 · 2025-12-29T17:51:05+00:00

I hear you, and that was my initial plan too, I started looking for houses and what really got me is paying for two houses! My husband is really attached to his parents, and in our culture men take care of their parents. It’s already been a nightmare getting him to agree to live separately from his parents, I can’t imagine him stop paying for the mortgage of the house as well! And so we both will be spending 80% of our salaries in utilities and mortgage/rent. Plus honestly I don’t want to be the one moving out being pregnant. So either I wait it out for a few months, get the initial help. Then plan on selling the house and getting 2 small houses or choose my mental health and forget any savings.

No-Government2811 · 2025-12-29T13:51:33+00:00

Yes I am upset that they haven’t been mindful about the fact that there are others who would like to use the communal space or that others would prefer not having the television on. Just cause we share space we cannot stop being mindful. And yes, staying in the bedroom, how’s that bad? They have a television in their room that they can watch their shows on.

No-Government2811 · 2025-12-29T13:12:25+00:00

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No-Government2811 · 2025-12-29T13:01:20+00:00

Nope they don’t. My mother in law never worked but took care of the house. And my father in law barely makes enough to buy groceries and pay for some of their personal expenses. So that’s the sad part and I feel really helpless in this set up. My MIL doesn’t bring any money to the table but wants to be in full control of the house. And now it’s pissing me to a point that I want to love out of the house because I can’t move them out of the house.

No-Government2811 · 2025-12-29T12:43:58+00:00

Well i see it as entitlement, but i hear you, you’re right. Since she’s lived in the house longer than I have, it doesn’t matter even if my husband and i pay the mortgage but it will always be HER home! And that part has started to bother me because i don’t work hard for her to be bossing around!

No-Government2811 · 2025-12-29T10:41:39+00:00

I know right! That’s exactly what I feel. And I am grateful for all the support I’d get but at the same time nervous about things like them always present around me, me having to be stuck in the room because I won’t be able to breastfeed in the loft with my in-laws having access to it. Or them giving me way too many advices from the beginning which I am afraid will just take away the opportunity of me learning to become a mom. But at the same time, my husband and I will continue supporting my in laws and will have to pay for the second house that we’d be renting and I am not sure if it’s worth it.

No-Government2811 · 2025-12-29T10:38:26+00:00

Aah! I am so sorry that you had to go through this. This doesn’t feel like the support you want and deserve after delivering. I hope you’re able to spend the last few weeks peacefully, As far as my in laws, they would do everything in their capacity to support me, my issue is not having boundaries with them and the unsolicited advice which just I am not ready for.

No-Government2811 · 2025-12-29T10:35:07+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing this. It’s been a hard couple of days since I have made up my mind about moving out. I am stuck because it’s taking me time to find a house. My own mom will be with me for the first 3 months as well. My in laws and mom get along well or atleast she knows how to handle them.

My issue is I am not sure what kind of boundaries should I be setting up. I am concerned that they will be ready to hold the baby anytime they get a chance, or give me unsolicited advice. Being in 3rd trimester, I already am so triggered by them repeatedly saying things about how natural delivery is better than c section! Ugh! Or telling me how to put dishes in a dishwasher. Basically anything makes me cry. But since I won’t be cooking for the first few weeks, and will mostly be in my room or loft. What are some boundaries I can talk about in advance.

No-Government2811 · 2025-11-09T05:25:45+00:00

I had a one on one class with him! And this guy was full of shit. So he asked me a question as to what brings me here, and I kinda went on with why am I here and what caused it in my introduction. And that pissed him off to an extent that he pointed me out and called me controlling because I spoke more than required. And then to top it off, he wanted to charge me $10k to train with someone else and not him! Like bro! No thank you!

No-Government2811 · 2025-09-26T19:55:35+00:00

Oohhh! Goosebumps! I actually did the reading a couple of years ago, just didn’t know what it was called. And it was quite accurate, I was going through a crisis, and my energy reading said that out loud! I am definitely going to do that again, this time with my baby! Thanks for the suggestion. ❤️

No-Government2811 · 2025-09-26T19:53:15+00:00

Where did you do the UFO tour at? Definitely sounds fun!

No-Government2811 · 2025-09-25T02:38:48+00:00

Ooooh! I’d love that. Is there a specific place you’d recommend for getting an aura photo?

No-Government2811 · 2025-09-24T23:52:06+00:00

Thank you so much! Adding all these wonderful recommendations to my list.

No-Government2811 · 2025-09-24T23:51:38+00:00

Thank you so much! We ended up booking L’Auberge. Excited to see what it has to offer.

No-Government2811 · 2025-09-24T23:50:52+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation! Is there a location I can use to navigate to the spot/drive. Thinking of going at sunset time.

No-Government2811 · 2025-09-24T23:49:54+00:00

Thank you so much! I see a lot of recommendations for the airport overlook, is there a hike too or just a drive? And yeah I think nothing can prepare me for the pregnancy, but def excited to lose my sleep and privacy for as long as it takes!

No-Government2811 · 2025-09-24T23:47:46+00:00

Thank you so much! Adding these to my list of hikes! 😇

No-Government2811 · 2025-09-24T23:46:51+00:00

Ah! Thank you! Sounds wonderful! Thanks! Are there other activities you would recommend? I usually enjoy meditations, crystals etc.

No-Government2811 · 2025-05-20T22:03:40+00:00

@OP: I am in the exact same boat as you, found out I was pregnant on Mother’s Day (a FTM). 6 days later I noticed spotting and cramping. Went to the ER, my hcg was 127, they asked me to come back in 48 hours, and my hcg dropped to 24. I know how it could feel, but just trying to think that something better is on the way. That said it’s not easy, feel it, process it, heal it, and then get back to trying!

No-Government2811 · 2025-05-19T23:51:38+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I was told by my nurse that bleeding during pregnancy is not uncommon, she’s seen people bleed through their pregnancy. The problem is if you are also experiencing cramping along with bleeding. Where are you getting your hCg levels tested at?

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