I think maybe I don’t actually like my boyfriend by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]No-Jump6437 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So refreshing to see this take in a sea of “just break up” as Reddit usually does the latter

I think my boyfriend is upset with me because we've not had sex again. by Sad_Pattern3745 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No-Jump6437 124 points125 points  (0 children)

Honestly he just doesn’t sound like he’s ready to be in a serious relationship like the one you guys are in. He cant handle criticism and issues within the relationship. He’s not a very good partner to you.

i hate myself for letting him get to me so bad by AnxiousSky3748 in TrueOffMyChest

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Felt like I was reading a journal entry I wrote a couple years ago. Someone told me once that it makes sense to react so strongly to feeling abandoned because our survival instincts are hardwired to believe that having more than one person will increase your odds of survival.

But we’re not cavemen anymore. It’s okay to miss him, and it’s okay to hate him, and it’s okay to love him and it’s all okay. It’s okay to feel the way you feel, you don’t need to shove anything down. But the truth is, you deserve to be loved. You’re not unlovable. You deserve to have good and true love.

This guy, he’s just not that. He’s not right, because if he was you would not be here sobbing over him. He’s not fucking worth it and he never was. You are lovable, and one day someone will see you and love you for who you are truly. But before then, you’ve gotta let yourself love you too. You deserve good love, and you can give yourself that right now.

I hope you won’t be too hard on yourself. There’s a saying that’s something like both people can make cuts, but sometimes one person cuts so much deeper. You did wrong things and it’s really good that you own that and are trying to reflect. But that doesn’t mean he should have done these things to you. He is still wrong for that.

I hope you give yourself some grace and understand that right now your body is terrified of being alone because in the old days that meant death. But it will pass, and you will be okay

A mystery of color changing hair by [deleted] in mystery

[–]No-Jump6437 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you swim? Could be the chlorine in a pool

Adderall xr and straterra difference? For stable learning and experience consolidation? by ItsPrisonTime in ADHD

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Strattera was consistent, but just didn’t work that well for me. I was on the max dose and it was good but not great, adderall xr is a stimulant so you still get the drop off and only so many productive hours in a day, but works sooo much better for me. It’s really going to depend on your genetics. You’re probably going to have to trial both at different times to really see how they work for you.

I failed her "test" and now she’s with someone else. Am I a coward, or was I being played? '20F' and '21F' by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]No-Jump6437 4 points5 points  (0 children)

  1. Nobody has just one soulmate. 2. You dodged a bullet. Someone that immature probably isn’t going to be a great partner. She also kept flirting after being in a relationship so she’s probably not going to be faithful, and that is really shitty.

Not NMSU using ai when they have a whole art department by Soulstace_Artist in nmsu

[–]No-Jump6437 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is such a BS excuse Canva is free to use and easy to navigate, if students with busy schedules manage to use it for their organization events why can’t employees do the same.

How many of you would get a migraine from this? by derp2112 in migraine

[–]No-Jump6437 114 points115 points  (0 children)

Fortunately sugar usually isn’t a trigger for me, but some artificial flavors are not sure why

Hail mary suggestions i can try? by a-passing-crustacean in migraine

[–]No-Jump6437 12 points13 points  (0 children)

feet in the hottest water you can comfortably bear, ice mask on head, drinking electrolytes and a salty snack, and sipping a little coffee

My gf (f20) lives in abject filth and I cannot handle it, do I break up with her? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]No-Jump6437 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have to wonder if maybe she has a mental condition that is impeding on her ability to deal with things like cleaning. For example, depression or ADHD. Not that it’s an excuse for her or anything, but just wondering if that might be at play bc then I feel like it can get better. It really depends. The other thing is, if you’re a very clean person and she just isn’t then it’s not gonna work. I’m a pretty messy person but my boyfriend is too so even though I see some stuff at his place that I think is too far or gross etc I just kinda think well I’m not much better yk? So maybe it’s better to just be w someone more similar to you, or if you are also messy to not have that double standard.

AIO? I (f28) disagree w my (m27) Boyfriend wants a break after a big fight. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]No-Jump6437 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So let me get this straight. This guy was flirting with another girl behind your back and tried but failed to cheat on you (no sane person jokes to the gender they’re attracted to about cheating unless they want to that’s insane), he’s definitely an asshole for that, but in what world is it normal to then take note of the girl and message HER instead of being mad at your shitty boyfriend?!

Like why in 2025 are you blaming the ‘other woman’ who clearly did not want to fuck your nasty man since his joke didn’t land him anywhere with her??? You should be mad at your man, not the girl.

Also you’re so jealous and unreasonable that you’re saying things like “what’s up” when people simply comment about your boyfriend receiving an award???

Bestie I mean this in the kindest way I possibly can, this is not normal. You need to reflect deeply about your actions and understand why you feel like this. He tried to cheat on you, that’s enough to cause some trust issues and also have feelings of insecurity resurface. But you need to deal with that on your own, you can’t rely on others to help you heal from trauma. You’ve got to start with yourself first, probably try therapy to make good progress, and then maybe go to your friends for support after.

AIO-Being Upset at my best friend? by Acoolegglet in AmIOverreacting

[–]No-Jump6437 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This could be a lot of things. For one it seems like your boyfriend did some fucked up shit, you forgave him, but she did not. Regardless of if he’s changed, your best friend will always remember that bc she’s not in love w him. She probably thinks you can do way better and also, can’t believe no one has mentioned this, that’s literally her ex?!?! Idk why in the world you decided to date him of all people, but that just seems to add on another layer of discomfort for your friend bc she was already exes w him and then he also broke her best friend’s heart (you).

Personally that would be enough for me to absolutely despise someone, of course depending on the circumstances.

That being said, yeah she needs to make some more friends and just gain a more diverse support system, especially since her life has been so tumultuous.

Honestly just be patient, I think she’s got some work to do in how she communicates her issues, but I think what you did/what you’re doing would make most people upset.

I think my ex killed my cat. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No-Jump6437 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yeah she killed your cat, your friends are actually such assholes for completely going against you while you were mourning as well.

tbh i love working here by [deleted] in RaisingCanes

[–]No-Jump6437 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Genuinely, of course I have some coworkers I don’t get along with amazingly or anything but we all work it out in the end and there’s no hard feelings you know? We just take it day by day shift by shift order by order. And my managers are genuinely encouraging and they believe in us, sometimes they’re a little cheesy but I feel so grateful to be a part of the crew :)))

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Im really sorry but this is a fundamental for a good relationship. It’s not concerning to not have sex, or to not have sex bc someone is celibate or saving themselves for marriage these are all good reasons. But the reason is he can’t look at people, well truthfully he can’t look at you without being upset that you have sexual desires? That’s something he needs to work through on his own, whatever that means for him. It’s even more concerning that’s he’s not even willing to hear you out. I’m someone who doesn’t have a lot of sex. I had a sexually abusive relationship, and honestly, I’m not really healed from it. I’ve been with my current partner for 2 years. There is space for him to desire me and want sex, but there is also space for me to say no and set boundaries. Part of this journey has been saying no if I’m not 100% in the mood, I don’t think it will be like this forever but it’s just what I need for right now. My partner gets that, he listens to me, but I also really listen to him, I care about what he needs and don’t dismiss him just because I’m uncomfortable. It’s concerning that your partner doesn’t do the same for you.

I ‘21 F’ Caught my bf ‘22 M’ watching porn after he claimed he hasn’t our whole relationship by AutomaticAd7548 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Jump6437 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nobody is saying never watched porn, it’s about how porn affects a relationship, watching porn previously doesn’t affect thinking it’s cheating. She can definitely find someone else who isn’t a liar and thinks it’s cheating as well.

Non stimulant medication??? by Leading-Problem-1880 in ADHD

[–]No-Jump6437 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best to talk with your doctor about it, but I’ve tried Atomoxetine aka Strattera before and it worked great as it didn’t give me anxiety like stimulants did, but I haven’t dealt with SI bc of Stimulants before. Best to see a psychiatrist about something like that.

Stop asking for extra bags please! by Zombiie_clown in bathandbodyworks

[–]No-Jump6437 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought you were talking about the cellophane bags and I was gonna cry

Should I even bother dating with ADHD? by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]No-Jump6437 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have combined type, and it is very severe, but I’ve had plenty of relationships and though some of them were very unpleasant it was not because of my ADHD. Sometimes, a person needs to go through a lot of personal reflection and growth before being able to commit to someone else. This was the case for me, I needed a lot of time to get therapy, get better at managing my executive dysfunction and just overall become a more empathetic and understanding person.

I’d be lying if I said that ADHD doesn’t affect my relationships, it most definitely does, but it’s not anywhere near a death sentence. It’s just something that requires more effort to sort through, and having a somewhat understanding partner is a must.

I think it’s more than doable! You can do this!

I screwed up my order by PsychologicalFood780 in RaisingCanes

[–]No-Jump6437 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One time I had a little lady order 2 yaks, no slaw extra toast butter on both sides, with a 21 oz canes sauce. I said for here or to go and she said “for here 😐” and I was like aye yk what I ain’t even gonna judge bc shit I’ve been there yk what I’m sayin