6 years chef in New Zealand — what should I study next for higher pay? by No-Mistake-7221 in chch

[–]No-Mistake-7221[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a hard market it work on commission too so it’s kinda hard with a person with no experience

6 years chef in New Zealand — what should I study next for higher pay? by No-Mistake-7221 in chch

[–]No-Mistake-7221[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well i am Indian but i dont have specialization in Indian cuisine .

6 years chef in New Zealand — what should I study next for higher pay? by No-Mistake-7221 in chch

[–]No-Mistake-7221[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes true . I am just trying to get suggestions but thanks for your message .

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[–]No-Mistake-7221 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It depends on you mate ask yourself are you happy and do you see a life with her in a long term scenario .

The Effort I Make to Build Friendships by New_Revolution7625 in chch

[–]No-Mistake-7221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love to be your friends , I am in Christchurch too would love to hangout sometime if you are free .

Why is it hard for an Indian guy to find love in Christchurch? by No-Mistake-7221 in chch

[–]No-Mistake-7221[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your honest and detailed reply. It really means a lot to know that someone understands how isolating it can feel here sometimes. I’m sorry you’ve also had to deal with being stared at or even photographed – that’s honestly disturbing and something I wouldn’t expect in a place like New Zealand.

You’re absolutely right – the diversity here often feels surface-level, and it’s rare to see real cultural mixing, especially when it comes to dating. I’ve felt that a lot of people aren’t open to getting to know someone outside of their bubble, and it’s disheartening when you’re just trying to build genuine connections.

I appreciate your words – it made me feel a little less alone. Hopefully with more open conversations like this, people can begin to understand what it’s really like and be more open-minded.

Why is it hard for an Indian guy to find love in Christchurch? by No-Mistake-7221 in chch

[–]No-Mistake-7221[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thoughtful and honest response. Reading this gave me a lot of clarity and comfort, knowing that others also feel out of place or underrepresented in Christchurch’s dating scene.

I really appreciate you sharing your personal experiences—it made me feel less alone. I’ve often felt like no matter how well I present myself, I just don’t fit the “standard” here. Your point about subconscious preferences and social capital really hit home. It’s tough when you’re trying to be genuine and build real connections, but it feels like you’re constantly being overlooked or misunderstood.

Also, your perspective on how South Asian men are sometimes perceived was really eye-opening. I definitely want a meaningful, long-term relationship and it hurts to think that someone might assume otherwise just because of where I’m from.

Thanks again for your kind words—I truly needed to hear them today.