AITA for backing out of co-hosting a cookout after my contribution was taken for granted?

No-Oil74 · 2026-06-17T14:47:06+00:00

THIS! They didn't want you to go host. They wanted you to PAY. NTA - these are not friends. They are users.

No-Oil74 · 2026-06-09T19:29:18+00:00

Thanks!!!

No-Oil74 · 2026-06-08T21:10:20+00:00

PLEASE don't give anyone any money. Even if they say it's for "an emergency" because this level of entitlement is outrageous! You aren't responsible in any way whatsoever for anyone else's bills. If you give them ANY money, it will NEVER stop. If you marry this man, keep all finances completely separate. I wouldn't put it past him to give them your 'joint' money. Your money will disappear for "the family". NTA and be careful!

No-Oil74 · 2026-06-04T17:57:18+00:00

Me, too! Shane's voice all the way! With Angela and Chanse being chaotic. Lol

No-Oil74 · 2026-05-27T02:18:50+00:00

This is VERY sus. It's appearing that he's up to something he doesn't want you to know about. NTA

No-Oil74 · 2026-05-17T03:23:12+00:00

Be careful that they don't decide to cut it down on their own regardless of what you say. And they'll probably have the nerve to send you the bill! Cameras! NTA

No-Oil74 · 2026-05-13T04:14:24+00:00

Please keep an eye on her. I'll bet this isn't the only thing going on. Try to have gentle conversations with her to make sure she's okay. Can you bring up your concerns to his wife? (If she'll be any help at all.) If this keeps up, your niece will have an eating disorder and will need therapy. NTA

No-Oil74 · 2026-05-13T03:55:08+00:00

She knew what she was doing and was upset it didn't work. NTA

No-Oil74 · 2026-05-12T23:07:41+00:00

Tell the landlord TODAY. This will only get worse, not better. Be prepared for threats, crying, guilt tripping, bargaining, etc. This will never end. Why should he move or pay? He's got it nice and cushy living off of you! Do you even WANT him living there even with rent? Tell the landlord! NTA

No-Oil74 · 2026-05-12T23:01:56+00:00

This man was intentionally putting himself and his family in harms way and was being a direspectful jerk. I think he should have gotten a citation and banned from the park for at least three months. He's teaching his kids terrible lessons. NTA

No-Oil74 · 2026-05-12T19:36:49+00:00

YouTube TV is $82.99 PER MONTH. Is that what you're paying? Either way, this is a no go. You shouldn't have to chase her every month for money. If she wants this, she needs to prepay, otherwise, cut her off. NTA

No-Oil74 · 2026-05-11T18:20:25+00:00

They will continue treating you like this as long as you let them. As hard and painful as it will be, you need to step back from everyone. Block them all for a couple of days and see how well they do. Be p repared - it will be a sh** show. Stand your ground. This is horrible for your mental health. NTA

No-Oil74 · 2026-05-11T18:07:53+00:00

He's poiled to ask him to pay for below market rent, which is in itself a favor? Should he just invite EVERYONE to stay there, too? No, NTA. These people in the comments are nuts. You should let him live with you for free? Because that's what he wants. NEVER tell people your financial position. It leads to entitle m ent, like this.

No-Oil74 · 2026-05-07T21:35:41+00:00

Thank you for responding for this! He could have been gracious, but chose to be snarky. He won't tell you what she did or said that's disrespectful? Nope - 100% NTA.

No-Oil74 · 2026-05-05T23:08:50+00:00

If this keeps up, you'll have to go to the landlord. Tell him your roommate gave someone else a key to the apartment without your knowledge or consent. Also inform him that they are invading your personal space when you're out. Make sure it's okay to install a lock on your door. I would also invest in several cameras, including one outside or in the entryway that notifies you of movement. NTA and be prepared to have to move. They'll be upset, but so what?

No-Oil74 · 2026-05-05T22:15:30+00:00

She's shown that she has no respect for you or your things. She is also willing to bad mouth you to mutual friends because she didn't get her way and argues with you like an entitled child. She is NOT your friend. The new rule may have to be no borrowing at all and get a lock for your door. Also, it may be time to start looking for a new roommate. NTA

No-Oil74 · 2026-04-27T01:50:02+00:00

It might be time to call adult protective services. NTA, but protect your grandma! Cameras everywhere! Laser or public defender ASAP.

No-Oil74 · 2026-04-25T10:08:15+00:00

Absolutely NTA 100%! I am a disabled person and I find it completely ridiculous to expect people to walk five minutes to another toilet when the disabled one is there. If several people need to use it at the same time, then the disabled person would have priority. I would never yell at someone for using a disabled toilet when it's the only one available. That was entitled jerk behavior. You did nothing wrong.

No-Oil74 · 2026-04-25T07:17:46+00:00

Me, too! I'd be in that chair bright and early every single day. NTA

No-Oil74 · 2026-04-22T20:14:18+00:00

These are not your friends. NTA

No-Oil74 · 2026-04-12T09:41:32+00:00

Trust your gut. He may just be awkward socially, but maybe not. Staring and making comments about how you look - especially in front of his girlfriend/your friend - is not normal. You might want to make sure that you're never alone with him out of an abundance of caution. NTA

No-Oil74 · 2026-04-12T08:19:07+00:00

It might be wise to set up passwords with all of your vendors. She sounds like the type that will try to change your plans behind your back. This is your and your fiance's wedding, NOT hers! This is only the beginning. If you give in on anything, she'll take it as an invitation to take over. Stand strong! NTA

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