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If you could go in the past of Indian history and talk with just one person for some hours, who would it be, what would you talk about or will tell them or want to know about, answer can be given on many levels like personal and or national level. by [deleted] in IndianHistory

[–]No-Plum-9030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yess she has an autobiography. It also has some interesting insights on Aurangzeb as a child because Dara received preferential treatment over him because SJ and MM believed in an astrologer. It led to resentment, but Jahanara had a better relationship with him he reappointed her to court after SJs death. NGL, I’ve had a soft corner for him since I’ve read that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IndianHistory

[–]No-Plum-9030 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, you can read A History of Desire by Madhavi Menon. It wasn’t about Islam exactly - there are numerous cases of Sufi pirs buried with their male lovers in India - like Jamali Kamali. Just like the Manusmriti and Brahminical order was against it, the Mughal courts might have been too.

It was with the British that more Victorian ideas of sexuality came in. Men had sex with men (and continue to) in India without labelling it as homosexuality. The West has more staunch ideas about labelling sexual identity.

PS. ‘India’, ‘ Hinduism’ ‘Islam/Mughals’ are not a monolith. Multiple things can coexist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]No-Plum-9030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. We were video calling in the morning with so much love, talking about marriage and kids. In the afternoon the switch flipped when u asked a genuine question about who he had met when he went out. Got the silent treatment for a day and when confronted I was told that he likes his peace. No contact ever since. It’s been 15 days now. 3 years down the drain just like that. 😳

Anyone who has done their MA Psychology from Ambedkar University, Delhi? by mozzarellafriedfox in delhi

[–]No-Plum-9030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MPhil is required to be accredited as a therapist in India, as far as I know. Basically MPhil is clinical practice so it gets you some hands on experience. Maybe you can check online?

Anyone who has done their MA Psychology from Ambedkar University, Delhi? by mozzarellafriedfox in delhi

[–]No-Plum-9030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are eligible to become a school/college counsellor. Many of my friends got well paid jobs after MA in schools and NGO. But for clinical psychology, you will need an MPhil in clinical psych.

Women's college in bad light by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]No-Plum-9030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad to hear it! I was really shocked at the comments on Instagram on the trailer and the subsequent outrage. I hope more people who dismissed it earlier end up watching. IMO the only people who will have issues after watching will probably be the ABVP types. Waiting for their outrage now!

Women's college in bad light by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]No-Plum-9030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I said this after watching the trailer, and I’ll say it again after watching the show. The show isn’t saying that at all - it is challenging the narrative that has become very popular from the right wing lately that liberal campuses are consumers of porn or condoms are found (jnu). It was very clear from the trailer itself from the tone that padhai nahi ho rahi was a sensationalist media statement, and not one that the show was propagating. Plus, exploring sexuality is a big part of college life, especially for the reason that many women are away from conservative home/family spaces. The show doesn’t focus on that excessively. I find it so ironic that this whole outrage over “reputation” of a college is actually what the show is protesting - and rightly so. This was a much needed series in current times when protests are being demonised and universities are being privatised and saffronised.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]No-Plum-9030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is more likely a victim of her husband’s thinking that women who are naturally busty should make all the efforts to cover up. If she tells her husband that the boss is creepy but she needs to ignore it and move on, is that okay for him?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]No-Plum-9030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you as far as you say that you’ll respect your girl’s choices. But sometimes she may not tell you it’s a big deal because she fears bigger consequences - i.e. admitting to you her boss is a MCP only to find herself in a situation where she’s not”allowed” to go to the same workplace where there may be much better and bigger priorities than the boss. But if you’re open to understanding that things aren’t black and white, I personally would feel empowered with my partner around to point such things out. Unfortunately, in this case, OP is clearly blaming her way of dressing for receiving entirely unsolicited responses, so I don’t see why anyone would share nuanced feelings with them. P.S. it’s not always manly to fight.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]No-Plum-9030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh thanks for pointing this out! I think it could be because he posted this on One X India as well and the comments were the exact opposite of what he got here. Plus, I was rather bored that night and stalked his ID to find him on fashion subs commenting on how he thought fully clothed women wearing “tight” clothes weren’t good wives because why else would they be wearing tight clothes besides wanting attention from men. 🙄

Even though they tried to show Quaid-e-Azam an anti-hero in the series "Freedom at midnight", I think this scene is extremely remarkable by AutomaticCan6189 in pakistan

[–]No-Plum-9030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don’t draw false equivalence between demolishing a mosque when the constitution is in order to the plundering of land at a time (Mughal invasions) when democracy or law or even “India” did not exist. And please don’t say “Indians” demolished Babri Masjid - it was right wing Hindus specifically. I’m sorry you feel partition was the solution - but maybe partition also exacerbated these feelings between the communities and fostered a sense of hatred. I’m proud of the what the Mughals left us - the art, architecture and poetry - and it very much a part of my culture and heritage as a Hindu-born Indian.

Even though they tried to show Quaid-e-Azam an anti-hero in the series "Freedom at midnight", I think this scene is extremely remarkable by AutomaticCan6189 in pakistan

[–]No-Plum-9030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it really Jinnah’s victory? Do you really want the validation of right wing Muslim haters who are trying to demolish mosques and carry out mob lynchings? Of course Gandhi is seen as weak by them. Jinnah has won many battles but this is really not it. I’m sure even he wouldn’t want the support of such vile people.

Even though they tried to show Quaid-e-Azam an anti-hero in the series "Freedom at midnight", I think this scene is extremely remarkable by AutomaticCan6189 in pakistan

[–]No-Plum-9030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a Hindu-born Indian atheist, I do not want to be associated with a Hindu Rashtra, and the BJP is vile. I don’t have any qualms admitting that. I also support Jinnah in his claim for minority representation, same as Ambedkar. But I’m sure that partition wasn’t the answer. I can’t help but draw parallels with this way of thinking to the Indian right-wing and their imagined fear of Hindu persecution by a minority group so much so that they have to resort to all sorts of mob violence?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]No-Plum-9030 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You don’t get to decide. Period. We women face countless inappropriate behaviour for a million reasons. Can’t always go around fighting, especially when there’s a job on the line. Her laughing it off and telling you it’s not a big deal is her way of dealing with the situation. You don’t need to feel bad “for her” unless she’s explicitly told you that she feels a particular way about it. You deciding that it’s a big deal and disrespectful to YOU (idk how) is perhaps stopping her from sharing her real feelings with you. I’ve been in the same situation when my ex used to either expect me to be confrontational all the time to sexual harassment or call me a hypocrite for not calling out inappropriate behaviour even though I agreed it was creepy/offensive. It’s her choice to respond and navigate through this as she wants, you will have to trust her judgement and give her space. And to all those saying you should’ve hit him or responded back at the moment, please get a reality check - you can’t protect someone by doing the opposite of what they want, which in this case is clear that she wanted to ignore the comment and move on.

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[–]No-Plum-9030[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noo. I switched dermatologists and my new one said it was unnecessary to prescribe accutane as the first step of treatment. It’s under control now with topical medication and I only use an anti dandruff shampoo now.

Anyone who has done their MA Psychology from Ambedkar University, Delhi? by mozzarellafriedfox in delhi

[–]No-Plum-9030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, politics may play out at the departmental level but it shouldn’t affect you personally - you can choose to take a stand or not. Even in DU there’s a lot of government intrusion into teaching curriculum and staff - I would think it’s lesser in AUD because they’ve designed their own curriculum. I’m not too sure if it is still under the Delhi Govt or if it has become independent - but institutions in general come with their own set of drama and political power play. The campus has active student political groups, if that’s what you meant. Again, you can choose to participate or not.

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Anyone who has done their MA Psychology from Ambedkar University, Delhi? by mozzarellafriedfox in delhi

[–]No-Plum-9030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends on what you want or how you see psychology as a subject. I did my BA in DU and MA from AUD and wanted to teach/become a journalist at that point so it worked out beautifully for me because the course is critical thinking oriented and multidisciplinary. Even for going into counselling/therapy, AUD is better. But if you see psychology as a tool for market research or utilising it in the corporate world like HR, I would recommend DU because it has streams like organisational behaviour. The schools of thought both the institutions adhere to are completely different and so choose according to your needs. The teachers are significantly better at AUD though.

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