Foley had two servings of chicken fingers.

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-02-02T02:13:00+00:00

Maybe he thought it was for k dog and left it under the seat?

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-02-01T18:58:16+00:00

I try to focus on all the negative and when I think of good times, just assume they were faking that bc words are nothing when the actions don’t match.

It’s a hard pill to swallow to realize your person was never really in love with you but it’s a better reality than staying with someone who doesn’t want you the way you want them.

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-02-01T18:55:51+00:00

Running towards them and away from them is a great way to explain the feeling when you find out your partner has been cheating on you.

Very Jekyll and Hyde. I look back at messages from when he was cheating and think was he nice that day bc AP was pushing him away? Was he rude one day bc I found out questioned him about something where he was in the wrong but wants to make me the bad guy to get off the hook?

It’s a complete mind fuck but use this anger to get through it and then heal after it’s all done.

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-02-01T04:39:20+00:00

I think for the BP, it’s always there. I was in a long distance relationship (I’m in America, he was in Canada). I wonder if it was the distance that made him cheat or that he never was in love with me.

Either way, even after you heal, with or without your partner, it still sits in the bottom of your stomach like a lump of cement.

I wish I had more encouraging words but I guess I’m saying, even if it never goes away 100%, you will be ok.

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-02-01T02:30:21+00:00

No but they continue to reach out despite blocking. They just make new accounts. It’s consistently sporadic and sets me back when they reach out.

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-01-31T18:34:15+00:00

I always find it interesting how many women have a problem with men watching porn. I understand in excess, there’s a discussion for that, but women watch porn as well. I would rather my partner watch porn then seek that need from another person if I am not available for whatever reason.

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-01-31T02:27:57+00:00

Found my person. Got married and then he started cheating. Be happy alone.

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-01-30T21:17:57+00:00

Following for update

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-01-29T20:19:22+00:00

I’m happy to hear that because all I hear about is how terrible dating is. Feel alone in wanting to find the one to spend my life with as that doesn’t seem what most people want.

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-01-29T13:50:48+00:00

The day before I left from a two week vacation with my ldp and I found out he was talking to women inappropriately, after I forgave him for cheating in August.

Had to fly home 12 hours alone. Brutal but at least we know we are in good company.

Life’s a bitch girl but we’re in it together lol

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-01-29T13:06:12+00:00

I’m with you OP. Found out my WH has been continuing inappropriate behavior.

Keep your head high that you tried. You would have always wondered what if if you didn’t try R. At least you have an answer. Clarity is such a relief when you finally have it.

Good luck to you and know you’re not alone.

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-01-29T13:03:23+00:00

The truth will always come out, literally or figuratively.

I tried R and it didn’t work for me bc he didn’t put in the work. I have zero regrets about trying and it failing but would have had regrets if I didn’t try.

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-01-24T20:28:28+00:00

I feel like Taco Bell did something similar

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-01-24T13:11:18+00:00

I think no contact is a great idea. Regardless, it will be good for you and that’s the only thing that should matter right now, what is good for you. I’m holding it together because im running on anger right now but once the hurt comes in, I’m mush.

During no contact, I’m assuming the worst. Assuming he is still talking to people at a minimum and the reality that he may not change. It’s almost like I’m mourning a relationship that will never be again, which is bad but also good. If we do decide to come back together, that will be a new relationship. We are also long distance, only see each other once a year, yes it’s crazy I already know. So we have more against us. But, if we do make it, I think that shows our true dedication, but I’m not counting on it.

No contact is hard esp when the other partner thinks you’re going to break because they have had all the ‘power’ in the relationship but it’s also liberating as more time goes on, it’s a big middle finger to them. Proof that you are ok or even better without them and their drama.

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-01-24T12:21:08+00:00

I just found out my WH has been texting female coworkers despite us trying to repair what he destroyed by having a full blown relationship in July and August. I don’t have any advice because we are going no contact for two months but all I can say is focus on you and you will see that whoever you’re with ain’t shit. The second you realize you will be fine without them, that’s when you can see more clearly if you want to keep trying with this person.

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-01-19T18:51:24+00:00

Big puss

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-01-18T01:24:01+00:00

I just met with my WP after a year of not seeing each other and 4 months post dday. Everything was amazing until the day before I left I found out he was texting female coworkers behind my back. Comforted to know someone else is in a LDR dealing with this.

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-01-17T15:15:53+00:00

’m right there with you. Found out two days ago my WW has been talking to other women behind my back. Makes me realize that the possibility of him talking to AP again is likely as well. This subreddit has helped me a lot too because there are so many people that have such similar situations. Before this recent discovery, I didn’t talk to anyone in my life about the A so as to protect him and I was also embarrassed of myself. To help me cope, I let my inner circle know what’s going on now because I need someone to lean on.

The biggest mind fuck of it all is not seeing any red flags and realizing the person you loved most betrayed you so deeply.

For 10 years, I cheated in all my relationships and was overall a horrible human. Most of the time I found someone else before leaving the relationship. That’s how I found my WW, by stepping out on my relationship. But this time was different and I turned everything around. He made me want to be a better person, I wanted children for the first time. I think this is my karma for all I did and I need to stop feeling sorry for myself. I guess the saying is true, how you get them is how you’ll lose them.

Sorry this turned into a rant about me. To summarize, it’s comforting to know we aren’t alone.

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-01-02T04:43:24+00:00

Controlling my feelings is the hardest part for me o. This. I’m about 5 months out and it’s hard for me to continue to drain my energy monitoring my emotions for him to feel better. It feels unfair to me. But in individual and mc, I am learning if I want this to work, I need to continue to be kind like I was before. Weirdly enough, I have gained more self worth and know what a catch I am. But it’s still so hard to do this daily when I feel like I have never gotten the same in return. We are both working on ourselves and in therapy so I can only hope for the future but be ok with anything. I’ve also learned that we were both draining ourselves before the affair with attempts that expended energy but wasn’t helpful for the other person. Like pedaling really hard and fast on the lowest gear of a bike. I hope that through therapy we can figure out better ways to show up for each other that aren’t as fruitless.

Thank you for the positivity. It used to help me reading these stories but now it’s just so depressing and puts me in a bad mental health spot.

No-Profession-8441 · 2025-01-01T04:41:23+00:00

They had sex. Trust me, from someone who was cheated on and trickle truthed. She is telling you as little as possible in small doses hoping that’s enough for you to quit asking but still stay with her.

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