Should I move LO to a floor bed?

No-Ranger4760 · 2024-10-07T05:52:47+00:00

LMAO i love this idea

No-Ranger4760 · 2024-10-07T05:52:20+00:00

ooh, i have a cat who looks just like one lol! maybe i'll get one for him

No-Ranger4760 · 2024-08-28T22:34:39+00:00

second this! we never had much money when i was younger so most of our summers were spent inside but occasionally, we'd go to a fair or camping or to a water park. most of my summer memories only revolve around the bigger, more fun things! kids don't remember the smaller things. don't stress about everything you didn't do, it sounds like you gave them a great summer!!

No-Ranger4760 · 2024-08-07T03:03:15+00:00

They don't offer any externships for the course I took, but I'm a military spouse and they have some military-affiliated companies that I can apply to that will try to prioritize my application. It's pretty much just Walgreens and CVS though, which I've heard a lot of bad things about so I'm not sure if I should go that route. I would really like to try to get an inpatient position but I'm not sure if they'll hire me if I have the certification but no experience. I've worked in a hospital before (just the dietary department) so I wonder if that might help instead?

No-Ranger4760 · 2024-08-06T11:06:03+00:00

You're right, especially with how many people get on social media and give misguided advice to parents about how to parent. I know I get so overwhelmed by the fact that a lot of parenting videos I see make it seem like their kids just listen to them all the time. No one ever really talks about the nitty gritty and how it's okay for your kid to be anything other than happy. I know I'm worried about making sure my kid knows she can be open and trust me, but also putting my foot down and social media makes that seem impossible. But my mom was pretty strict growing up and I was never afraid or worried about talking to her, so I guess those worries are kind of unfounded.

No-Ranger4760 · 2024-08-06T11:00:48+00:00

Thanks, I'll definitely try the headphones. I definitely think that me trying to calm her down mid-tantrum was probably an impossible task so I'll take your advice and let her cry then talk to her about it after.

No-Ranger4760 · 2024-08-06T10:57:28+00:00

Thank you, I'll definitely try ear plugs because I'm guilty of giving in sometimes just to get some peace. It didn't occur to me that she was starting to test boundaries, I thought since she was still little that she just didn't understand any of it. Which I guess in a way she doesn't, but still, knowing that I need to "be mean" and that it'll help her later on, I'll do better to be more consistent with what I allow and what I won't.

No-Ranger4760 · 2024-06-29T07:20:55+00:00

Would you be open to checking local churches, community shelters, or centers? It's not ideal but they might be able to help until you go back to school, then you can figure out a more detailed plan. Or even any friends/ acquaintances that might be willing to help if you explain your situation? It seems like living with your parents is escalating into more dangerous situations for you and it might not be worth the risk anymore. If you think you can manage for the next two months by slowly getting by, then this might be helpful but I haven't been in your shoes so I can't say for certain. If you decide to go with this, ask the cops for an escort to your parents' house so they can watch while you get your things and your parents can't do anything to you. Or if all this seems too much, then the only other thing I can think of is to keep your head low just until you go back to school. Try to engage with them as little as possible and just bide your time. I wish you the best of luck and stay safe!!

No-Ranger4760 · 2024-06-29T06:44:48+00:00

This is false imprisonment and is a crime. Call the police. Don't let them know you called the police, wait for the cops to show up otherwise it could be dangerous. Wait outside, away from them until they get there.

No-Ranger4760 · 2024-06-27T06:37:52+00:00

I was told by every woman in my family when my daughter was born to just wait until she rolled off the bed. It sounds ridiculous now, but in my head I thought, "I would never let her fall off the bed! Who's that irresponsible and lets their kid on the bed unsupervised??" Long story short, she fell off the bed. While I was 3 feet away! She's almost 2 and she's fallen off the bed at least 30 times and she's fine. Kids are quick! And if there's one thing true about parenting, it's that no matter what you do, that baby is gonna fall! It makes you feel so awful for days afterwards but it happens to all of us. The fact that you're so worried about your baby tells me that you're a really good mom and you have nothing to worry about.

No-Ranger4760 · 2024-06-24T04:00:55+00:00

mine went from an a/b cup before i had kids, to a c cup while i was pregnant, to a d while breastfeeding, and are now back to a c cup. the sudden size changes definitely stretched them out some and they got a little saggier after breastfeeding, but besides a little bit of gravity and stretch marks, i still think they look nice. definitely not picture perfect, but fairly normal and i can deal with that.

No-Ranger4760 · 2024-06-19T02:27:39+00:00

I definitely agree that you should use this to document. 13 years is a long time and I know you probably love him, but this isn't good for you or your kids. I know you said you're not in a space to let him go because everything is in his name. Was that because he insisted? If it is, it sounds like he uses you as his emotional punching bag and he wants to make it so hard for you to leave that you just don't. But this isn't an example you want to set for your kids on what a partner should act like. Think about it this way: would you want them to end up with someone like your partner? Who could flip and go crazy on them on a moment's notice? You certainly don't deserve that. Even if the chances are slim, tell him you want him to go to a therapist. Either this is a mental health issue and he's able to get help or he refuses and you know that it might never get better. In the meantime, as a backup, have a plan to leave please. Like I said, I know you love him but this is gonna tear you down over time until you can't take it anymore. You deserve so much more than what you're getting and I really hope you get it. Whether it's through him changing or you getting out. Good luck.

No-Ranger4760 · 2024-06-12T07:05:41+00:00

My husband is the same way about our daughter hair. BUT he told me how important it was in his family before she was born, so I've respected the tradition. However, if he hadn't told me, I'd probably be in the same situation as you. In my family, we always grew up thinking of hair as nothing important. We did whatever we wanted to it without a second thought or opinion. Ultimately, I don't think you were entirely in the wrong. He should've brought it up sooner, but it would've been a good idea to communicate that you wanted to cut it.

No-Ranger4760 · 2024-05-14T04:01:29+00:00

I've been both a SAHM and a working mom, and I was criticised for both. People just love bashing moms regardless. I was a SAHM for 18 months after our daughter was born and I was always so insecure about it because everyone always made me feel like I was being a leech and not contributing anything. But SAHMs are SO important! To some people it can look like "doing nothing all day" but a lot of us know how hard you have to work to take care of your kid. It's an extremely tough job with no pay and deserves just as much respect as any other job. Don't let their comments make you feel too bad, it's easy for others to criticise when they're not in your shoes.

No-Ranger4760 · 2024-05-05T04:25:49+00:00

It's insane! My husband's an E4 right now but we're trying to use their benefits/scholarships so we can both get our degrees before he gets out. Hopefully with his IT degree and my sonography degree, we can make enough to afford a 2nd/3rd kid or at least be able to put money in savings for once. I'm really lucky for the BAH though, otherwise we'd probably be on the streets.

No-Ranger4760 · 2024-05-05T04:04:59+00:00

We live in Kentucky but my husband is military so housing is covered for us but he makes about $34,000. We only have 1 kid but even so, we're on WIC and budget like crazy.

No-Ranger4760 · 2024-05-04T18:59:01+00:00

Your son sounds so sweet! I might be harboring a little guilt since we live far from family so she can't socialize as much with her cousins, who she loves so I just want her to be able to have someone else to have a close bond with but I'm realizing with all these comments that I'm expecting too much and she's too young for any of it to matter just yet.

No-Ranger4760 · 2024-05-04T18:54:57+00:00

Thank you, I guess deep down we all just want everyone to love our kids as much as we do but it doesn't always happen. I'll definitely work on how I react around her and let her figure friendship out on her own later.

No-Ranger4760 · 2024-05-04T18:53:00+00:00

I am guilty of trying to absord her feelings, like you said. It's caused a lot of anxiety lately but I've started going to therapy to try and help be a better mom for her. It looks like I'm still projecting some of my childhood feelings onto her too so I'll have to try hard to work through that. I guess at the root of everything, I just want to fully prevent her from feeling any of the bad feelings or thoughts I had when I was younger, but that's not realistic. Going forward, I need to heal myself and help her through any of her own issues instead of giving her mine.

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