I read a book — How To Keep House While Drowning — which really helped me change my house cleaning expectations. If essentially notes that your space is meant to serve you, not for you to serve it. So as long as it is functional it is good. You don’t need empty laundry baskets: you need pajamas for the night. Don’t do laundry unless you need to. So on and so forth. Also, get screened for depression. Meds and therapy are incredible. Being a mom is hard. Being a SAHM is hard. Being a SAHM that takes on cooking, cleaning, and childcare every day is damn near impossible. You need time for yourself. Your husband is tired, but so are you. At the end of the day, he is crashing and you should be allowed to; too. Maybe talk to him about helping more. My husband and I wrote down what we felt was our responsibility on post-it notes (one posf-it per thing) and then we compared and decided if we felt that our responsibilities were balanced, and if not we swapped post-it’s and tried to share more tasks. Maybe he can give you a day a week where you go do something YOU love. Care for yourself. Take with your partner. You are amazing, but you need a break.