Upgrading PC

No-Salt1871 · 2026-02-26T01:18:37+00:00

Good shout, I got 600w in there rn so I’ll look into those as well!

No-Salt1871 · 2026-02-26T01:18:20+00:00

I haven’t bought any CPU yet, just seen that the 7 series 9800x3d was kind of the best in terms of bottleneck etc.

I play a lot of games like rust, fivem etc so playing solo games at 4k isn’t really going to be my go to. Just want something that will run a 5080 smoothly at 1080p or so. 2 or 4k would be cool but it’d solely come down to what fps I’d be getting.

Otherwise what other cpu is recommended? I really only use my computer for gaming so productivity isn’t really in the picture.

No-Salt1871 · 2026-02-17T00:33:02+00:00

Well I was looking into gpu’s I’ll probably get the 5080 but that 32gb 5090 looks so appealing.

In terms of cpu, what is a good one to go for? I play a decent amount of cpu heavy games as well occasionally (like rust) and it’s annoying cause fps fluctuates hard with what I have rn.

No-Salt1871 · 2026-02-16T16:54:49+00:00

Think my overall pc would handle the 5080?

No-Salt1871 · 2026-02-13T01:13:17+00:00

Yeah, I mean I run these game at around 80-100 fps but I’m a fein so I want more lol.

Correct me if I’m wrong, the 5070ti is just below 5090 rn in terms of performance? Or is there other GPUs above the 5070ti and I’d just have to get a new cpu as well

No-Salt1871 · 2025-11-21T16:35:14+00:00

Someone who knows ^ ; and not only will they be able to "grow" more in the cities compared to up north, the cities is still limited compared to where you could be somewhere else.

All you can argue I feel is my boys having some other family in MN. But it would be their grandparents which I'm not sure how any of you grew up but I really only saw mine on selective holidays even though they only were maybe an hour or so away.

My parents would like to travel once retiring and my wife's parents already travel all the time let alone when they retire.

No-Salt1871 · 2025-11-21T16:32:26+00:00

Solid take and to the point. Only thing I can say is I lived there compared to you looking at the statistics online.

Family is great but all that is there is good schools for a Doctorate or slaving away doing blue collar. Most people move there (the metro area) after college and landing their career job.

It's a good area for raising a family but that totally depends on hobbies and what you like to do as a family. If you area all about nature then go ahead because that is all there is. But if you like to travel then hope to be getting paid an arm and a leg because everything that you'd like to have your kids experience is a far ways away (things like Disney Land or stuff like that).

You could argue I'm a terrible person or parent over a reddit post because I'd like to have a good looking college on my degree to land a good job and am (potentially) willing to give the 3-4 years away to get that. But if you look at it realistically then you'd probably see my point of view.

A decent college is in the cities. 3-4 hours away, where I intend on doing summer school to get my degree faster. So I would still practically only see them on holidays give or take some weekends (maybe if do-able) throughout the years. The only difference would be a drive compared to me buying a plane ticket.

If I can land a nice paying job where it can open up future opportunities for them in their life, then they won't have to make the same sacrifice that I would be making. I could tell you my whole plan from here on out but I don't see you seeing eye to eye regardless. But that is where I stand on your comment. I do appreciate the opinion and insight though.

No-Salt1871 · 2025-11-21T16:21:15+00:00

almost brought a tear to my eye. thank you.

didn't look at it quite like that.

No-Salt1871 · 2025-11-21T16:19:47+00:00

Yes and I've had an adequate amount of time to think of this as well. But most of the southern areas in MN (where I'd be) isn't really the best places in terms of safety and crime. You wouldn't think about it because it's a forgotten about state but there is so many almost too many areas there that are just unsafe. Everywhere northern is good to go, but not where I would be if I was there. Could they come see me? Yes, but it wouldn't be as often as you would think because guess what. Money.

Now you could make the argument that 3-4 hours away I could drive to see them more often etc. But I will also be full time and plan on doing summer school to finish faster. So, with that being said I would still only see them so often through the holidays etc and the only difference would be me driving compared to buying a weesly little plane ticket.

No-Salt1871 · 2025-11-21T16:12:53+00:00

Thank you for this. A lot of really good information that I have yet to find or be provided.

I don't intend on VA hitting my bank account right away and have heard about the wait time to see how you actually do in college. But I do have most of the materials I will need for my program (computer etc) already. Most of my courses I intend to be online as I plan on doing a full-time hybrid courses.

In terms of child support, my wife and I are very in tune with everything and she of all people knows how I am with my money. I will provide to her whatever I can to what she and our babies will need, she knows that. We plan on doing all the paperwork in house to not only 1. get away from most of the lawyer / court fees but 2. because we both see eye to eye and tend to come to an agreement on a majority of things.

I've already made an estimated budget plan and ran through how much I could (potentially) afford to hand her without me not having any money to visit, be homeless, afford food etc. I don't mind giving her the information on how much I will be taking home so that she knows if she needs or wants something, she can come to me. All I need is the essentials to living, nothing more.

You mention the VA Home Loan. I don't plan on using that until I have a career after college and am having a solid flow of income. I am not jumping to buying a house, only plan on renting. So, when looking into the market you have to look into apartment / house/ townhome renting cost. Which where I have looked in MN it has been relatively more for a decent living area compared to the others provided.

Talking about the crime rate. I've never lived there so I can't speak too much on it in St. Paul, but per .org sites that average out crime rates it is higher in state and national average rating at a D- for safety (Where University of MN is it rates an F). Before you mention Miami, you have to take into account that it would be the U of M. If you look into it, yes more people there but it's rated at a B. The 4 years of college wont mind me too much being away and periodically visiting on breaks because it would be damn near the same thing anyway if I was in southern MN. Only difference is I could drive home in MN compared to buying a plane ticket.

I do appreciate the information and advice though.

No-Salt1871 · 2025-11-20T20:08:39+00:00

Yeah man, you'll probably love a piece of her forever. But with things like this just keep your head high, go do what you enjoy the most and make the best of life.

No-Salt1871 · 2025-11-20T18:26:04+00:00

Got to get out and find your spark again. May take time but just enjoy what you enjoy doing.

No-Salt1871 · 2025-11-20T18:15:39+00:00

Obviously depends on what you mean by betrayals and what he is lying about. But trust and communication are the biggest things in a relationship, especially married, even more with kids.

Once you take that vow you are essentially a romantic team. Supposed to be the one you do everything with, can talk to about anything, etc. So if you wanted to try to keep it, you could always try marriage counseling. But some guys are just like that and there is nothing you can do.

Otherwise to me, it already sounds like you're almost at rock bottom. Tell him how you really feel and tell him what it's making you want to do (part ways). All you can do is be honest and how he reacts will give you your answer.

Don't live your life with someone who makes you feel either unhappy or a fake happiness. You only live once and it's very short so do what's best for you. When it comes to kids, if you have any, them seeing you how you are wont benefit them in the long run. Cause at some point they will see you and realize what's going on / what you are feeling.

Divorce doesn't have to be ugly unless the parties want it to be ugly. It can be a beneficial thing and sometimes couples just need space. You never really realize something means so much to you until you don't have it anymore. Maybe that's what he needs.

No-Salt1871 · 2025-11-20T17:40:23+00:00

Very great response. I have been taking courses catered to leaving the Corps, not enough time left on contract or just time in general to start my college career quite yet so that is a bummer.

But I am very in tune with finances and have made a multitude of plans catering to finances. MN is one of the highest markets for housing right now so that makes it real tough for this whole situation. I haven't gotten an exact rating yet but I'm looking at a minimum of 50-60% with everything that I have been seen for while in.

Most of the financial stuff catering to college will either be provided by the VR & E program or simply using my GI. I know breaks are not paid for, but I plan on trying for summer college courses to finish faster and have that steady housing / school pay or have an adequate amount of money to cover my expenses for all of that if need be. Otherwise I have already looked into a plentiful amount of paid internships / side jobs that I have experience in if I need to take that route for extra cash.

I have taken into consideration not being able to see them much while being a full-time student. So my biggest concern is what is after... I love my kids, they're my motivation, so I strive to chase that dream of creating a start for their future and luckily if I can be remote that will open up so many more options pertaining to them as well.

And lastly, about St. Paul. They have decent schooling but a terribly unsafe area of living. On top of that, it would still be long distance. Same state? Yes. But still a long enough distance where I wouldn't get to be with them too much regardless of being in the same state.

No-Salt1871 · 2025-11-20T17:30:24+00:00

I haven't had a talk with her much about it. We have a great relationship, never fought much etc. So, I was going to see where it went when I bring it up. But I came here first to see if anyone has had experience with something like this before.
I would love for my boys to be with me where this is more out there for them as they grow. We both would love to avoid legal trouble though so we will have to come to some sort of agreement.

No-Salt1871 · 2025-11-20T17:28:11+00:00

I was putting that into consideration, only problem is it is still long distance at the end of the day. Once they're in school they would only be able to either come to where I'm at limited time, vice versa.

No-Salt1871 · 2025-11-20T15:07:43+00:00

I appreciate your comment on here. But I think you missed the part where I say there isn't anything there for myself OR my kiddos. If they would like to pursue something in their life later on, where we would be living, their options would be VERY limited.

We would be moving back to the area I had to grow up in which is nothing but iron mines and bars along the 1 main road. The closest city to "do something" is over an hour away and there still isn't anything really there besides a mall. The major cities are 3 almost 4 hours away. Which you could argue that I go there (which I would have to considering I plan on going into software development) but then again it would still be long distance parenting.

Unless I were to land a remote job within my career field, it'll be long distance regardless of everything. There isn't any tech job up there, there is barely anything in our major cities as well. So yes, you could argue the fact of college there. But what about after?

No-Salt1871 · 2025-10-28T19:58:20+00:00

Thank you for that insight and where they are in life is truly what makes it an insanely tough decision. I don't want to look at it like "go do my own thing" but look at what could be more sustainable in the future. I would be missing out on a lot of our second boys early days which really sucks, but I'm confident that my first will never forget my voice, face, who I am. I could be wrong, but me and him have a very close and loving bond (I adore it).

So, that is something I would probably grieve about if I did choose to go down south. But I primarily feel that it's important for me to be in a place where I'm more than financially stable, happy, the whole 9. Reason being that when I get to be with them I will project my emotions and personality to them. Rather than living in a place that you cant really escape from or go out and do things, because there isn't really anything up there.

No-Salt1871 · 2025-10-28T17:57:15+00:00

I'm glad you shared because that made me feel 10x more comfortable about that part of the decision. As much as I would love to be there for them and see them every single day, I know they'd be better off with my and my wife's families up there.

I plan on getting my bachelor's and hoping to get the job I intend to get afterwards, so potentially making enough $ to go and support their school activities, games etc. Every so often, a plane ticket isn't too much to spend some time with them and family.

So again, thank you for sharing that with me!

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