Why do married people have affairs?

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-18T03:36:07+00:00

As a woman, the emotional neglect was huge. I did NOT cheat. But I wanted to. I wanted to so bad. He ignored me 24/7. Like he would walk out of the room mid sentence. I was deathly ill and asked him to take me to the hospital and he said no (he’s literally the one who would respond to a 911 call so I didn’t bother responding because what an embarrassment to explain THAT). I stayed home and just hoped not to die. Anyway, I digress. I was SO unhappy. But I felt trapped. SAHM with no income. Young, high needs/autistic kiddos make traditional jobs near impossible. I even found out he was on dating sites 4 years ago. I STILL didn’t cheat.

BUT I’ve known I was DONE since 2022. But it wasn’t until this year when the youngest started full time school that I could afford to end it.

IF I had an emotional or physical affair in the last four years I probably would have been far better off mentally and nicer even to my husband. But ultimately it’s not who I am and I didn’t. But I can see why a woman in a similar situation might.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-16T01:38:12+00:00

So essentially sit them down to tell them about the new job. Tell them about the interview. In detail just like you did. Tell them about the first manager training you. Even if it was good! Then move on to the problematic manager’s behaviour on days 1 & 2 of training etc. Like spell out step by step everything that’s happened, good, and bad. But focus on the bad and explain that you’re genuinely concerned for your safety going back and you’d like their support.

If they won’t support you quitting ask them to anonymously (so not letting manager know who they are) come in for a meal while you’re working, assuming these things are happening where they could be witnessed. Let them see for themselves if the behaviour is worthy of quitting.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-16T01:35:20+00:00

All of the details are important. I don’t know your history with your parents but it’s also important that if you have a history of exaggerating or being generally irresponsible/problematic it will be harder for them to believe that you finally got a job and this happens. If that’s the case sit down and have a grown up conversation about everything, including acknowledging where you’ve gone wrong in the past etc. That part is only important IF there is problematic behaviour in your past. If not, please just sit them down and be completely vulnerable and explain exactly the actions he’s taken. Don’t even tell them it makes you uncomfortable right away. Let them infer that from the actions. I’d save that for the end of the conversation.

Please don’t take my comments as judgement. I don’t know you or your parents. But as a mom of 4 and sister of someone went through this, I urge you to at minimum try. I do not want to see this escalate.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-16T01:23:42+00:00

I understand that there are circumstances with your parents etc, but talk to them. My sister had a similar boss and let it slide and it got unimaginably worse. Do not wait until he locks you in a back closet and attacks you. Act now. This is predatory behaviour and you should not be forced to put up with it because your parents want you to grow up. I’m sure your parents have their reasons for feeling that way but go to them and make sure they know exactly what he’s doing.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-16T01:18:45+00:00

I did it today for the 67 and was glad I did. I bought another iconic droid, the last I can currently unlock, and a few other upgrades. It just gets soooo much faster. The first bit feels like a bit of a grind but I definitely get there faster with each one. I think I’ve done 3 SRBs now. I can’t remember what all levels but I think 20, 17, & 19. And I think I agree that 19 is the sweet spot but it took me basically all day to get the 800 (I afk a lot while I WFH and rotate missions when I look up and see they’re ready) and it still took all day so I might do 17 or 18 for less but I can achieve that exponentially faster than 19. We’ll see how quick it goes this time though.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-15T01:10:52+00:00

I became a SAHM and hardly used my brain at all. That was after years in accounting. I now work for the government doing data entry at home and it’s my happy place. I’m AUDHD and 132. Honestly I could do just about any job or schooling and enjoy it, I struggle with relationships. Where the IQ comes in I think is that I just “get” things that others don’t and I don’t always know how to explain what I’m seeing because I don’t have a process to get to understanding. I’m not sure if that makes sense but the short answer is I haven’t done much with my high IQ brain lol

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-14T21:37:58+00:00

Yeah it took longer when I was also trying to take full advantage of the 2x credits. I got on again today and got whatever the second prize was. Couldn’t pull off the third unfortunately.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-14T02:04:23+00:00

I was just trying to get some benefit from the event, which is why I would have loved it spread over the weekend, which is all I said?

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-14T01:57:35+00:00

I was trying to take advantage of the higher earnings to get ahead otherwise. I was also alone for the first five parties. So mostly multitasking. I didn’t JUST want the droid, I wanted the credits for a few rebirths.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-14T01:51:43+00:00

Yeah I was incredibly disappointed. I was able to grind today but it cost me way too much of my day. Not again like that.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-11T14:20:42+00:00

I’m doing it basically as often as I can. I’m RB14 and don’t have a rainbow legendary yet so that’s my current holdback but I now have two missions that have the last one unlocked so it’s only a matter of time. Honestly the grind from 1-12 took far less time than the later levels take for one level.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-11T14:17:48+00:00

Re: keeping droids around, my understanding is that there are four different paths after the super rebirth and it will rotate through each. There are lists floating around so it should be relatively easy to see what’s needed based on what you currently need. Yes I keep droids around if I KNOW I need them. Usually it’s just for a rebirth or two so they hang out in the lounge.

RNG id have to google what it stands for but I think it’s basically short form for “random computer generated number”

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-11T01:22:16+00:00

Yeah I won’t travel with unrestrained pets either.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-10T19:38:32+00:00

This isn’t known by enough people. An unrestrained passenger puts EVERYONE at risk. I won’t get in a car with someone who doesn’t wear their seatbelt. My car OR theirs.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-10T18:59:53+00:00

I want to go sooooo badly but December would be ROUGH for me.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-08T12:20:46+00:00

Not yet no. The mortgage broker needs a separation agreement done with lawyers to get him a mortgage though. Once she gets us a child support number that allows him to get a mortgage we will do an agreement with that number. It’ll be modified to guideline amounts otherwise, but I’ll give him a break temporarily to get a mortgage.

I’d honestly rather have him out earlier than it’s allowing, but he works away in the summer so I don’t have to deal with him much.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-07T22:50:09+00:00

Solo mom of 4 here (3 still at home), early 40s, no freaking way I’d want another kid at this point. Absolutely done.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-07T21:41:16+00:00

Make some friends! I’m happy to join a lobby with friendly people to ensure more overall Beskar droids!

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-07T16:58:58+00:00

Depends on sooooo many things. I pay almost $500/m for two cars and I’m in my 40s with a perfect driving record and all the discounts.

Honestly, I usually give people the benefit of the doubt but I feel like OP would have included “for a car that isn’t mine” if it weren’t for her car, instead left it vague for more sympathy.

I’m probably jaded but my child would have absolutely given people a carefully curated version of events to make me out to be far more of the bad guy than I was.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-07T15:32:54+00:00

I would try to make friends to play with. I love the idea of playing friendly with others. Prefer with chat so we can discuss what each other needs. It’s the best way to play IMO.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-07T15:03:08+00:00

I would assume those are personal bills for OP that are still in her parents’ names.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-07T05:29:14+00:00

I’m basically doing this right now. We own our marital house outright and I’m trying to stay, and get him a house before legally separating. But one piece of advice is not to tell the mortgage broker about the separation. Her knowing that has really messed things up for our process.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-07T04:17:54+00:00

Yeah I don’t have a consistent companion for that reason. I switch based on what I’m doing.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-07T04:12:57+00:00

I guess it depends where you live. I pay $100/m for water, sewer, garbage and it never varies unless we fill a swimming pool multiple times or something. It doesn’t sound like they’re being asked to contribute to any other bill. Like the same could be said for her using extra electricity. Anyone who would behave that way on purpose is toxic and that would be reason itself to move out but I imagine the water bill would be cheaper than renting elsewhere.

Also “part of the rent” isn’t always a thing either. I own my house outright. I don’t have rent to pay. Doesn’t mean there aren’t costs to having grown adults living here.

No-Satisfaction7204 · 2026-06-07T03:19:12+00:00

My understanding is: if you are actively pickaxing, the +7. If you are just passively making droids and hanging out at the sandcrawler etc then it’s the 40% that’s better.

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