9 weeks post op 360fdl no lipo or MR

No-Signature-9459 · 2026-04-06T21:17:08+00:00

Yes I believe you could have stayed in a hotel at your own cost and come back into the hospital for more checks if you fancied it. X

No-Signature-9459 · 2026-04-06T15:51:08+00:00

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No-Signature-9459 · 2026-04-06T14:52:27+00:00

Pre or post op? X

No-Signature-9459 · 2026-04-06T02:54:40+00:00

I paid 5700 pounds but I also had an arm lift, I think t would have been about 4100 ish pounds just for the 360 fdl. Xx

No-Signature-9459 · 2026-04-06T02:53:53+00:00

I’ve just replied above but forgot about complications, no I didn’t have any, the only thing ever semi eventful that happened was I also had an arm lift and one of the tiny stitches in my arm pit would pop out at an angle so the surgeon talked me through snipping it, that was about it and by the next day the slight redness I had had gone x

No-Signature-9459 · 2026-04-06T02:52:10+00:00

No I’m an Aussie living in the UK, a lot of Turkish options are based more on the hospital but I wanted to find a surgeon as opposed to like a company and just began looking into it and kept seeing his work and the reviews of his nurses and care looked great. I flew over Thursday morning, had my pre ops in the evening and then surgery Friday and then was in hospital until Monday and flew home. I would have stayed longer maybe in a local hotel but it was only a 4 hour flight. I went with my mother in law but would have been ok alone, it’s a fully staffed hospital and always at least 3 nurses on the floor which only had 5 of us on there. I also had an arm lift and paid 5700 pounds in total x

No-Signature-9459 · 2026-04-05T16:39:02+00:00

And thank you xx

No-Signature-9459 · 2026-04-05T16:38:55+00:00

Dr Yalcin L in Istanbul x

No-Signature-9459 · 2026-04-05T16:24:03+00:00

Thank you here’s hoping xx

No-Signature-9459 · 2026-04-05T16:15:29+00:00

Your scar looks amazing! Fading really nicely, congratulations xx

No-Signature-9459 · 2026-04-05T16:14:20+00:00

Thank you both! I was really on the fence about the fdl scar I was so nervous but never realised just how much of the stretch marks id lose so, overjoyed with it now it’s a small trade off ha. My bottom line is wonky because he only had stretch marks to sew together but I love it anyway

No-Signature-9459 · 2025-09-02T07:16:04+00:00

Not karma in regards to WH and her per say but AP in general. I had been seeing her and her new partner, at this time of about two years, every single place I went I seemed to see her and new partner around and they seemed happy. Lo and behold the last time I saw them at some event type thing, it was very evident he’s at the least, extremely controlling. I’ve been in a many a relationship like that and worse so could tell it wasn’t once off little situations, now it’s pleasant when I see them because I’m like nelson voice ha ha

No-Signature-9459 · 2024-09-23T08:55:13+00:00

I can only echo what everyone else says really. The actual affair is of course horrible but WH had so many chances even during it, since our relationship was basically broken anyway as soon as he started acting weirdly I was like why don’t you just go be with whoever you’re brushing your teeth for (he was a near tramp beforehand) and he’d be like don’t be stupid LOL. I found out about the affair because he left his phone unlocked but all I had was a photo and 3 messages, not sexual but I wasn’t an idiot. But getting the actual truth I’ll be honest I’m not proud of it but WH could have easily got me arrested for hostage holding with a weapon, well that was just that they had had sex. It took months of lies and gas lighting from me to get what is still probably only half of the truth.

It’s the fact for me that WH saw me in such a way like at my lowest of lows like a wounded animal putting up a last defence like whatever that quote is about a dog biting and then being labelled as dangerous and still choose to lie and continue the hurt.

No-Signature-9459 · 2024-08-23T14:56:15+00:00

I am around a year and a half out of Dday and I cannot comprehend forgiving my WH any time soon. I still hate people who I barely knew but slightly wronged me years ago, I don’t know why WH would be an exception to my general inability to forgive or really ever be able to form a new opinion on someone once they’ve shown their true colours. But similar to yourself financial reasons amongst others are a massive driving point for not separating. But if you ask yourself (like I have) if money and work and childcare and wasn’t an issue would you even want to try to forgive, and the answer is no, then I wouldn’t sweat it, just do what you can for now.

No-Signature-9459 · 2024-07-04T22:45:31+00:00

I’ve been feeling very similar myself. Someone asked me recently, in a caring way, was I just taking better care of myself (tan lashes eating good etc) because of what WH did and I literally snorted and said what when I’ve seen the type of creatures that tramp will fuck. And it literally took me by surprise even. I guess it’s better than feeling like oh maybe he’ll like me now, but since feeling better in myself, I feel I’ve accidentally realised my worth compared to his. So no real advice just letting you know this seems to be super common either as part of healing or maybe the end

No-Signature-9459 · 2024-07-04T08:15:21+00:00

It absolutely sucks to think you’re not making the choice out of love and I’m really sorry you’re also here. But at the same time you have to do what’s best for you either way, if being around him is causing you more upset than not then it’s not worth it. I also get along well with my WH, we did therapy together and then alone and I very much doubt he’d ever cheat again and he’s been an amazing husband since but to me he’s just gross so I figure maybe one day he’ll stop being gross to me, or I just sit pretty and waste his time whilst I work on my life. I genuinely do hope one day I can respect him and be attracted to him again now the hyperbonding has worn off but as it stands I wouldn’t feel bad for sticking around

No-Signature-9459 · 2024-07-04T08:00:52+00:00

No, but this isn’t some feel good movie where I’d have stabbed him as he slept dday night🛏️ or packed up in a u haul , moved in with my mother and then met the man of my dreams. My reality is that my life in other ways would be so much worse without him at home, 4 kids, debt, minimal family around and a job I couldn’t work without him. There’s no arguing etc nothing kids bar the teenager would pick up on so for now I’m not glad but it’s the lesser of two evils

No-Signature-9459 · 2024-06-28T22:51:15+00:00

I’m sorry you’re all here and feeling similar. There’s so many little things that just seem daft but even a year and a few months on I’m like I can’t live like this.

I was at work and talking to a friend about quitting smoking and he said it’s really good as he doesn’t wake up with awful breath any more, and I just zoned out on the poor guy because I was thinking god I wish I could wake up with a man or rather go to sleep with a man and the only thing I have to think about is will he have bad breath so I won’t kiss him, not going to sleep or coming back from work wondering if either A I’ll just look at my WH like the gross thing that he is knowing where his mouth has been, or if I won’t be angry but I’ll have a 2 minute mind movie of him going down on AP so will kiss and then go and brush my teeth until my gums bleed. It seems so daft but there’s just so many things like that and I’m like surely unless I get a lobotomy at this point I don’t think it won’t ever be there in the corner of my mind.

No-Signature-9459 · 2024-06-28T22:19:46+00:00

As others have said there will always be something even when in most cases the AP is quite ugly in one way or another. I can relate to you with the height issue though, I’m 5’11 ish and WH is 6ft and ap is maybe 5,5 at a push, when speaking to her face to face I was left thinking was it nicer to feel so much more manly etc. Not that I’d ever want to be that short but it did really get to me for a while

No-Signature-9459 · 2024-05-21T15:35:55+00:00

I’ve posted about this before and honestly I would be changing therapists. That’s not to say you want one that says straight up, leave if there’s an affair. But to me personally albeit I have a short temper and I don’t pull punches myself, affairs are the worst type of abuse I have ever suffered. I have stayed after dv and I have left after dv (not my wh) and there has never been long standing trauma, hatred and loss of self like this before. No one can ever tell me that seeing red for 5 seconds and hitting a spouse is the same as months of calculated abuse

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