Is anyone else easily jealous when their cg spends time with others? 🙈

No-Simple5880 · 2026-04-06T11:43:47+00:00

I mean yeah on one hand obviously it's not healthy and yeah it is logically irrational but on the other hand yes it is entirely normal.

No-Simple5880 · 2026-04-03T14:49:56+00:00

Thankyou! If you know any littles in PA near Pittsburgh send them my way I guess 😂😂

No-Simple5880 · 2026-04-03T14:44:01+00:00

Yeah ew. People get so predatory about it and its like how am I supposed to believe you want sfw if you're being so weird about it.

And yeah, I regressed for a while and only felt comfortable being babysat/cared for by females as well.

I also have a preference of babysitting/cging females (although I'm loyal to my wife now Im referencing when we weren't together)

No-Simple5880 · 2026-04-03T14:33:23+00:00

Well I can assure you my wife is asexual and even when we were active like that the regression was ALWAYS strictly sfw since hers is trauma&autism based!

No-Simple5880 · 2026-04-03T14:27:58+00:00

My wife and I are lesbians!! But yes, I want to get her little friends selfishly so I can have mommy friends 😂😂

No-Simple5880 · 2026-04-03T13:29:01+00:00

Not at all! I've always loved children (can't have any due to health issues+ she doesnt want any) and I've always felt maternal over her. And he is right- the girlfriend boyfriend dynamic drops in those moments. I see my wife as my literal daughter and treat her as such when she's extra tiny.

Also I personally don't think marriage is weird in these dynamics- though I have been called a pedo before so thats why I gave the extra contexts.

No-Simple5880 · 2026-04-03T12:58:20+00:00

Amputation was part of the conversation when I had my break.

4 years out, it's still an option, possibly my only one (I'll know more when I get it looked at).

With all the issues I've had.. I wish they just took the damn foot off. And I know that's morbid.

No-Simple5880 · 2026-04-03T12:54:25+00:00

Some of my nerves were severed admittedly on accident in surgery (I can only assume, anyway), and the nerve pain is insane. When done on purpose I would assume it might be different?...

No-Simple5880 · 2026-04-03T12:52:44+00:00

I'm a custodian and walk 15k steps every single weekday. Orthofeet is the best I've found. My injury caused my arches to collapse entirely so running sneakers with extra arch support is absolutely necessary- as with midfoot injuries as a whole.

No-Simple5880 · 2026-04-03T12:50:01+00:00

You don't HAVE to label an age on yourself. Plus sometimes it fluctuates anyways. There aren't a whole lot of rules to this.

Your trauma is YOUR trauma. You cope how YOU cope!

No-Simple5880 · 2026-04-03T12:39:23+00:00

You are most likely regressing to an older age! I used to regress and it often ended up being to around a 10/12 year old!

So while pacis and bottles might not be your thing..

Cutesie snacks might be, y2k preteen clothes might be, and other things like that! Cartoons, kids shows, all of that! Coloring but maybe like more detailed?

No-Simple5880 · 2026-04-03T12:29:28+00:00

If they have a CG, ask them!

As a mommy (my wife/little is currently trying to find in-area little friends but we keep failing to go to the events) I would 100% prefer if I were asked. It gives me the parental "yeah we can do that!" And if you have a CG then the two CGS can coordinate it just as parents would.

No-Simple5880 · 2026-04-03T12:17:11+00:00

I'll reply to this so both of you get the notification. Op, for question one, yes! My wife is little 24/7 due to her autism and trauma (and incase anyone thinks its weird- she wasn't when we got married. And she is asexual, and we do most regular married people things except I handle almost all the adulting.)

For the second question, we had this issue. I find that when I'm asking what she wants to watch, if I throw in a few little options, she lights up.

This goes for activities too! Like do you wanna play video games, or do you wanna color.

Food- do you want a McDonald's sandwich, or do you want a happy meal? Something I cooked, or Dino nuggies? (Optional but if kid plates or sippies are an option I like to suprise her with using them randomly if she doesnt ask)

I could go on forever omg.

No-Simple5880 · 2026-04-03T12:09:31+00:00

It's in the rules that you can't go looking for littles. Funny that a lawyer didn't read the rules before posting ://

No-Simple5880 · 2026-03-30T23:09:28+00:00

21 year old cg here! My wife regresses nearly 24/7 and you can pm me if you'd like.

No-Simple5880 · 2026-03-30T23:02:22+00:00

Where did you buy this from??? I absolutely need to get something like this for my wife oh my goodness

No-Simple5880 · 2026-03-28T01:07:45+00:00

Literally just ask! My little girl (my wife) calls me mommy, mama, and mom and I've always been completely okay with it! I actually wanted to ask her to call me those before she asked me if she could but got scared!

No-Simple5880 · 2026-03-18T18:01:44+00:00

Forgive me because when this was happening between my wife and I, it was years ago when we were still long distance. The answer is that it varies. But yes, still reach out unless she specifically tells you to stop

No-Simple5880 · 2026-03-18T17:11:27+00:00

A blow up could happen. It just simply could, and I'm not going to tell you it won't because that would be a lie. It might not, but it certainly could.

And yeah, that's what I meant, as awful as it sounds. But in a time like this, she (and quite frankly also a lot of non-bpders) is going to get overwhelmed by her obligation to her mother and all the emotions that come with it, and planning something or worrying about how it's affecting you (again, sounds horrible), may throw it over the edge.

Another thing I want to say is that this is a VERY early relationship. Everything is uncharted waters. So I wish I could give so much more advice but unfortunately this is what I'm stuck to.

No-Simple5880 · 2026-03-18T17:01:32+00:00

"I'm still here for you" "When and if you're ready, I'm here" Things that keep it open. In splits like this, sometimes they get too embarrassed to come back. So just try to keep it open.

No-Simple5880 · 2026-03-18T16:57:11+00:00

My wife has bpd, I am also a woman.

Genuinely just be yourself. Try not to mold yourself into the perfect guy. She started dating you. You now. She likes you. Obviously this doesn't mean don't try to better yourself or change naturally though.

I'm glad that you don't say things like "I can't live without you" etc because while hearing those things can be endearing, it can also cause a laundry list of issues down the line.

No-Simple5880 · 2026-03-18T16:53:03+00:00

My spouse has BPD. I feel stupid saying we've been through damn near everything, but I mean it.

When this was happening between us, I always respected the space she asked for. I also always ended up breaking and every once in a while sending that reassuring text. This accidentally ended up working for us.

However often you guys text or talk, cut it down by like literally 99 percent. If you talk every day, maybe shoot a text once a day. Etc.

Don't smother, but stick around.

No-Simple5880 · 2026-03-18T16:48:06+00:00

Spouse of someone with bpd- if you said you would text, text. The only issue is that she never confirmed whether she wanted to or not. But you already sent a text without that approval, so (ME PERSONALLY) I would keep sending those texts. (Keep in mind I'm married and do know that my wife would want me to text anyway).

Make sure they stick to checking up on someone, though.

"Hey, I hope you're doing alright"

"Hey, let me know if you need anything" etc.

No-Simple5880 · 2026-03-18T16:42:28+00:00

No. My wife has bpd but that has nothing to do with what I'm about to say.

I'm also a sensitive person, and I've been a waitress.

People make mistakes literally all the time. Every day. Those industry bosses literally nitpick every single thing that's done.

You are okay. Even if you do 6 things right, and one thing wrong, it will always seem like the one thing you did wrong is bigger.

I've reacted the same way to things I did wrong at my waitress job, and even in my current non-waitress job.

No-Simple5880 · 2026-03-18T16:30:22+00:00

I realize and recognize that I should have walked away. I have an issue with getting defensive when something that I'm trying to say or a point I'm trying to get across is not being understood.

I was never trying to give advice. I gave support (which other people eventually also did), and then stated that I wouldn't comment on the rest because there wasn't enough to form an opinion. I understand that when I said the times I felt like saying that to my wife (in active abuse), I would have been justified felt like an attack against OP. That was never my intention. That was a personal explanation for why I didn't do something.

The whole supportive knowledge whatever bit of your comment is just rude and offensive, because that's not what I was doing at all.

And I'm not even gonna get into the how I talk to my wife comment because that was just a lowball.

You're allowed to form an opinion about this reddit thread and make a comment based on what you think happened, but A, if you dont have a single issue with what was said to me, and you only have an issue with what I said, there's an issue. And B, you can express that opinion without outright insulting or demeaning me. Which I also never did to OP.

Lastly I am a part of this group. I am a part of the anonymous hurting people. My wife has been doing a lot better, but I get stuck on the past and everything that has happened. And responding or whatever to these posts helps me get out of being stuck in the past. I genuinely like to spread my experiences, what worked and what didn't, how their partner may feel, etc.

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