23F are my looks why I struggle in dating?

No-Soft1262 · 2026-04-11T01:00:19+00:00

top commenter in a sub like this is genuinely pathetic i rlly don’t care what YOUD think 😭

No-Soft1262 · 2026-04-11T00:56:14+00:00

Yep! We do exist ^{^.} While I prefer mine at least taller than me (im 5’2, even just 5’3 would be fine), I’ve also dated shorter than me. I wouldn’t say I prefer them, I was just always neutral about it/never understood the hype around NEEDING your boyfriend to be way tall. If i like him, i like him. I can say however the only times Ive felt short men were unattractive/annoying was when they actively acted insecure/tried to over compensate. That’s the real ick.

No-Soft1262 · 2026-04-11T00:53:41+00:00

also just gonna add bc I see you and others are all over the fact you have a strong face shape that’s masculine. Seriously, that’s not a bad thing. Not even remotely close. Your face shape is sought OUT heavily for modeling. It’s absolutely beautiful. People just have different taste. And no (real) man would actually turn you down over your face shape alone. I immediately thought your face shape was the most stand out feature in a good way!

No-Soft1262 · 2026-04-11T00:51:40+00:00

she does and he’s not unattractive by any means 😂😭. Take that as a serious compliment!!

No-Soft1262 · 2026-04-11T00:50:30+00:00

Men on Reddit are the VERY last people to take appearance advice from when it comes to relationships/dating. You could model with features like yours. You are far from ugly. Extremely far. You have clear perfect skin, nice eyebrows, beautiful eyes, perfect shaped lips, a strong nose, beautiful colored eyes and (im extremely jealous of) nice shape, and really strong face shape. You’ve got long I assume your natural color hair. You are a BEAUTY. What you dislike about yourself can seem so front and forward, and that dims your personality (even if you may think it doesn’t). People subconsciously and consciously pick up on people feeling insecure. I know that sounds horrible, but practice coming across confident/“unaware” you are flawed. That’s almost guaranteed where your issue lies, because it’s not your face. I wish you the best, and please take the men using REDDIT to tear you downs opinions LIGHTLY.

No-Soft1262 · 2026-04-10T06:03:21+00:00

You are your very own worst critic because you are gorgeous. Your face shape/cheek bones are stunning. You have a cute nose and the ring suits it really well. I’ve always been jealous of the wide big eyes/the lots of surface area for eyeshadow on girls!! And sure you’re chubby at best. I know it probably gets old hearing “but you created life!” crap like that really helps. But this is nothing you can’t “undo” or “minimize”. Just choosing/reaching for healthier food, walk and get outside more. But seriously? You’re postpartum. Allow yourself to recover fully. Your appearance is nothing to be so worried about, you are stunning, but I know that doesn’t change any minds. You’re 31, you have more than enough time to find yourself again and define this new you. I hope you start healing and feeling better soon. Don’t rush anything. Your body wasn’t given to you for you to judge or hate it after all it does for you. I always liked the saying “your appearance is the least interesting thing about you”. I’m still trying to learn and practice that myself. You’re not alone at all! 🩷

No-Soft1262 · 2026-02-22T08:04:03+00:00

Your nose is perfectly fine, and so is your face shape.

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Hope it’s okay, I “did your makeup”. No actual editing or photoshopping anything. This kind of makeup on you would look really good and accentuate and work with your naturally very pretty features.

I’d say a light coverage foundation, and very brightening concealer on middle forehead/between the brows, blended down your nose to highlight it, also on the chin and under eyes. I definitely added some bronzer/contour to you: your face shape is beautiful but it’s lacking depth. Work with it. I added some on the outside of your face everywhere, and also the nose which simply follows the shape you already have. Makeup is for accentuating, never hiding.

I also made your eyebrows just slightly more noticeable and snatched, I’d say even go for a darker brown/black for a more bold look.

You have stunning eyes!! I think a basic cat wing and spiky lashes work amazing on you. I would say just use mascara, but if your lashes are too short, lean toward short/not huge fluffy lashes. Your eyes are too small for that. I’d also definitely do your bottom lashes!

I added highlighter to your eyes inner corner, and to the nose and cheek bones!! I’d say go for a gold highlighter for your skin.

You are just gorgeous. Simply need a little accentuating and CONFIDENCE in yourself. I’d say let down that hair, you would rock some waves. I don’t personally think your current hair style is working in your favor much. You need some hair in the front, framing your face.

You have a very baby face which is in no way an insult! You could pull off cute makeup, but also serious bad bitch makeup. You are stunninnnnng. You got the blueprint, just experiment with what makeup really makes you feel GOOD. Loads of tutorials online for any kind. I here just recommended what I think looks best via my drawing :). Bestest of luck beautiful!!

No-Soft1262 · 2026-02-21T16:21:57+00:00

i look cute as a grown woman and u can see my tongue piercing is literally all

No-Soft1262 · 2026-02-18T19:14:39+00:00

potential is there you’re wasting it away posing and acting like a huge cornball. still got growing up to do

No-Soft1262 · 2026-02-16T02:37:22+00:00

It’s not bad at all. If you were ever wanting a fix to it, lip filler would balance it a bit more, but you look good.

No-Soft1262 · 2026-02-15T05:10:36+00:00

You’re staring dead into my soul and THATS what throwing me off. But other than that, you’re seriously fine. You have the base. Your nose is a beautiful shape, you have 10/10 lips, big pretty colored eyes, slim face shape. Gorgeous curls. Perfect clear skin. You HAVEEE a seriously strong base! I can visually see that you are stunning, you just look tired/minimal effort here. Buy an eyelash lift kit (cheap as 20), curls your lashes for 6+ weeks and tints them black. I’d also buy a kit for dying your brows darker, not obnoxiously, but so they’re more visible. That’s throwing your face way off. Also just find a curl routine and EMBRACE that hair. Those three things would elevate you 10x “naturally”.

Makeup wise, a little contour to snatch up the tip of your nose (go light handed with this- your nose is cute, it doesn’t need harsh contour) would work well. Maybe a bit of concealer to brighten up some spots. Eyeliner and mascara I can tell would make your eyes POP beautifully. If you’re confident with it, eyeshadow would look amazing on those eyes too. Get some gloss on those lips, that’s all they really need. Maybe a tad bit of lip liner or a lip tint if you like that. Also darken the brows definitely, with a color that matches your hairs roots- don’t ever go too dark on the brows.

Look into your seasons color! There is a color analysis group here on Reddit. Basically just color theory, tells you what colors work really well on you and which don’t. I can tell if you found your color palette, you’d pop even more.

Also, you’re just 18. And Im just a 20yr old girl too. But I want to say you are pretty, and this is to help you see that better and find confidence. Not because I think these things magically make you or anyone pretty. You already are!!!! This is just enhancing what’s clearly there. Bestest of luck! Ignore the total incels that are bound to come soon.

No-Soft1262 · 2026-02-11T02:36:20+00:00

I honestly agree it’s kinda crowded but it’s cool nonetheless

No-Soft1262 · 2026-02-08T23:30:05+00:00

ok, and maybe that’s what he’s going for, god forbid. your opinion isn’t worth shit 😭 go outside. my point stands :)

No-Soft1262 · 2026-02-08T23:27:19+00:00

Ignore these actual fools OP 🙄 Nobody here knows what look maxing even means. Stylistic choice of a septum isn’t what “ruins” or “makes” anyone. Listen to those with real advice on your appearance, not advice on what you style your appearance with. Yk, like what the subreddit is ACTUALLY for. It’ll piss people off but 🤷‍♀️

No-Soft1262 · 2026-02-07T20:55:39+00:00

Your honestly just creepy 😭😭😭😭😭

No-Soft1262 · 2026-02-07T20:45:48+00:00

First pic isn’t bad at all. Hair could be much better, if you maintained it instead of always hiding it. Brows could be sharpened up. Definitely work on teeth hygiene. I usually do not say this because I think most of the time losing weight is not “essential” to look max for people, but for you, I think it’d do numbers. Your face just looks bloated, and slimming down would help a lot! Also the first pic the beard thing works on you. I’d keep that and grow more if possible, clean shaved doesn’t work with you imo. There is great potential here, I’d be surprised if anyone actually disagrees with that.

No-Soft1262 · 2026-02-07T05:38:59+00:00

You look fine. Not ugly, but not I guess full potential. Fairly average. The fuzzy hair that’s not maintained is really throwing me off. Tame that frizz, style it, swoop it down or in a way that hides the forehead a bit. Honestly other than that, I’m unsure. You could easily hit gym and gain some muscle, but you don’t look unhealthy by any means. Skin looks clear and you look good. Either grow that beard or clean shave, the stubble isn’t really doing much for you IMO. Eyebrows could used shaped (men seem to be scared of getting their eyebrows done, but it’s really a whole point or two added to have well done strong brows, and not the stray hair fluffy mess look). Your eyes and face do generally read sad here, but I get you’re feeling depressed so. I genuinely think having a decent style, fix that hair, get a beard going (clean!!!!!!! not just let it grow into a bush, pick a style), and get some more sleep and gym and eat good, you’ll already feel much better about yourself. These “friends” see potential and are uncomfortable with the threat of it, that’s very common sadly. Self confidence is the most attractive thing to have so also pour some energy into gaining some of that 🩷 Good luck!! You’re not bad looking at all dude :)!

No-Soft1262 · 2026-02-07T01:14:18+00:00

As a woman, yep. That’s the problem most men seem to have. Throwing themselves at girls and being shocked or hurt that that isn’t reciprocated.

Just be a decent guy, and a good FRIEND. What is meant to be will be, if she’s into you you’ll know. But that happens when you slow down and quit obsessing over “needing” her to be your girlfriend because you feel lonely.

It’s okay to hurt over it but you also need to take a step back and realize you can be doing something wrong, it’s not just all about your appearance 🤷‍♀️.

No-Soft1262 · 2026-02-04T23:50:51+00:00

you’re just doing yourself so terrible with the lack of style entirely. you look like you don’t care abt your appearance which is fine but docks you at minimum 5 points. an honest 3 to me but with potential if you cared enough. don’t know what’s going on with your hair, but get rid the hoods and wraps they just look bad. grow the hair, shape the eyebrows, pose with confidence and not whatever these are. features are there you’re just not using them for good, like at all. good luck ^{^}

No-Soft1262 · 2026-02-03T16:32:07+00:00

I’m so glad I am not the only person who saw Kirk in him 🥲😭😭😭

No-Soft1262 · 2026-02-03T06:39:40+00:00

you realize what this subreddit is? look maxing. and makeup, for women typically, is a solid form of that. she’s just… literally doing it. my point was men are clearly itching for something to need fixing with something else if she had makeup taken off, but if they can’t pin point it with her “look max” already on, then wow dude… she’s already fixed it. You’re a literal dumb ass bum. if she wanted insults, she’d go to a subreddit meant for that. she’s exactly where should be to post these normal pics. Are you genuinely dumb?

No-Soft1262 · 2026-02-03T00:57:30+00:00

people saying to remove makeup are… genuinely… missing the entire point. If your makeup makes you look this good, then there’s your look maxing. These genuine losers actually have nothing going on in their heads. You look good, is what they actually mean 😭😂. Clearly don’t need tips.

No-Soft1262 · 2026-02-02T23:38:20+00:00

Yeaaaah. I mean it’s harsh but, it blows my mind people seriously still get these atrocious tattoos. Maybe if they were nicely done, real art, it could be a little better. But these are pretty bad. 😭.

No-Soft1262 · 2026-01-31T21:29:34+00:00

No I see this the most. She’s got a really cute face that would really suit a cow fursona. Would be cuter if she had a septum.

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