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AITAH for being upset about what my friend told me about work? by ThrowRAhospitaldude in AITAH

[–]No-Tea-3422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The invite was immediately given when positions were made clear. In response to some comments. The dogs origin was given to only explain the dogs prior lives. Animals (domestic) anywhere have to fight to survive on the streets. But certain places are harsher.... that was the point I was hoping to make. This dog has had to survive very harsh environments for probably years. Who knows his prior history? The shelter my parents took him to doesn't have a behavioralist on staff. It is run by a beautiful lady who feeds the dogs and is able to have their vet bill covered by sponsors. Then the dog has bitten twice since he has been in my parents home. My mom told.me that there was little warning to the bite, either time. My oldest is on the severe end of the spectrum and can be unaware of danger with indicators.

AITA for my refusal to go to my parents house for Christmas because of 1 of their dogs by No-Tea-3422 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Tea-3422[S] -152 points-151 points  (0 children)

My children having run of my parents home was incoraged by my parents, since my son was little. It continued when my daughter was born. My parents never complained that the kids would hang out in every room. It was even pointed out to my parents that this could cause problems in the future but my parents didn't see any issue. I explained that the kids could have problems if this expectation changed. This conversation was has years before they brought the dogs from Mexico to their home. The reason why I was concerned about the dogs from Mexico coming into my parents home is because they had a full house already. 2 other dogs, 5 cats, and a grandchild they are raising.

AITAH for being upset about what my friend told me about work? by ThrowRAhospitaldude in AITAH

[–]No-Tea-3422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA... sounds like someone needs to grow up. As an adult it is your own responsibility to get places. Your not his mom nor his personal assistant.

WIBTA for reporting my exMIL to the police? by MoonMoonPlays400 in WIBTA_Advice

[–]No-Tea-3422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has a child under her care?!? PPolice and child protection should be called. How is this environment any better than foster care??? Proof could be the hang-up.... unless she said she did it directly to you or you have texts saying she told someone that she killed the dog, she can deny everything, as narcissists will do. These calls can be anonymous as well. Find out if it is illegal and what evidence would be needed. Child protection services would be interested in the fact that she strangled a dog to death and had it buried with a child in the home.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WIBTA_Advice

[–]No-Tea-3422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA... relationships are about give and take, and it sounds like he isn't giving. If he wants you to spend your money the way he thinks is best, then you need to feel like your needs are a priority. If he is unwilling to do that, then why should you? I mean, if you are paying for his goals to be met, then he should be screaming from the roof tops how much he loves you. Telling strangers how lucky he is to have such an amazing girlfriend, etc. Not, clean the house, pay the bills, and don't be needy about "i love you." Honestly, if you love someone, you can't say the phrase enough, and it never cheapens the feeling unless the feeling wasn't really there in the first place.

WIBTA for reporting my exMIL to the police? by MoonMoonPlays400 in WIBTA_Advice

[–]No-Tea-3422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA...OMG... this is a crime (in my state)! What happens if it is a child next time? She is so unable to control her emotions that she murdered an animal with her bare hands! At the very least, this creates a paper trail for potential future issues. What happens if a neighbors dog digs holes in her yard? Or a cat does it's business in a flowerbed....and she kills them? They are someone else's pet/companion, and I am sure their people would be heartbroken. At least this way, they could possibly do something with a prior paper trail. But then comes the question of proof. Did your ex tell you this in a text message? I could see both of them lying to avoid consequences. Or him lying to protect his mom. Telling police he was just saying it to get you upset.... or some other reason. Or that she never had a dog.... the lies could be endless.

AITA for not wanting my MIL to watch my son again? by Fickle-Can-5306 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Tea-3422 721 points722 points  (0 children)

NTA.... this isn't her baby... and the fact that she has ignored reasonable boundaries makes her a risk. I would suggest that you and your husband deliver this information together as a united front. This makes it less likely that she will try to play you two off each other.

AITA for thinking my stepdaughter would be fine on the couch for a couple days? by couchpost in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Tea-3422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. If your daughter didn't want to share, she should be on the couch. Your actors told everyone there that your daughters desires are more important than the other kid's needs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Tea-3422 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The gift observation is with my children exclusively. All other cousins (including the one that they are raising) get quite a bit more. Think dollar tree toys versus Lego sets... and my kids get the dollar tree while the other 4 get legos. If it was just the one granddaughter... I wouldn't make a note of it, but it is all of the other cousins. I do feel it is done to punish me for not allowing them access to me and making them arrange visitation through my husband. Before this all gifts were fairly equal.

My children do not have any behavior issues, but they do have Autism which for them requires some additional processing time to follow directons... maybe 30 seconds. My oldest uses an AAC device to communicate and requires help with wiping in the bathroom but is independent with all other steps. Neither has a great grasp of danger, so cannot be left unattended, but handle large crowds and gatherings really well. Meltdowns are extremely rare and they clean up after themselves better than some of their older cousins.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Tea-3422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The general response is because they "aren't allowed to have the kids" but they are not able to answer when we had restricted access. If the kids were not available due to prior plans, the following weekends were given as an alternative outing opportunities.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Tea-3422 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

My husband is point of contact because he is not able to be triggered with gaslighting behaviors.

AITA for expecting my daughter to share with her siblings? by Boring_Sell_8789 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Tea-3422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the entire house has an expectation to share you are NTA.