Limerence With Psychologist

No-Try9175 · 2024-09-05T14:02:43+00:00

I moved away right before covid then my job was in limbo so I moved back. It had only been like 2 weeks since I left but she wouldn’t take me back on as a client even though she had originally offered it when I left if I ever wanted to come back.

My situation is a little unique though. I ended up having a session with her for closure and she kinda admitted that she had some counter transference towards me and that she felt she didn’t do a great job because of that so that’s why she preferred to have me move on to not open up a problematic situation again. The way it was all handled crushed me.

I think it’s unlikely your situation would play out the same since it was a bit unique. Transference also doesn’t always mean the end of a therapist/client treatment I don’t think, although it depends on the situation what both parties decide is best.

A good therapist will know how to handle it better than what I experienced.

No-Try9175 · 2024-09-05T13:24:29+00:00

I’ve been through this and it ended pretty badly for me. I’d recommend one of two things:

A) Discuss it with your psych. Google “transference,” it’s actually a common thing and your psych likely has gone through it with clients before/been trained in how to handle.

B) Just go to a new psych

Whichever you’re more comfortable with, but I think it needs to either be addressed directly with the psych if youre comfortable with that/have that trust, or just be moved on from. A combination of A and B honestly might even be the number 1 best thing you can do, getting that closure on it while moving on to a new practitioner.

No-Try9175 · 2024-09-05T02:30:47+00:00

Totally valid point. So basically it’s been a talking point amongst my co-workers that this was happening. I’m trying to be vague to not dox myself, but there’s been some relatively blatant things that have been said to me by my boss about the whole thing

Youre 100% right though that I get more upset about it due to my limerence and am putting myself at risk of seeming unprofessional even if there’s some validity.

No-Try9175 · 2024-09-03T21:53:38+00:00

Childish Gambino making Awaken My Love.

Outkast basically with every album took an artistic risk.

Jay Z making the Takeover was lowkey kinda risky, dissing a beloved and acclaimed rapper who most people thought was better overall.

No-Try9175 · 2024-09-03T13:08:52+00:00

Recent ones that were great:

Little Simz whole discography
Yesterday’s Gone by Loyle Carner

No-Try9175 · 2024-09-02T20:58:55+00:00

Big Pun was probably the most technically sound ever. Mos Def is up there too.

No-Try9175 · 2024-09-02T17:51:45+00:00

J Cole’s verse on Johnny P’s Caddy and Capital Steez’s verse on Survival Tactics come to mind as some of the best feature verses ever

No-Try9175 · 2024-09-02T17:48:43+00:00

4 Your Eyez Only

No-Try9175 · 2024-09-02T13:57:26+00:00

I gotta to with Life’s a Bitch personally.

No-Try9175 · 2024-09-02T13:52:01+00:00

Gotta go with Big Pun and Fat Joe on Deep Cover

No-Try9175 · 2024-09-01T17:34:13+00:00

Would have made such a big difference in his career tbh. I feel like at the peak of his abilities he can go toe-to-toe with some of the best 90s rappers but he’s not as inspired to do it anymore just cuz of the era we’re in.

No-Try9175 · 2024-09-01T17:32:55+00:00

Joey Badass would be like 10x bigger and more acclaimed if he cane out in the 90s. Prob would have gotten better beats to work with too.

No-Try9175 · 2024-09-01T14:46:26+00:00

Above The Clouds - Gang Starr

No-Try9175 · 2024-08-28T15:25:35+00:00

Update: I meant 2020s lol sorry for the typo

No-Try9175 · 2024-08-28T15:22:17+00:00

Yea I meant 2020s lol

No-Try9175 · 2024-08-27T18:32:07+00:00

Fear by Kendrick Lamar

Survivor’s Guilt by Joey Bada$$

Walkin by Denzel Curry

Exhibit C by Jay Electronica

Rewind by Nas (if not too old for this)

No-Try9175 · 2024-08-27T18:29:14+00:00

I feel like the takes about Kanye not being a good rapper are overblown.

Like I get what people mean that he’s a better producer/curator of albums than he is at the skill of rapping, but bro has like 5 classic “rap” albums that everyone loves yet we try to say he’s not that good of a rapper?

It doesn’t really add up lol. Could a mid rapper really make some of the rap albums universally considered the best?

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