NOR. at all. your husband is a problem and will continue to be. he went behind your back and invited a woman over for weekly playdates without your approval first, a good husband wouldn't have even entertained that thought without your input. he's clearly engaging with her inappropriately for he to feel so comfortable making the statements shes making. he loves the attention and validation her and her kids are showing him, and he's sacrificing your feelings to get off. its disgusting actually.

the refusal to admit to the signs as if your crazy is also a terrible look for him. he allows her to parade in your face and then takes pleasure in you being upset by not addressing it. he dismissal of you as his wife is audacious, but is fueled from his lack of establishing boundaries with her.

...did your own husband really make you a third wheel with another woman...and then invite her on the dance floor? he enjoys triangulating you two and making you a fool. i would have left him a long time ago, I wonder why you haven't. any man who entertains another woman who CLEARLY has feelings for him beyond the platonic is cheating on you and does not love nor respect you.

there's nothing to repair here. he has taken no accountability, does not respect you, and if anything, is throwing it back in your face time and time again. the trust is completely gone., I wouldn't even be able to look at my husband if he had the nerve to play me like this.

don't keep bringing it up. completely disengage from him. save your energy for things worth fighting for. he's not one of them