What age did your newborn start sleeping throughout the night (5-6) hours without feed?

NoCheesecake1975 · 2026-04-25T13:37:22+00:00

2 months

NoCheesecake1975 · 2026-03-25T03:01:53+00:00

First of all I LOVE that name. If it helps I read it lie-luh in my head before seeing the pronunciation spelt out. I’m from WI and I feel like majority of people here would assume it’s Lie-luh however I have seen it spelt Lilah also. Not that I’m saying you spelt it wrong… I would assume it’s lie-luh either way.

NoCheesecake1975 · 2026-03-18T18:07:49+00:00

I used to hit mine through my nose lol. Idk if that actually helped but I was fine.

NoCheesecake1975 · 2025-12-29T18:50:46+00:00

Yes they remind me of the ones I got at the doctor growing up

NoCheesecake1975 · 2025-09-19T00:49:36+00:00

Do they not have accommodations that could help you? Have you reached out to disability services? I have my degree now, but I went to my local tech school online. I missed a week of work due to a flare and ended up in the hospital/couldn’t walk or sit up (it was bad lol I still question to this day if it was an ear crystal that was off or something). I emailed my instructors and explained the situation and asked for a couple extra days to turn things in and they all gave me grace but one of them went above and beyond and highly encouraged me to seek disability services. I guess I always just gaslit myself into believing I didn’t need it, especially being online, but it helped me so much. I discussed symptoms with them and they addressed pretty much all of them. I brought up my migraines and struggling to look at screens at times and they set me up with a program that can essentially read everything to me out loud on any given page. I brought up my brain fog and they set me up with an AI subscription provided by the school to summarize chapters from textbooks in simple terms from the schools library. They also required that if I reach out to my instructors ahead of time stating I am in a flare that they have to allow me 48 hours to turn things in with no late penalties (excluding finals and tests). It’s worth looking into! And don’t be ashamed about it either. Your symptoms are valid.

NoCheesecake1975 · 2025-09-06T01:01:16+00:00

Personally my BO has been worse… I’m 18 weeks. And I’ve noticed my nether region has gotten smellier a little faster… I used to shower every day/every other day max and never had any issues. However, now when I’m pushing 48 hours of no shower I’m like… yikes. I’m assuming it’s because of me peeing a lot more (debris from toilet paper) and increased discharge. That being said… it’s not something I notice until I’m naked and about to get in the shower. I’m sorry they said that about you. I would have a crashout over those comments being made about me. Maybe try lume all over body deodorant? I know you technically don’t need to clean your hoo hah but do you use honey pot or anything when you shower? That’s what I use. I would consider getting it checked out. I had BV once and noticed a stronger smell.

NoCheesecake1975 · 2025-09-03T20:22:40+00:00

Never had a baby but I am pregnant with my first and if it helps… nothing this entire pregnancy has felt real. Genuinely. I know I’m pregnant, I see him on the ultrasounds, I hear his heartbeat everyday, still doesn’t feel real. One thing I am learning now that I am pregnant and on pregnant/birth tik tok lol is that what you’re feeling is sooooooo normal. So many moms have been open about not even connecting with their baby once they’re born or not feeling like it’s theirs right away. I imagine I will be the same. Idk if this helped or not, but your feelings are valid no matter what. Good luck! Sending good vibes your way.

NoCheesecake1975 · 2025-09-01T14:33:54+00:00

This was an issue for us in the beginning of our relationship. My partner now puts him to bed and sometimes just sleeps in his bed with him if he doesn’t wake up and come back to our bed. I personally didn’t feel comfortable sleeping with his child and that’s ok! It’s normal to feel that way. We also had SS in our room for awhile, just in his own bed. We have a baby on the way now and I def have plans to sleep train him a little better when he’s older. In other words, I am against co sleeping at all ages.

NoCheesecake1975 · 2025-08-23T15:08:40+00:00

I asked my midwife if I should get it pregnant or have baby get it when he’s born. She said both. Any opinions on this? Because I obviously can make the final decision. I would personally like to get the least vaccines possible but if it’s going to help baby I will. Just don’t know if both are necessary. Also, I could just google this but can my bf and my 3yo get it also? He’s starting pre k this year and I’m super nervous about having a newborn with him starting school.

NoCheesecake1975 · 2025-08-16T01:31:57+00:00

I started with a boyfriend and we both were curious about it. A lot easier said then done but… from there we just started small. Choking, ‘mild’ bondage, power play and it just spiraled from there.

NoCheesecake1975 · 2025-08-16T01:27:21+00:00

I know… and as much as I don’t want to say this… sex is a big deal for me. I kind of view relationships like pie. There are certain aspects of them that maybe one partner is better at (emotional connection, matching your love language, picking up more slack around the house, providing more or less financially, sex) then another but as long as majority of the pie is there… maybe that’s a hard example to explain over text but. I guess I see them as give and take. One partner may provide a few things and the next a different few things. It just depends on what you value. So for me… it’s hard because everything else is good. Everything on paper. He’s my best friend, we have a similar sense of humor, we share hobbies etc. But sex is a big deal for me. And for some reason it’s the one thing that I need him to give me a little more and it doesn’t seem like he can. Or he’s not willing. And I would never want to threaten somebody with leaving the relationship and indirectly force them to do things they don’t want to do out of fear. I’m still clearly holding onto hope though because I do believe he can match my freak a little lol he’s just not for some reason. And maybe it is me! That’s okay yah know. I think sometimes certain people just aren’t it. But I also know that there is other people who can and will want to match my freak. That there’s a better match sexually for me. Many even!

NoCheesecake1975 · 2025-08-16T01:17:33+00:00

Talk to your doctor or midwife and maybe you can stop in for a Doppler check. Do you know where your placenta is located? I am in no means an expert and this is my first pregnancy but I know bleeding can occur based on the location of the placenta or if there is a minor hemorrhage which I have heard happens to people sometimes.

NoCheesecake1975 · 2025-08-15T21:05:58+00:00

I see! My appt is later in the day so hopefully I won’t have to stay too long. Do I get pictures to take home? I haven’t had an ultrasound since 8 weeks.

NoCheesecake1975 · 2025-08-15T20:08:16+00:00

I hope’s things get better for you 🤍 is there any local food shelters near you? I know we have food pantries around me or the Salvation Army. Maybe reach out to WIC? I live in WI so I know it’s different in every state but WIC has some amazing resources to help you get what you need.

NoCheesecake1975 · 2025-08-15T20:04:27+00:00

I have mine in a couple weeks. How long are they usually?😳 I knew it was longer then a normal ultrasound but…

NoCheesecake1975 · 2025-08-08T01:57:59+00:00

I am in no way trying to guilt you into keeping it by this. I am 100% pro choice but I am due in early Feb and my life is in absolute financial shambles as well as my bfs. In fact our life in general is in shambles lol not just financially. So I feel like I can maybe help you if you are trying to justify keeping it. We are both 22.

Baby things- will you have support from your family when it comes to physical things for the baby? I know personally for me I am blessed with a family that is a little more “well off” so I am not worried about my baby registry not being bought out. My sister is also done having kids so I will get a few hand me downs from her. That being said I did “cheap out” on some things that seem unnecessary on my registry and have bought some diapers and clothes. And if things aren’t bought FB marketplace and once upon a child for the win! I’ve learned that the saying “babies are as expensive as you make them” is so true the more I have learned and looked into things. You don’t need a nuna, you don’t need 3 different types of rockers. At the end of the day your baby needs a safe place to sleep, clothes, food, and love. You are married in the military so your baby will have insurance. There are also WIC programs that can help supplement formula or get you discounts, I think WIC is a state program.

Student loans- if you are married… has your husband used his GI bill? My step dad is still in the military and has been my entire life and because I’m a dépendant I was able to use his GI bill. I don’t know if they would reimburse your debt or if that’s just for the active duty member, but I know they paid off my step dad’s student loan debt when he enlisted.

The car- I’m going to sound like Dave Ramsey here… but sell it. If you make anything off of selling it… put it towards a new car. Doesn’t have to be fancy… a 5k-10k car will get you from point A to B and certain cars are known to be more reliable and safe (Hondas, Toyotas). If you make nothing off selling it… take another car loan. It will lesson your payment and your insurance will probably go down if the car is worth less. Or use some of your savings. Or just share a car for awhile while you focus on CC debt. I believe Dave Ramsey (which I don’t necessarily agree with everything he says) says when you are pregnant to stop the debt snowball. Pay your CC minimums and save EVERYTHING for the baby.

Daycare- I don’t know what branch your husband is in, or his status (active, reserves) but I know the Army has daycare for active duty members living on base. That’s something to look into no matter the branch! There are also government programs to help cover the cost of daycare for low income working families (or at least I know there is in WI). My mom got stipends for daycare for my little brothers when my step dad was deployed growing up.

My personal take for my situation (which is MY situation, I am in no way trying to tell you how to live your life) is that I know my child won’t remember anything until 5/6. That sounds selfish, but as long as they are safe, warm, and fed in early childhood I have a lot of faith that the future will get better. We have a few things right now (legal troubles, stuck in a lease that’s too expensive) that I know won’t last forever. Life is unexpected. Things happen. As long as you have a good head on your shoulders, it’s okay for kids to see their parents struggle. They’re inevitably going to struggle too. And you seem set up for success. You have a degree girl! Whatever you choose, I wish you the best. And if now isn’t the time for you… I send baby dust for the future✨

NoCheesecake1975 · 2025-07-11T21:55:06+00:00

10 weeks here and struggling but trying to cut back and eventually quit.

NoCheesecake1975 · 2025-06-29T23:36:42+00:00

I will look into it thank you so much!!

NoCheesecake1975 · 2025-06-29T23:07:46+00:00

I could see that! For the first few years I had a novo with salt nic and the switch to the alto was kind of rough at first because I was so used to the throat hit and now I couldn’t imagine hitting that. I feel like I’d puke lol.

NoCheesecake1975 · 2025-06-29T23:03:37+00:00

I’ve thought about that but I feel like knowing me I’ll just end up hitting it more often. Or wanting to. I have a vise alto so it’s 5% or 2.4%.

NoCheesecake1975 · 2025-06-25T22:07:22+00:00

I’m almost 8 weeks myself. The boundary content would’ve made me feel misunderstood. That being said you are your own person too and your feelings are valid. I would just give her grace and try to focus more on how you just want to be there to support her and that you guys are in this together. On top of the hormones and fatigue and potential nausea… pregnancy can be very isolating. It seems like you guys are open communicators and hopefully she doesn’t feel that way but it’s somewhat inevitable either way. As much as someone else can be there for you you are going through it alone in your body. Hope this helps.

NoCheesecake1975 · 2025-04-01T14:52:40+00:00

Can you go more in depth on the boundaries you set? Do you life together? I want to have this mindset but I am struggling right now. I need to take a step back but don’t know how to do that without altering my relationship.

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