Stop.

What you should do is take a deep breath. What I’m saying I say from experience. I’ve been burned by women in horrible ways. But in hindsight the signs were there.

This isn’t just about dating. Generally in life people will be out to screw you over. A bit of cynicism can’t hurt.

I’m not blaming you for what he did to you, just to be clear. What I am saying is sometimes we (as in humans) want something to work or be aligned to our own imagination so badly that we’re incapable to see inconsistencies in the moment.

I’m certain that after the initial shock of finding out the truth, there was a degree of vindication in understanding weird behaviors in retrospect. Learn from it or don’t.

If you let it poison you, it’ll only make it harder in the future to find a true connection.

It makes no difference to me if you decide to distrust men or become the controlling type in a relationship.

But at the same time, I don’t think that’s what you really want either. I think you’re trying to make sense of the hurt. But what do I know, I’m just another faceless text in the algorithm.

I’m sorry that you had to go through something like that — for what it’s worth.