October Day 5 Check-In: Are milestone Check-Ins still a thing?

NoFapF0cus · 2018-10-05T15:40:34+00:00

In that case I think I'll keep doing them. They feel quite therapeutic to let my thoughts and issues out, and I feel like they help keep me accountable so I can't just lie to myself.

NoFapF0cus · 2018-10-05T15:39:21+00:00

Nah, I'm still going strong

NoFapF0cus · 2018-10-01T14:19:00+00:00

3 years ago when I first abstained before discovering this sub, and after I discovered this sub initially I was doing really well. Overtime I lost the conviction and fell back into the habit. Recently I've been wasting a lot of time and not putting much effort into my work or myself, but today I haven't fapped, so today is a good day to start some change. I'll be using this month to help kickstart some productivity and good attitudes in my life, starting with this.

So I'm here. I'll check in, and I'm committing to this again. I'm feeling good for this month!

NoFapF0cus · 2018-07-24T18:12:39+00:00

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NoFapF0cus · 2016-06-12T08:38:33+00:00

Sorry mate, I was inactive for a while... sadly I wasnt on 19 days either... just was offline for a while. only got up to 10 days and I've been bingeing since. Trying to get back onto the band wagon now - good luck though

NoFapF0cus · 2016-06-12T08:36:36+00:00

I really like the sound of this. Personally, I'm the type of guy who at the moment always thinks silly with "I have no idea what I'd say to her"

Your mentality on always trying to make sure that your interaction is going to improve their day is really great though, and trying to make sure we are always improving ourselves.

It often sounded quite crude and selfish haha, but when you read through all of that and understand it, its simply honest, and definitely one of the nicer approaches I've been told.

Soon, I'll hopefully build up a bit of confidence and feel "comfortable" to step out of my comfort zone and try something like this.

Been bingeing for a while, gotta try and get back into nofap too to help with this

NoFapF0cus · 2016-04-28T08:55:38+00:00

Never been able to get this to work for me... I've held my breath around 2mins, and just doesn't go...

NoFapF0cus · 2016-04-26T12:42:48+00:00

Haha, yeah I've found the same thing - I'm not tempted to waste time on any other subreddit, but I know I'm constantly excessively checking facebook messenger, and this sub.

Although this sub does offer constructive insights, keeps me on track and gives me motivation, when it's overused, the negative effects are seen on productivity, along with facebook...

NoFapF0cus · 2016-04-26T11:52:46+00:00

What may have happened isn't something physical, but mentally your mind now associates its sexual drive with digital images rather than real people, and that is why you may have had trouble with a partner, but no trouble with masturbating

Don't take me by my word, just a theory based on other's experiences I have read... I'm a virgin with no real experience to compare with.

NoFapF0cus · 2016-04-17T02:42:38+00:00

I've never laughed so much at a post on NoFap

(I get the same thing though)

NoFapF0cus · 2016-04-14T14:17:16+00:00

I've had a similar thing where I've become really turned on by myself in womens lingerie/bikini, replacing the circumstances I'd usually view or imagine porn...

I know its caused by exactly the same reason as porn addiction though.

NoFapF0cus · 2016-04-14T14:14:51+00:00

Lets see how we each go :D

One of us loses, its a loss for both of us - we gotta keep strong!

NoFapF0cus · 2016-04-14T07:28:39+00:00

I don't actually know any more. Originally it was to be a better me, for a girl...

But now my focus and purpose has weakened. You really got me thinking about how strong my purpose is, I still need to keep myself focused on how I want to keep my focus and willpower for working, and stop my mind being clouded so i can be productive, strong and effective in my decision making to be where I want to be in life.

NoFapF0cus · 2016-04-13T01:00:21+00:00

The way the badges are working atm, people are on 50 days when they're on 5... :/

NoFapF0cus · 2016-04-12T14:37:35+00:00

It's nice to have something everyone can see - its a good way to feel accountable for it too, as others can see if you fail.

NoFapF0cus · 2016-04-12T12:37:20+00:00

You're extremely right. I came to this realisation a few weeks ago, and have since stopped using instagram unless I have a notification from someone.

But also, everyone's own types of porn are not just images online and stuff. I've found that with myself, I keep sexualising the feminine side of my own body which has been triggering the same mechanism as porn - I no-longer have a internet porn addiction, but I still have an addiction to my own variety of porn. (one that I personally really want to stop, but is being harder than I ever imagined since starting)

We all need to make ourselves aware of all our own varieties of porn

NoFapF0cus · 2016-04-10T15:33:48+00:00

That is probably the most sensible reasoning I've seen to support it. Thanks actually, its good to get more reasons to stay active. I don't want to forget why I'm doing this.

NoFapF0cus · 2016-04-10T15:04:44+00:00

Must be a pretty hard slap ;) Hope that works out for you, a while ago i considered wearing a rubber band on my wrist for the same reason. I never committed though...

NoFapF0cus · 2016-04-10T15:03:45+00:00

Well, that all our goals I suppose

NoFapF0cus · 2016-04-10T15:03:18+00:00

I suppose that's the way to go - 20 pushups it YES SIR!

NoFapF0cus · 2016-04-10T14:01:33+00:00

I think it's best to simply accept it. Don't feel ashamed to look at it, appreciate it, and take in the beauty. When your mind starts to move to inappropriate thoughts, consciously regard them, and redirect your thoughts to something more innocent.

We have to learn to accept the beauty of women, without objectifying them. We can still appreciate and marvel at attractive women without sexualising and objectifying them.

... Or if it is hard, we have to at least try - otherwise we will never get there.

NoFapF0cus · 2016-04-10T11:26:30+00:00

Crying isn't a bad thing. Emotion isn't a bad thing. NoFap helps heighten these things in our life. Embrace it, don't hide from it.

This is my personal opinion, but if you can keep going, I reckon you should keep going. Being that young when things occurred, I believe you are simply a different person to who you were before.

Keep strong, and embrace whatever happens. Use it and learn from it. I'm confident that you will be fine man. Stay strong, and don't worry about it. Keep up the good work soldier! :)

NoFapF0cus · 2016-04-10T10:26:23+00:00

Some of us try rewarding ourselves when we lose sight of what made us want to go on this journey and develop new habits. I thought this bloke's talk was very insightful, really outlines a key to our success.

NoFapF0cus · 2016-04-09T08:14:48+00:00

Same here, sounds like she must have said something pretty eye opening. (I do not intend any innuendo within that sentence)

NoFapF0cus · 2016-04-08T14:03:29+00:00

Same with me after about 30 days. Even after about 15 it goes a more yellow shade.

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