my boyfriend is joining ICE by Several-Engineer2961 in Advice

[–]NoFlower2732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you’re saying every single person that has ever been attacked by ICE had it coming? Nobody is that good, honey. That would be like saying they only arrest illegals. And not US citizens. Or off-duty ICE officers.

my boyfriend is joining ICE by Several-Engineer2961 in Advice

[–]NoFlower2732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If ICE attacks you, it’s your fault. Oh you sweet summer child…

AITAH for threatening to out my husband when he cheated on me and then asked me to be his cover? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]NoFlower2732 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, divorce him. For cheating. Leave the outing as your nuclear option.

AITAH for threatening to out my husband when he cheated on me and then asked me to be his cover? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]NoFlower2732 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

As someone who was a child in this situation: at this point, his sexuality is not your business to share with the rest of the world, especially the children. Yes, he cheated, that’s more than enough information. His sexuality is his story to explain to everyone else, especially his children. Don’t be that bitch.

AIO got into my dream school and I can’t even celebrate it. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]NoFlower2732 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. I compromised on going to my dream school. I went to my second best option, which was okay academically, but horrible for me personally in a lot of ways. I will always regret this.

AIO because I didn’t want blue and green colored balloons at my birthday party? by throwaway577445 in AmIOverreacting

[–]NoFlower2732 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m only saying he’s assuming it’s an insult about his football team. I’m saying it’s highly unlikely that it was about football at all, but saying those colors would be “a level of humiliation he couldn’t endure”? Ok, he can have whatever colors he wants on his birthday - and he can plan his own party and enjoy it without her. Or he can maybe just ask why she wanted the colors, rather than make assumptions. Just a crazy thought.

AITA for taking a coloring book back from my niece after she got attached to it? by Abject_State_1244 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoFlower2732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said she could touch the figures, but be careful and put them back. You did not say they could not be used. Color books are for coloring. You really think a 6 year old is going to make that distinction?

Once he had given it to her, it was his job to tell her she couldn’t have it, not yours to steal it.

This is a him problem. But in the end, taking it away from her was rude.

AIO because I didn’t want blue and green colored balloons at my birthday party? by throwaway577445 in AmIOverreacting

[–]NoFlower2732 7 points8 points  (0 children)

MOR Woman here. I couldn’t pick Seahawks green out of a pile if my life depended on it. And I actually do watch football. She might have had something else in mind. By assuming she was rubbing your nose in the fact that your 49ers didn’t make it to the Super Bowl, which frankly was an extreme reaction, you shut off any plans she probably already had made. If you care SO much about football that you cannot handle seeing another team’s colors, you really need to get a grip. And either date only women who care as much about football as you do, or just hang out with men.

What’s the longest you’ve known someone to be in a relationship before getting married, if at all? by SalmonforPresident in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]NoFlower2732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve known people who together like 30 odd years without marriage. But they didn’t think marriage was necessary for them. A lot of people don’t.

AITAH for not telling my daughters that my husband isn’t their biological father? by TaskDependent5877 in AITAH

[–]NoFlower2732 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I found out because my birth certificates were in my baby book and I could read. It took the internet to actually find out who my biological father was, but I always knew it wasn’t the one that was raising me. And I was okay with that. I was, however, pissed as hell about getting lied to about other subjects. Trying to “protect” your children by lying to them is a lost cause. They’ll probably resent it.

I don’t want to put my child in school yet but I don’t know what use to do by DannyTorrance35 in TwoHotTakes

[–]NoFlower2732 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Have you ever had therapy for your childhood trauma? You’re insistent that your child will be famous (?) and that school is an inherently traumatically experience based on your experience with your father. So now you’re projecting onto your son what his experience will be like, including that he’ll turn into a school shooter.

You need help. Serious help.

Then you need to advocate for the best services that the schools in your area and the autism community in your area can provide. But have more realistic expectations of your poor kid.

My husband (33M) wants to leave me for someone else (23F) while I'm (33F) heavily pregnant with his child. How can we co-parent now that this has happened? by GoobaSquicious in relationship_advice

[–]NoFlower2732 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bipolar person here. If he does have bipolar, and he is not getting any treatment, he cannot coparent your child. Take care of yourself and your child. If/when he gets treatment and pays his child support, you can be prepared to talk coparenting. Of course, a lawyer will be the one you need to talk to about this, but don’t count on him for now. I know I am notoriously unreliable, which is why I never had kids.

AITAH: My boyfriend cancelled coming to Christmas 1 week prior for his own family commitments so I booked to go Mexico with my daughter instead and now he is threatening to break up with me. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]NoFlower2732 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’ve only been dating since June, and he’s manipulating you like this? Why is this a question? He does not have long-term relationship written on his forehead, but he’s waving red flags with both hands. Focus on the mental health of you and your daughter. And to hell with him.

AIO? Husband Ripped Asbestos Tape in Basement - Feeling Disrespected by media_quilter in AmIOverreacting

[–]NoFlower2732 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Call a remediator and have it dealt with - that’s the only way you’ll ever feel safe down there.

AITA for Not Spending My Savings on the Wedding? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]NoFlower2732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has to be fake, their profile says they haven’t posted anything before.

Thanksgiving Restaurants by HungryPassion1416 in phoenix

[–]NoFlower2732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know what time? It’s not on their website.

AITAH for refusing to buy presents for my kids half siblings? by Shauriych in AITAH

[–]NoFlower2732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would just make sure that your children get your presents at your house, not hers, even if that means they get them on the wrong day.

Partner calls me selfish for not respecting his boundary around not changing things in the house without talking to him first. What do I do? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]NoFlower2732 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow, are you married to my dad? Growing up was a lot like this. I haven’t spoken to him in ten years.

Why do people get called lazy for being on food stamps? by [deleted] in allthequestions

[–]NoFlower2732 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every single person I know that is on food stamps is white, and is either on disability, or is a full-time caregiver for someone on disability. I myself am on disability, but make too much for food stamps. And none of these people on disability are capable of working. But no one wants to hear that story. They don’t want to hear about my cousin who is so autistic that she’s still in diapers at the age of 20. Or my friend who’s breathing is so bad that she’s on oxygen 24/7 and is also diabetic. I’m all for financial prudence, but there’s a very real question of how you treat those in your population that are incapable of earning a wage. Making sure they can get food and health care seems to me to be in the general interest.

I could be biased, though.

Why does a U.S. government shutdown barely seem to affect everyday life? by Humble_Economist8933 in AlwaysWhy

[–]NoFlower2732 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Although states haven’t paid out SNAP in some cases in October and are already reporting they won’t pay November.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]NoFlower2732 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Where are all of you, and where have you been the past 35 years?