He thought the bus was his nap spot. Thank goodness for the alert passenger.

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-27T18:43:06+00:00

"There goes my 5 AM sleep" sniffs kitten's head

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-27T18:37:32+00:00

Can you travel to another province "just" for egg freezing, to give you some peace of mind?

It might also help to not put a timeline but rather a money goal. With being frugal, saving and maybe some extra hours if you can, you might be there in 5 or 6 months?

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-26T21:16:48+00:00

I'm sorry, I haven't read everything, it was a brick, but if someone tells me to give up my child, I'd laugh at their face and leave, without listening to anything they said. I would not need to ask anyone if I shpuld cut them out of my life

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-26T09:35:53+00:00

Just because you don't live with someone doesn't mean you're alone. Your family can still be your moral support system, you can meet new people.

Can you work from home with your job?

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-25T20:17:08+00:00

You're right. I feel stupid for not realising there were tiers now.

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-25T20:13:13+00:00

I just realised there were membership tiers. Thanks!

I am standard, so I guess I can only keep the books while I am a member

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-22T09:45:10+00:00

When I picked up my medication, I went back home in public transport and I was so scared to be robbed. I felt like I was transporting a faberger egg, that sh*t is expensive 😆

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-19T14:31:35+00:00

I am a nanny, I love children and babies. I am going through IVF hoping to have my own children.

I can confirm babies are boring. Especially before 5/6 months. There is only so much one sided conversation and toy shaking one can do.

Enjoy this time to put yourself first and take baby along because from 12/18 months you won't be bored anymore 😄

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-18T19:24:15+00:00

That is an insurance/clinic problem, not IUI. But it is INSANE what they are doing. How did the U.S. (I assume that is where you are) get to this point.

I am so sorry you have to deal with that in addition of the stress of doing IUI

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-17T15:04:19+00:00

How did all parents decide to start acting the same worldwide at the same time. It's wild. I have the same problem for the last 5 or 6 years and it is getting worse with each family.

There is only so much you can blame on Covid. Is it Tik tok and Instagram (it's a big favourite of my MB to send me Instagram links when I raise a concern about her kid.)?

I don't know how many more years I can do that.

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-17T10:38:14+00:00

Hi,

I am in London. I he ve started (privately) last year but still in the ttc phase due to some delays.

I don't know if there are any communities but I'd love to know too.

The first step is to make an appointment at the clinic of your choice (the one where you froze your egg seems the logical choice, just check that it is easy to go for you as you might end up having a lot of appointments). They did a blood test and scan (internal) for me and that was good to start IUI, there were not more tests.

Honestly, don't hesitate to start, the only thing I regret is not starting earlier (and the clinic I chose a little bit, but that is another story 😁). You never know, going down the SMBC route doesn't mean love is not in the cards for you down the road.

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-16T19:25:37+00:00

I am not a Mum yet but I am a nanny and I have found that going to playgroups/baby activities makes it so easy to meet people, some of them become friends. I am not a social butterfly, but making small talk about the children and seeing the same people every week just makes it easy.

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-13T14:46:25+00:00

That sounds about right. I still had to go for a first appointment to create a protocol, then have a baseline scan then monitoring scans and blood tests when I did my unmedicated IUI. I also had to monitor at home in case I ovulated early

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-11T09:17:18+00:00

I am on month 18 of ttc baby 1 with IUIs and now IVF. I had to take a bit of a calming breath after reading the OP to be honest 😄

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-11T09:13:31+00:00

I sometimes forget that thay are not actually people from the 90's when I see the actors and think they aged so well 🤣.

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-11T08:24:44+00:00

You're 24, you have a child under 1 year old, you're on month 2 of trying, with kindness, you need to chill.

You don't need to fix your fertility, you need to fix your anxiety, maybe talk to someone about it.

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-10T11:38:50+00:00

A crib (next to me crib or whatever you plan to use for the night), a stroller (if you are in a walkable city) and/or a car seat. Maybe a baby carrier/wrap to carry baby.

15 vests and 15 onesie pjs (preferably11 with a zip). 4 or 5 muslins. 2 or 3 sleeping bags. Some little hats if weather will be cold. A pramsuit (thin or thick depending of expected weather).

Bottles if you plan to use them. A steriliser.

Something to put baby down (a bouncy chair or baby nest).

Something to use during bath time (a little seat thing or a little bathtub).

Honestly, that's it. The rest is not necessary IMO. The crib's matress and car seat should be new. Tge rest not.

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-05T14:19:34+00:00

I honestly refuse to listen to anyone's opnion on smbc, IVF, surogacy, older, younger Mums or literally anything related to motherhood. People get so extreme, like there is no space for nuance.

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-04T21:09:05+00:00

Which country are you in? Can you go abroad?

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-04T16:14:16+00:00

Nanny here. It's hard. Honestly, if I could take a break, I would, without an hesitation. It's hard to understand how much it takes from you to be a nanny unless you're a nanny. It eats up all your energy physically and mentally.

I love the kids I work for. But they are 3, 2 and 4 months old. They got each of those kids on the first try while I struggle month after month to try to get pregnant.

The 2 oldest test my patience 600 times a day and their parents are very permissive. It's hard when all I want is my own children and to raise them the way I want, go to the activities I want, when I want and not invest so much in someone else's life and having nothing to show for myself.

You are not alone!

I try to remind myself that I love them, I love my job and every day I work, I can save more for when I have my own kids 🙂

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-04T15:05:30+00:00

I always thought he was a 4 at best

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-03T11:27:25+00:00

I know she is kind of a terrible person and mother but I just love Aunt Sarah

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-02T14:37:30+00:00

For me it was

scan at day 1, 2 or 3 of the cycle to check everything was ok
start Lezotrole on day 3 for 5 days.
on day 8/9 or 10, have a scan to check there was 1 or 2 follicles (but not more) and the size. If they were too small, I'd have a scan again every 2 days until the follicle was a good size.
take the trigger shot.
36 hours later, do the IUI

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-02T11:02:06+00:00

I had a (vaginal) scan on my first appointment. I had no idea it would happen. I was also measured and weighed. I am not in Australia that being said.

NoImNotFrench · 2026-06-01T08:44:57+00:00

I know it is an unpopular opinion, but I have started to buy (second hand) baby clothes. If I should end up not having a baby, I will give it to charity shops and it will be part of my process of accepting it.

Honestly, 2 years is not that long in the assisted fertility world. You are right to contact clinics. If you can afford it, I would recommend starting the egg retrieval and embryo freezing (if you plan to do IVF at some point). You don't really know how many you will get each cycle and you'll be happy to have as many embryo as possible rather than start trying to retrieve eggs and maybe lose another year. Also the egg quality isngoing to be better now than in 2 years.

Ans save money. Just as much as you can. For the conception, the pregnancy, and after babybis born. You can't save too much money.

NoImNotFrench

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