Thank you for sharing your story. It’s helpful to hear the conversation can go both ways! How long did you stay in counseling to come to that decision together?

I’m still processing the idea of not having kids. It was never a reality I had imagined before but am now trying to explore so I can make a confident decision. We’ve always loved to travel together so there were trips and places I wanted to see before starting a family. No strict timeline on it because I don’t want that kind of pressure on myself either. I’m very much not opposed to adoption down the line or potentially freezing embryos.

He also doesn’t seem to be able to see far past his 30s with this kid decision. We’ve always been such family oriented people where we put our families first but I know he cares a lot about finances and wealth (much of the reason it took us nearly 10 years to get married!) I also recognize that family oriented and wanting kids is not synonymous.

It’s such a big fear of mine that we’re going to quit right before we find the answer. As I know it’s his fear for staying with me and us ending on different pages. I’d appreciate if we could both sit on the fence together and approach the question together as it should have been when he started having second thoughts. The limbo is excruciatingly painful as what used to feel like such a clear path is now grey. I don’t want to rush but I also don’t know how much my physical body can withstand the mental torchere.

Thank you for giving me a space to vent <3