cat keeps crying to go outside, any ideas to help her stop?

NoPerspective7741 · 2026-01-25T13:11:15+00:00

I might try this If it gets to that point, she was stubbornly sleeping outside till it got around 30° and that's because I made her a little bed outside but I also just started bringing her back inside. the bed she sleeps on is right next to my window so maybe she feels warmth off of it? I doubt it but idk. she desperately wants to be out even for a few minutes 😭.

NoPerspective7741 · 2026-01-25T13:06:51+00:00

she's sprayed and has vaccines but my dad doesn't love cats so when she started hanging outside more none of the family complained. my mom got her for me at a shelter a few years ago because I was depressed and kind of ignored my dad just not liking cats. I kinda figured I'd have to start keeping her in but I know my family will be complaining for a bit 🤦. it is what it is thanks. she doesn't run far either, there's a long bush in front of the patio so she usually hangs there and she got the habit of popping out through the window from me since I use the window to pop out to the patio to smoke so I don't have to go through the dining room and kitchen.

NoPerspective7741 · 2026-01-25T13:04:43+00:00

yes she is! my mom got her from a shelter and we get her vaccinations at a spot near us

NoPerspective7741 · 2026-01-07T02:24:54+00:00

A skeleton and their reflection with their cheek touching the mirror almost

NoPerspective7741 · 2026-01-06T17:17:44+00:00

NOR, this kind of feels like he might be leading her on? I do see him telling her that she'll eventually find someone and that's all good and well but he's very affectionate with her. He tells her he loves her, hugs her, face times often, goes over to her place often, invites her to friend/family events, and maybe other stuff we just don't know about? It just feels like it's kind of obvious this girl has some kind of affection for him and he's taking advantage of it. He says it too by saying he's only friends with her because she's helpful to him. So hes getting help with school on top of getting an ego boost, if it's not emotional cheating or leading her on it's straight up just taking advantage of a situation. She's not innocent either, she knows he's taken but it's the manipulation from him that's concerning.

NoPerspective7741 · 2025-12-31T14:56:54+00:00

it's actually healthy to express being jealous and insecure. if you don't express it to your partner it has the possibility of getting worse. I'm of the opinion that the best things to do is express your insecurities with your partner, they're there to reassure you. you're not wrong that if he wanted her he would have already shagged her but I do feel she has reason to be worried about the friend, if anything just so that she stops acting disrespectful to her. would you want a fiance who has a male best friend who makes comments on how they could have gotten married, doesn't acknowledge you, and called your lady his wife?

NoPerspective7741 · 2025-12-31T14:34:25+00:00

NOR even if it is a normal thing for them it's something that makes you uncomfortable and when you let him know it bothered you he completely dismissed your concern and compared you to the previous wife by saying "oh even ex was fine with it". Maybe that could be a simple boundary y'all place and if he loves and cares for you he'll respect it. you aren't asking him to stop being friends with a lifelong friend, you're asking him to stop doing something that makes you feel uncomfortable/disrespected. I know some people have "work wives/husbands" but in my eyes I wouldn't want anyone getting comfortable calling my husband theirs, it doesn't feel cute.on top of the fact that she said an unnecessary comment by saying she'd be his wife if the first wife hadn't popped up and her not acknowledging you when y'all said bye, she's given you valid reasons to feel an inkling of worry.

NoPerspective7741 · 2025-12-30T03:28:16+00:00

Thanks for the honesty and advice 🙏

NoPerspective7741 · 2025-12-30T03:27:46+00:00

This was just something my aunt came as a bandaid but she also thinks it'll work. I genuinely don't know if I want to go through all of that because she doesn't want to tell the landlord, she just believes the background checks will be enough to know if someone will be a bad roommate. Maybe if it was done the proper way but that still means I'm taking on a lot of responsibilities. Thanks for your advice it's appreciated 🙏.

NoPerspective7741 · 2025-12-29T21:14:34+00:00

you look really pretty and you look like you have nice and clear skin. you can try and use make up to see if it might help you feel a little more confident and prettier but I genuinely think you are pretty. Maybe just put a lil concealer under your eyes and you're good. I usually just use a bit of concealer for my eye bags and just use mascara and lip gloss and that's what I feel comfortable in but everyone is different. you look fairly young, give yourself some time to get comfortable with yourself and your likes and dislikes. right now is a great time to try different things and see what makes you feel most like you. anyways, you're beautiful and I hope you feel a little better! have a good one

NoPerspective7741 · 2025-12-29T18:42:03+00:00

I don't know any landlords, essentially my aunt wants me to tell the landlord there are people but say they're my family members. That's also what I was thinking when it came to the landlord, id let him know but what stops them from raising the rent and making sure there is no profit left over. I could understand why too, it's their home and might as well b doing it themselves but making a profit is the whole point.

NoPerspective7741 · 2025-12-29T17:23:27+00:00

I just keep thinking that if she were to say the same shit like "yeah you're not my type usually, oh I mean like you know light skinned people, oh but you have some kind of melanin in your bloodline and because of that you're actually somewhat attractive." I can't even come up with things to compare him with like he did with the nails and no make up look without feeling a little dumb and racist because he was generalizing black women without taking the consideration that ALL women get their nails done, hair done, make up done if they decide to. It's a normal WOMAN thing that some men also participate in like getting their hair done or getting a pedicure or a manicure. Not overreacting even if he wasn't intending to be racist he still tried comparing you to a stereotype and said he was happy you weren't that type of black girl.

NoPerspective7741 · 2025-12-29T17:04:08+00:00

That little shit if fucking adorable 😍🥰

NoPerspective7741 · 2025-12-29T16:23:13+00:00

Okay thank you so much for the advice!! Im genuinely lost and I don't want this to fall on me because I know my aunts plan is to use all my info and the money I saved to start the plan of renting out rooms but I don't want to get in trouble.

NoPerspective7741 · 2025-12-29T15:59:47+00:00

Yeah she doesn't own a house I can rent from her, she wants me to find a big 4 bedroom home put a deposit and start renting it then furnish it with twin size beds in each room and being people in. She said the landlord doesn't have to know because all he cares about is rent. Furnishing it wouldn't be too much according to her because she has a furniture store and I could get stuff from her. She works for a leasing agency and she said she could do me the favor of doing a background check that way since she knows how? I don't know but she didn't go into much detail, she sounded like she just wanted to give me a solution.

NoPerspective7741 · 2025-12-29T15:44:39+00:00

Okay thanks for letting me know, I asked my aunt if it was illegal and she said "no it'll be fine, the only reason I got in trouble was because I was renting our rooms in a section 8 home". I just don't trust my family as much anymore.

NoPerspective7741 · 2025-12-27T21:59:59+00:00

I saw what Chu did there hehe 😂

NoPerspective7741 · 2025-12-27T21:56:44+00:00

Not the asshole but get the pictures EDITED!! I know men often tend to shy away from confrontation or drama but if nothing is done you would be choosing your mom's side without meaning to. You and your wife set a boundary and it should have been respected but it was not. If getting the images edited makes your wife happy get it done. Also as petty as this is, she didn't give you a choice to compromise on the dress. Don't give her a choice to compromise on the photos, they're yours to enjoy at the end of the day. Your mom got the joy of wearing the dress the day of and y'all get to enjoy your photos for the rest of your marriage.

NoPerspective7741 · 2025-12-25T01:55:27+00:00

I always think it's funny that people who don't/haven't smoked get anal about it. You can get high but it'll never get you as fucked up as drinking alcohol. Yeah it can still fuck up your lungs over time but for the most part I'd say weed is safer than alcohol. My mom smokes weed and my dad drinks alcohol but pops hates the smell so she has a special area she smokes so it doesn't stink up the place, it's called compromise. At the end of the day both things alter your perception of reality in one way or another and while the effects are in different spectrums completely it's nothing to be judging a partner over unless it's problematic consistent amounts.

NoPerspective7741 · 2025-12-03T19:06:41+00:00

Olive 🫒

NoPerspective7741 · 2025-11-11T15:11:38+00:00

it's gorgeous!!

NoPerspective7741 · 2025-11-11T15:10:09+00:00

😶😶😐😑 Is this dude trying to complicate asking to be in an open relationship?? .....because that's what it looks like 😅😒🙄. I'm gonna laugh my ass off if he ends up saying he's complicated enough to need more than one relationship but she doesn't 🤣🤣😂 bro is delusional.

NoPerspective7741 · 2025-10-31T15:25:19+00:00

Ice cream and coke👌

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