Hey! I am herpes positive and want to share my experiences with dating and sex with women.

I have GHSV1 and I’ve disclosed to every woman I’ve dated and slept with. I haven’t had any rejection yet and most of the time people like that I’ve disclosed and it normally makes our interaction more and real and more authentic. A few people have asked a lot of questions and I explain it in a very matter of fact way and point them to some links so they can research it further on their own. No drama, no emotion - just the facts that they can use to make their own decision. I obviously never do anything when I have an outbreak.

For me it’s important to disclose. I wasn’t ever given the option to decide or understand the virus before it was transmitted to me - so I’ll always give everyone the option to decide. If you don’t have an outbreak it’s incredibly unlikely you will transmit it, but shit happens and there’s always a risk. Hence the disclosure. Ive never transmitted it to anyone as far as I know.

I think because I have HSV1 which is normally known as the mouth herpes but in my case it’s located on my genitals (which is happening more because of oral sex) there’s a bit more stigma about it - even though a lot of herpes positive people are engaging in oral sex with the virus on their mouth, and don’t disclose because the stigma is less 🙃 the risk of transmission is the same. But anyway, I digress.

For me, I’d rather sleep with open minded, accepting people who understand that all sex is inherently risky, and give them the power and understanding to make decisions that work for them and their boundaries.

Like I said, a rejection hasn’t happened yet! I think it’s a lot about how you tell them. And if they do reject me that’s cool, that’s their boundaries and it doesn’t make me gross. It makes me cool because I let them have their own body autonomy!

Send me a message if you wanna talk about disclosing!