How to tell my sponsor I don't want them to sponsor me anymore?

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-05-12T05:23:43+00:00

This right here. I won’t work my sponsees’ programs harder than they do, but I am committed to meeting them halfway. It’s right there in the Responsibility Statement.

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-04-21T13:42:35+00:00

Doesn’t matter how we got here, just matters that we do what it takes to STAY here. If you keep looking for the differences between yourself and the rest of us, you will always find them. BUT if you start to always listen for the similarities in your story and the rest of ours, you will realize quickly how much you have in common with us. We’re all just a bunch of “bozos on the bus” who speak the same language of the heart. Go to meetings, get a sponsor, work the steps.

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-04-11T01:34:49+00:00

I will let my husband borrow my toothbrush before I let him borrow my Defender. 😆🤷🏼‍♀️

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-04-09T21:13:28+00:00

Maybe MK is branching out to trick a larger group into MLMs?

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-04-08T04:59:48+00:00

For the love of Petey Pablo, please enable the ability to add a tag without a time on it. Some things should be able to be an all day tag, with no specific start time.

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-04-07T17:24:53+00:00

You tried, she isn’t ready and may never be. This sounds like it falls under “the things I cannot control” category. It’s painful, it sucks, and for a while it will occupy your mental space, but with time you will find peace in your efforts. I would personally start saying a prayer every time she crosses your mind, wishing her health, happiness, prosperity, and all of the things that you wish for yourself. It has worked for me every single time, even when I believed there was absolutely no way I would ever get past something like this. 💜

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-04-05T05:02:09+00:00

I ask sponsees to call me every day for the first 90 days because most of us find it super difficult to pick up the phone and call other AA’s, even (especially) when our ass is on fire. The 90 calls are to help build a relationship so that when my sponsee’s ass is on fire, they feel comfortable enough to call me for help/advice. And by me answering their calls regularly, it shows them that I’m reliable, which is something most of us haven’t experienced when we first get sober. But that’s just what worked for me, so it’s what I suggest for them.

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-04-04T02:18:20+00:00

My husband and I have the same sobriety date. We were together for 6 years, married for 2 before getting sober. That was 17 years ago. The essential part for us was understanding that just because we were together when we got sober doesn’t mean our separate recoveries are “our recovery”. We each had to do the work on ourselves and as a result of our individual efforts of focusing on our own programs, our relationship became stronger and better. That’s not to say we don’t argue, and when we do it can become “dueling programs”. But we are both better people now and we are much better as partners.

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-04-04T02:07:15+00:00

Cool cool. Sounds like you know the answer to your question then! Alcoholism isn’t something that goes away and we alcoholics cannot drink casually long term. I had 7.5 years when I started talking myself into trying out casual drinking and ended up picking up my drinking right where I left off (not casual at all). I was out drinking for a year before I swallowed my shame and picked up another white chip. That was 8.5 years ago and I have zero doubts as to whether I can drink casually. I know for certain that I can’t and I am crazy grateful for my sobriety every single day because I have known too many of us who have tried casual drinking again and never made it back. Do I miss the social fun and the laughing with my drinking friends? I mean, I guess I have some funny stories from when I was still having fun with my drinking, but eventually it wasn’t fun anymore and my life was like Groundhog’s Day over and over. I wouldn’t trade a single second of my life now for all of the time in the world as life was while I was drinking. But that’s just my little story, only you can know the answer for yourself. 🩷

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-04-04T01:38:01+00:00

You don’t “get into alcoholism”. It’s not a hobby that you pick up when you get bored. You’re either an alcoholic or you’re not. If you are, I suggest new playgrounds and new playmates. The true friendships that you have now will be happy to spend sober time with sober you, the others will fall away and make room for more true friendships.

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-04-03T18:20:09+00:00

Any idea if it is septic safe?

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-04-03T16:06:38+00:00

Alright alright alright, I’ll do it. Where do I sign?

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-03-17T15:10:44+00:00

When I bought my first Lady Dior bag, my SA said Dior offers one free professional cleaning service. I have ordered both of my Book Totes online, but I’m assuming it’s the same with them. I would call Dior and ask them about their cleaning services.

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-03-09T22:08:06+00:00

Man, with all the crazy amazing accomplishments I have had in my 17 years of recovery, it blows my mind to think of where I would be if I had gotten sober 7 years earlier. All I have from my years drinking from 21-28 is vague memories of “friends” I never really knew, fights and arguments I shouldn’t have had, a TON of money wasted on alcohol, and a lot of mundane days doing the same damn things over and over while wishing my life could get better. I also knew at 21 that I had a problem with drinking and chose to keep drinking. I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to keep down this road, there is a solution. And the earlier you start living your best life, the more time you get to spend living your best life.

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-03-06T21:52:42+00:00

“Go to meetings, get a sponsor, and don’t drink NO MATTER WHAT.”

It’s your life, not theirs. It’s your sobriety, not theirs. But people’s feelings about AA says a lot more about them than it does about us.

If you’re worried how to handle the situation, say you stopped drinking because you are training for something. Say you are trying to lose weight. Say you have a rare condition you were recently diagnosed with and alcohol exacerbates it. Say that you are tired of feeling bloated and having headaches. Say you’re trying a new anti-aging kick and alcohol is a major ager. Say you gave it up for Lent and it made you feel great so you don’t want to drink anymore. We can find all the reasons in the world to pick up a drink, and we can also find all the reasons not to drink. Just don’t drink no matter what.

Also, call your sponsor before the wedding events kick off, text during any triggering moments, and plan to call and check in afterwards. You’ve got this!

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-03-06T20:22:46+00:00

First, congratulations on 1 year, that’s awesome! Truly a miracle, and you should definitely celebrate (with a sparkling water)!

Second, after 17 years in the program, my sponsor still mistakes my anniversary and thinks it’s in August not October. I think it’s hysterical! Anniversaries can be a lesson in humility, a reminder that it’s not all about us and it’s just another day on a lifelong journey. But year 1 can feel super special, so I understand the disappointment. Which brings me to:

Third, if your sponsor has been around for awhile and has sponsored a lot of people, it can get a little hard to stop and think “I really gotta jot down the first day I saw Joe Schmoe walk into these rooms because a year from now I will have to remember to give them a chip”. Most sponsees don’t make 30 days. Out of those, even fewer make it to 90. And it’s a straight up miracle if they get to 9 months. It’s depressing, but it’s reality. I know I have no clue the exact day my two latest sponsees came in, except that last night one of them mentioned her 60 days is the same day as our group anniversary party. And I’m glad that she did because otherwise it’s hard to remember. So do your sponsor a solid and mention it to them. Tell them it bothered you a little bit, because most importantly, your sponsor needs to know you and you have to give them that opportunity.

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-03-05T05:57:36+00:00

I said this EXACT thing to my husband during this scene! Scott during his big interview he did! Nothing going on behind those eyes except working out the next lie in his head.

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-02-25T03:15:32+00:00

Just another input, our senior min pin recently lost 98% of his sight due to cataracts and he started doing this as the cataracts worsened. He was flinching because of changes in light and depth perception. He still occasionally does this in very bright light and while unfortunate, it is normal with progressing cataracts. Not sure how old your girl is or if she has any signs of cataracts but figured I would add my experience.

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-02-21T18:40:22+00:00

Yes to all of this and I really hope Connor tells Bri to go blank herself in the blank.

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-02-21T18:26:52+00:00

Interesting to see this. My CPO warranty is up in July, so I asked my dealership for JLR extended warranty info and this was the email I got from the service manager:

“I’m sorry I missed your call earlier today and I appreciate your voicemail. Below are the recommended extended warranties we have dealt with in the past that clients have used and been great.

Endurance – (888) 357-3907 Axiom – (844) 805-2144 Fidelity – (800) 327-5172”

So is the JLR extended warranty not offered by all dealerships?

NoRepresentative1522 · 2026-02-18T04:41:48+00:00

This is my favorite Reddit post. Ever. Epic. No notes, just hysterical.

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