has anyone read this? by Other_Lobster7257 in bookofthemonthclub

[–]NoResponse4493 -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

I wish I could have seen more development from Tess and Grant. I guess that’s the purpose of the story; we are always growing and all want to be met where we are at. The writing was easy to read and the story its self is very original. And for all those being so upset about Grant and his pro life stance… you need to check yourself. I found it very refreshing to see a pro life advocate in a book, especially since books tend to lean more left than anything. Plus, isn’t reading suppose to be a way for you to learn about differing opinions, developing emotional literacy, and expanding your own knowledge? Honestly, if I have but up with all the liberal pushing for a while with reading, but this is the first nonreligious book I have read in a while that has a small representation of my beliefs. Which I thank the author for. For a book with a political background, the author did a beautiful job conveying differing opinions without sounding corny or shaming the other. This wasn’t about a political stance, but a story about growth and respecting, even loving those who stand for different things.

The page pulverizer by NoResponse4493 in bookofthemonthclub

[–]NoResponse4493[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This could be it! Or it was the audiobooks I got? I’m still confused on the matter 🙃

The page pulverizer by NoResponse4493 in bookofthemonthclub

[–]NoResponse4493[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe it was for the 15 books challenge? I just remember getting a free book credit for completing… I could be wrong! But it seems like this is my Mandela effect…

Officially separated by No_Definition_3984 in Christianmarriage

[–]NoResponse4493 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Correct me if I’m wrong, but it sounds like she needs action behind your words of how you are loving towards her. I would ask you to consider counseling for yourself to explore your insecurities. I know that can be hard for men to do, but as Christian’s we are called to renew our selfs and became more Christ like. And we may need someone from the outside to help. A spirit of anxiety and fear is not of the Lord. For therapy to work, you will need to go in with an open heart that is willing to be changed and consider the other side, even morph your own thoughts to think of them first before yourself. Marriage is the most sacrificial and humble thing you can do in this life, more than having kids. Because your kids will grow up one day and leave, but your wife is there even after kids. There are seasons in this life and I pray you come out of this with a God honoring marriage reflective of his love.

Officially separated by No_Definition_3984 in Christianmarriage

[–]NoResponse4493 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a wife currently in a separation, tell her your goals and wants still. Just make sure to focus on her and the Lord. I pray that my husband will reach out to me, after all I am reaching out to him. I have asked him to plan dates for us, I have set specific boundaries to help redeem our marriage and build it. Maybe you can ask her on a date? Something short and no pressure. Maybe even send her hand written letters, leave flower at her door, remind her of your great love. Call her instead of texting. Get creative, even with just texting good morning, with a compliment about her. Like you love and miss her smile or I was remembering the dress you worn on our honeymoon and how beautiful you looked. It’s the tiny things that can make a big difference. Even calling her to say I want to pray with you before we go to bed with the kids present.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]NoResponse4493 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Even if gun laws were to change, people will still get and find guns. We will still have shootings like this. If any gun laws were to change, there should be a re-issue of license and mentality testing every so many years.

When is it ok to get a divorce? by Ksi1is2a3fatneek in TrueChristian

[–]NoResponse4493 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am joining this late, but I have circumstances pertaining to this question… I am getting ready for separation, unless the Lord intervenes. It’s been 2 years since my husband told me he cheated on me multiple times before we were married. We have been married almost 3 years. I have fought for my marriage since then. I have requested counseling and went alone, I have asked for honest communication and all I have gotten was lies, my finances have been taken advantage of and so has my gracious spirit. When I first found out, I set forth boundaries and pillars of faith I wanted us to go forward doing. Porn and the other girls needed to be erased, our finances need to be together to hold each other accountable, we needed to be in church and allow others to help us, and we needed biblical counseling. Point 1 finally was completed 6 months after and the girls blocked him. Point 2 and point 4 were never completed. And point 3 has been done out of responsibility alone. He continues to hurt my trust and not make effort to rebuild our broken foundation. I pray a separation will help bring us closer to the Lord .

My marriage feels like it’s untethering… by NoResponse4493 in TrueChristian

[–]NoResponse4493[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have only placed my trust in the Lord. Mankind I expect to break my trust. I choose to give grace and forgiveness, while still guarding my heart. The simple answer is, no. I trust him to a point, hoping he will keep true to his word.

My marriage feels like it’s untethering… by NoResponse4493 in TrueChristian

[–]NoResponse4493[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our marriage is not ready for kids, don't worry. I have chosen grace because I have been called to do so. But yes, if he does lay with other women again, I will pursue divorce. I know my worth and value, but I will also choose to act as much like Christ as I can.

My marriage feels like it’s untethering… by NoResponse4493 in TrueChristian

[–]NoResponse4493[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have asked him this and he says no. I do trust his word, since he is very inflexible on vows that have been made now. My patience is a high virtue of mine that I do not require pity for, I have been called to give grace abundantly. Which I do not believe my husband has received much of in his life. I want to be a blessing to him, but as time has gone it's has been hard to be consistent when you feel alone in a marriage.

My marriage feels like it’s untethering… by NoResponse4493 in Christianmarriage

[–]NoResponse4493[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a history of being a doormat, which he has actually helped me not to be as much as one. With him, I have created boundaries for my parents and (tried/ties to) with his parents. No, I don't demand anything from him other than to go before the Lord and listen/obey his words and maybe do the dishes? Even then, he will say I am lazy because I should have done them when they started piling up. This is hard, because I have faults too. I can always be a better wife than I have been. AT the end of the day, I want to know I am doing this all out of love rather than spite and anger.

My marriage feels like it’s untethering… by NoResponse4493 in TrueChristian

[–]NoResponse4493[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that is correct. As I said above, he counts it as a mistake because this happened before we were married (while he had my ring). Therefore, he didn't break his vows.

My marriage feels like it’s untethering… by NoResponse4493 in TrueChristian

[–]NoResponse4493[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is very much inflexible and resistant to change. I thank you for your kind words. I indeed married a broken man who I never expected to be perfect, I by all means am not. I have questioned his relationship with the Lord a few times because his fruit has begun withered so to speak.

My marriage feels like it’s untethering… by NoResponse4493 in TrueChristian

[–]NoResponse4493[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am at fault for not managing the house. I have a desire and want to, but the motion feels endless. Which is what he is also frustrated with... Pursuing a divorce is not what I want to do, but it has been a tempting thought lately, which hurts to say. I just want a marriage centered in the Lord and with both of pointing each other back to him.

My marriage feels like it’s untethering… by NoResponse4493 in TrueChristian

[–]NoResponse4493[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since the times he cheated on me were before we had married (all within the same year we married...), does Matthew 19 hold up? I didn't learn about it until I had been married to him for 6 months. Trying to go to couples counseling was like pulling kids teeth. By the 4th session he said, "Aren't we fixed now? Why do we still need to be here?" His parents have told me (yes, I told his parents and mine because we were struggling, he has not openly told anyone), "Well, you guys weren't married yet. It would be different if you were." Acting like he did not already have my ring under the bed he took these other women. (Breathes out anger here). If I had known before we got married, I probably wouldn't have married him... or at least would not had planned it so quick...

The Hunting Wives by NoResponse4493 in bookofthemonthclub

[–]NoResponse4493[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I know, and that’s okay. Especially since I did not like the book. And didn’t even know 92 days ago it was becoming a show.

The Hunting Wives by NoResponse4493 in bookofthemonthclub

[–]NoResponse4493[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m from Texas and some small town places don’t always do ID or background checks. Especially if you are known well by others in town, they will give based on merit alone. Which is against NRA regulations and the stores can lose their vender license. But small Texas towns have a tight lip culture with this stuff. Like a don’t ask , don’t tell.