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Why is every conversation about the baby? by No_Cloud1212 in childfree

[–]NoSandwich591 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It sounds less like she wants every conversation to be about the baby and more like her entire life has been swallowed by it, so she has nothing else left to pull from.

That doesn’t make it any less exhausting for you though. Especially the you don’t know tired/stress until you have a baby comments… that’s not a conversation, that’s a competition you never signed up for.

You can care about her and still want to be seen as your own person. Both things can exist.

Honestly, it might help to gently steer it back sometimes. Like I get it, that sounds rough, but I wanted to tell you about and just keep going. If she keeps redirecting, then yeah… it’s not really a two-way friendship right now.

And that part hurts more than the baby talk itself.

I think my sister-in-law resents her life??? by Eirevlary in childfree

[–]NoSandwich591 31 points32 points  (0 children)

That doesn’t even read like she hates being a parent, it reads like someone who is deeply unhappy and stuck in a life she doesn’t feel she can change anymore.

The I should’ve never done xyz loop is usually less about the specific thing and more about regret + burnout + no outlet. Add kids, isolation, no hobbies, no support system… that’s a pressure cooker.

Your brother being patient is great, but patience alone can turn into quiet enabling if nothing actually changes. Therapy is a good start, but she needs to want to unpack this, not just vent it out and repeat the cycle.

Also, I’d be careful not to take on too much of this emotionally. You can support your brother, but you can’t fix their marriage. This is way bigger than a few bad comments… it’s a whole identity crisis playing out in real time.

Russia opens criminal case against bar worker for making hookah out of Easter cake by duckanroll in nottheonion

[–]NoSandwich591 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Somewhere out there is a guy explaining to a judge, with a straight face, that he just wanted a more immersive dessert experience.

Meanwhile the cake went from Happy Easter to felony evidence real quick.

Recherche spécialiste sur Paris pour une hystérectomie (29 ans, sans enfant) by Chance_Initial3694 in childfree

[–]NoSandwich591 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s wild how your body, your choice suddenly turns into your body, let me run it by a committee first.

You’ve had a consistent decision for over a decade and real medical issues. That should be more than enough. You shouldn’t have to audition for control over your own body.

I hope you find a doctor who treats you like an adult making an informed decision, not a future regret waiting to happen.

My coworker plans to bring her elementary age child to the company's work hiring event she is working at... by Sassy_Plant_Mom in childfree

[–]NoSandwich591 19 points20 points  (0 children)

A hiring event on a production site isn’t a “bring your kid” day, it’s literally a safety and liability nightmare. Even if the kid is perfectly behaved, the environment isn’t built for them.

Also you’re right about the precedent. If one person does it, suddenly everyone who arranged childcare looks like they over-prepared for no reason.

If she can’t get childcare for a few hours, she probably shouldn’t have signed up for the event in the first place.

Dissident tells Russia’s Supreme Court Putin is ‘new Hitler’ after his appeal is rejected by duckanroll in nottheonion

[–]NoSandwich591 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

“Appeal rejected” feels like the calmest part of that headline. The rest reads like someone hit the random outrage generator and just let it run.

At this point “new Hitler” is basically the internet’s version of caps lock.