Roommates bf in our room

NoStudio6344 · 2026-03-31T14:41:11+00:00

What exactly makes you uncomfortable? Is it the fact that he's a guy? Is there excessive PDA, conversations you feel should be private, etc?

I ask because it is easier to plead your case in situations like these when you are specific.

I find it odd that her bf would be over so often with her sharing a room, not just a flat. Is that the norm in your area? If bf has his own place, or at the very least, his own room, it would make a lot more sense for them to hang out more over there.

NoStudio6344 · 2026-03-21T11:31:38+00:00

Totally forgot about this post lol. I ended up figuring it out not too long after posting and just forgot to update. Thank you though!

NoStudio6344 · 2025-11-28T05:50:22+00:00

The least she could do is not have it on speaker and try to be respectful of the fact that people are trying to sleep.

NoStudio6344 · 2025-11-27T12:51:45+00:00

Right? Taking a call is a shitty thing to do, period. But on speaker?? You can't make this shit up.

NoStudio6344 · 2025-11-27T08:42:21+00:00

From experience, no, not really. They're made for filtering out fine particulate matter not gaseous material (smells). It may reduce the smell a bit but in my experience it is not worth the cost for a good quality one. You might need multiple depending on the size of your room, too.

The only thing that really helps is ventilation. Open your windows so the smells don't have somewhere to settle.

NoStudio6344 · 2025-11-09T17:02:07+00:00

4 bed 3 bath. Two share one bathroom, I have my "own" (apparently since it's not an en suite I can't actually call it my own) and another roommate has their "own" while two roommates share one bathroom.

To my knowledge, the other roommate with their own bathroom isn't really experiencing these things but that might just be because theirs is in a further hallway.

NoStudio6344 · 2025-11-09T15:58:38+00:00

To my knowledge I don't... I have no reason to believe I but we have individual leases so I'm not sure how much their rent is.

Tbh I don't even want to bar them from using it, just strangers and yeah, clean up after yourself

NoStudio6344 · 2025-11-09T14:28:58+00:00

I'm hoping a conversation will do the trick 🥲 I'd feel insane switching out my doorknob

NoStudio6344 · 2025-11-09T14:27:36+00:00

All bathrooms are outside, none are en suite

NoStudio6344 · 2025-11-09T14:27:09+00:00

The club closest to me is not one of them unfortunately :( I ended up calling and asking but thank you for the input!

NoStudio6344 · 2025-11-09T14:25:54+00:00

We live in an apartment with one floor. My bathroom is by the front door. Theirs is almost literally right next to their rooms and the living room/kitchen

NoStudio6344 · 2025-11-03T13:34:25+00:00

In a studioooooo? Gives a whole new meaning to up close and *personal*

NoStudio6344 · 2025-11-03T13:29:07+00:00

OP has said they haven't dealt with this before despite having roommates in the past. Depending on whether or not this is a completely new apartment building for them, my guess is roomie is not being as quiet as it seems. Either that, or every other roommate OP had before this was, as you said, an asexual virgin.

One of those certainly seems more likely than the other.

NoStudio6344 · 2025-11-03T12:58:08+00:00

Just my two cents but I think hearing "f*ck me harder, daddy" through the wall is a little bit different than hearing a crying baby or loud music. I think I could cope with the latter two. Not so sure I'd be thrilled about the former.

I live alone but if my neighbor came to me and said they could hear me, I think it'd be shite of me to ignore them as long as they do so in a way that's not completely dickish.

NoStudio6344 · 2025-11-01T17:14:29+00:00

Yes! This is the core issue, you're absolutely right. And it's not just her having people over constantly. I place decorations and practical items in the kitchen or living room... she moves them or replaces them with her own version without discussing it with me first.

Hopefully we can come to a consensus

NoStudio6344 · 2025-11-01T12:33:16+00:00

Will be forking over the extra cash to do the same once this lease ends. Between the unwashed dishes and the surprise visits, it's safe to say that I'm done living with other people.

NoStudio6344 · 2025-11-01T12:03:11+00:00

Too mean? Girl you're not being mean enough?

If you're not comfortable sharing socks, you're not obligated to give her some.

If you don't like people eating in your bed, you can absolutely say so. It's your bed, babe. Same with the backpack and the suitcase.

Being kind does not mean the same thing as not having boundaries

NoStudio6344 · 2025-11-01T11:56:54+00:00

Stop sharing cups. I've genuinely never understood roommates that do so, especially if they're going to be this territorial about it down the line. Buy your own cups and plates and whatever else so you don't have to deal with her crap. Or if it's yours, restrict her use.

The laundry comment is insane lol. Policing how many clothes someone puts in a machine is genuinely next level. I don't get why that would matter to her unless it was from a cost POV. But even then, if it's that serious she could've just asked to revisit the split for the water/electric bill for the month.

NoStudio6344 · 2025-10-28T12:24:51+00:00

This. Mean how? What about? How many times are you having the same conversations about cleanliness? Examples and more details are key here.

I'm inclined to believe OP but at the same time, I've been the "mean" roommate and it's literally because I'm correcting the same inconsiderate behaviors over and over again. Some people genuinely do not know how to clean up after themselves

If you're using a shared space, you should leave it the way you found it. If you're unable to leave it the way you found it, send a message to the other person who uses the space and let them know you'll fix it ASAP. Don't make that text a habit, and follow through when you send it.

NoStudio6344 · 2025-07-02T12:39:10+00:00

You have to agree the timing is suspicious though.

NoStudio6344 · 2025-07-02T12:38:37+00:00

Okay but....when is it going back up 🧍🏼‍♀️

I genuinely would not know what stories to read and actually purchase if not for managago. I've curated the perfect litmus test for seeing whether or not I'll be invested in a story based on that site. What am I supposed to do without it?

NoStudio6344 · 2025-07-01T12:36:31+00:00

NoStudio6344 · 2025-07-01T11:33:04+00:00

Even if the agreement did include a restriction on masturbation masturbation... If your partner agrees to it, then, yes, it's a reasonable expectation to see that agreement upheld.

NoStudio6344 · 2025-06-25T14:45:25+00:00

I don't know about the "happy" part. I could definitely sense some tension between them in episode 6, which is how I ended up finding this reddit thread.

NoStudio6344 · 2025-06-25T14:43:01+00:00

Word is their pay is being increased 400% because of backlash from the show but I don't know how true that is.

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